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What do you say? - 6/17/2012 5:51:02 PM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		I said something about this in a thread while ago and it got Me to thinking. What do you tell people if they ask?

We always get asked if the girls are our children. One of them looks like she could be, she looks very baby faced and her skin color looks as if she could be mixed. So we get that all the time. Just wondering what everyone else says. This would probably be geared more towards poly families (might should post this there instead) as a Domme and sub could look like a regular couple.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/17/2012 6:14:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		We're not poly so there's not other women with us when we go out. There have been a couple of times though where someone thought I was Master's daughter even though we're only 5 years apart and no he doesn't look older than he is. I just look extremely young and most people think I'm about 23, 25 when in actuality I'm 40. Then they just look at me flabbergasted and then apologize. lol.



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RE: What do you say? - 6/17/2012 6:41:01 PM   
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RE: What do you say? - 6/17/2012 7:09:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		We said that at first, but I guess we are at a point where we don't care how people perceive it. It's the beginning stages of us telling people. Well let Me say this, we live in midtown Memphis, the area is very open, artsy, young and accepting. So we aren't worried about society's judgmental expressions so much.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/17/2012 7:15:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I came out as polyamorous to my mother two nights ago. I did have to explain it to her and we got off on a tangent about polygamy and Big Love. Having already come out as kinky in 2004 and bi in 1999, it went well, in fