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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/22/2012 10:14:35 AM

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This is why I insist on face to face interview even if there is distance, if they wont do that I drop them.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/22/2012 11:15:56 AM

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Wow... I just mean wow.. Fake, real, beautiful,'mistress of my life'... So you enjoy emotional rollercoasters? Seems that from the OP you're quite the drama llama, aren't you?

If you really need the 'either or' categories why not just have 'potential' for everything online and 'actual' for anything which happens in real life?

Funny thing about Skype is that not everybody uses it, and those who have it may not want to use it all the time. Sure, it doesn't cost much for a mic and a webcam but then it isn't always 'plug and play' and from a female perspective Skype also has its own dedicated army of trolls (Lord knows what the success rate is for hitting upon selected female screen names)..

Anyway why not worry about whether you've found a Mistress or not when you figure in the real life of a woman and have actually met her?

That way, you won't have to take all this online browsing and searching malarkey quite so seriously.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/22/2012 11:18:09 AM

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OP, if she aint got tits at least the size of your head, kick that bitch to the curb.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/22/2012 12:33:56 PM

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Wow... I just mean wow.. Fake, real, beautiful,'mistress of my life'... So you enjoy emotional rollercoasters? Seems that from the OP you're quite the drama llama, aren't you?

If you really need the 'either or' categories why not just have 'potential' for everything online and 'actual' for anything which happens in real life?

Funny thing about Skype is that not everybody uses it, and those who have it may not want to use it all the time. Sure, it doesn't cost much for a mic and a webcam but then it isn't always 'plug and play' and from a female perspective Skype also has its own dedicated army of trolls (Lord knows what the success rate is for hitting upon selected female screen names)..

Anyway why not worry about whether you've found a Mistress or not when you figure in the real life of a woman and have actually met her?

That way, you won't have to take all this online browsing and searching malarkey quite so seriously.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/22/2012 12:35:01 PM

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OP, if she aint got tits at least the size of your head, kick that bitch to the curb.

to which "head" are you referring, Ron?

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/22/2012 1:14:29 PM

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What's really odd is that she suggested skype.

Would anyone here ever suggest skype, but then balk at showing themselves? Why suggest it in the first place? I don't get it... perhaps she got cold feet, perhaps she's involved.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/22/2012 2:26:43 PM

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What's really odd is that she suggested skype.

Would anyone here ever suggest skype, but then balk at showing themselves? Why suggest it in the first place? I don't get it... perhaps she got cold feet, perhaps she's involved.

From what I know of it... people that do that tend to be men presenting as women, to see other men. Why they don't find the many men willing? I think it is a power play of deceit that they get off on. Like they were so good at what they did, they were able to fool someone and take what they wanted in an un-consensual way.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/22/2012 7:16:21 PM

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I have been messaging back and forth with a really beautiful mistress I found on the site. She had 2 pictures of herself but they seemed rather casual.

She wanted to skype and I agreed thinking she wants to check if I am real. the first time, we skyped she did not show herself and got really offended when I asked her if she could as if I was calling her a liar. I had to run somewhere so it was only 5 minutes anyways so I did not mind.

The next day we agreed to skype again, but she refused again and I told her I cannot skype if she does not show herself. She got really offended and blocked me both on skype and on collarme.

What do you think, was she a fake or did I miss the mistress of my life?

Hm, you saw two pix of her in her profile and wanted even more as proof? Huh? I had friends who could make ANYTHING appear on a computer, and others who could do CGI (they were/are professionals). Unless I meet up with someone in r/t, I guess my trust is way below average.

Another quirk I have... Someone demanding proof via online pix or web camming makes me roll on the floor laughing. I have a "meetup or shut up" policy with people demanding to see pix. I don't respond well to demands from strangers...but...I have also had lots of lovely meetups with people from CM, often at a nearby Wendy's, park, truck stop or parking lot (I like to be walking or sitting down while talking).

A first meetup for coffee with no strings attached should be easy to arrange. The ones who want to keep talking forever, online or over the phone, wanting pix and web camming but are much too shy (insert a multitude of excuses) to meet up in person...I steer clear of that kind of arrangement. Used to, anyway. Found my boy already (here at CM, not at a munch, lol) and we are r/t...and yanno, the first time I suggested a public only meetup he JUMPED at the chance. No excuses of any kind. We had to wait for a seat to become available so we went outside and sat on a bench. He was all tongue tied and nervous, so I took a hair brush out of my purse and asked him if he would like to brush my hair for me (it was past my butt at that time). While he brushed my hair...he found it easier to talk.

Some of us have a laid back attitude, want a nice companion and not just a sex toy to use and abuse...and we will watch carefully to see if we rub well together. Maybe the woman was real, maybe not. A meetup over coffee might have told you all you needed to know...especially if the other person stands you up.

I thought Skype was like using a telephone online...without any video. Am I wrong about this?

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/23/2012 6:57:00 AM

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I thought Skype was like using a telephone online...without any video. Am I wrong about this?[/color]

Roughly the same, except that with Skyping, there are 30987987398756487364 settings to consider.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/25/2012 8:53:30 AM

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I, too, have a policy similar to CWVa's "meet up or shut up." I call it the "meet me or go to hell," policy. lol! If someone can't make the effort to meet me for a coffee, I can't be bothered. I don't chat. I don't have a cam. I don't even like to talk over the phone, at first, except to solidify those plans for coffee.

I have had guys question the veracity of my existence/chromosomal makeup, because I don't supply any other pics, besides my avatar. I mean, seriously, if I were gonna fake being female, wouldn't I use a picture of someone considerably more attractive??? Silliness.

Probably, none of us is that "she" you tried to Skype. So, none of us can say, for fact, what she was thinking. My wild surmise is that she realized it wasn't a fit and bailed. Move on.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/25/2012 4:25:22 PM

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Would anyone here ever suggest skype, but then balk at showing themselves?

I wouldn't. But then I've never brought it up, either Skype or other camming. If someone else brings it up, I either say "No" or "You go first." Normally, though, it's meet in person or just forget it.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/25/2012 8:58:36 PM

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I will agree with CouquarRick

It would be embarrasment for me to be seen on here, my place in the community, those whom know me and
my family!

Precisely

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/26/2012 6:55:24 AM

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I will agree with CouquarRick

It would be embarrasment for me to be seen on here, my place in the community, those whom know me and
my family!

Precisely

If anybody in either of your families or communities and anyone else who knows you sees you here, guess where they've been and how they found out!

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/26/2012 7:19:27 AM

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I will agree with CouquarRick

It would be embarrasment for me to be seen on here, my place in the community, those whom know me and
my family!

Precisely

You know, not to put too fine a point on it, but...you all are kinky.

Being kinky does not make you: Sick or Dirty or Perverted in the negative way that some folks might apply it.

Being kinky is not illegal or immoral or anything to necessarily be hidden, covered up, or be ashamed of.

Part of this journey is accepting and embracing your authentic self.

You don't have to shout it from the rooftops, but it isn't anything to hide from either.

You are kinky - be it, live it, love it.

The world turns on...

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/26/2012 7:59:58 AM

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Thanks, Otters.

I took down my face pics here because I didn't feel like sharing them anymore. I am all over Fetl, and that's just fine with me. If my clients are pervy and they see me, they get the excitement of knowing they have a pervy CPA. I am not running for any political office, and I am not a member of the public clergy. I don't wave my sadistic flag everywhere for all to see, because it's my PRIVATE LIFE. I am not interested in sharing it with random strangers, or people I am not likely to see in a kink venue. It's not their business, any more than what they get up to in their homes is any of my business.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/26/2012 8:16:28 AM

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I agree LadyH that there are places where it is appropriate and places where it has no place. Certainly individual life circumstances must dictate what level of openness is given.

What I am opposed to is that feeling inside that somehow WIIWD is dirty, immoral, or wrong - and that thereby there is something wrong with us because we feel this way, and are here on CM participating in something that is and should be positive, healthy, consensual, and fun!

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/26/2012 8:23:00 AM

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I don't think that what we do is "dirty", but I think many are in the scene because they are attracted to the taboo. Have you ever run across discussions along the lines of "would you be in the scene if it was mainstream?" Transgressivness has its own thrills.

I don't live in a bible belt area, I am not a xtian or deist, I am not fighting a tradition where I believed that anything was inherently shameful. One of the joys of being an edge person! Not everyone is coming from that place, though.

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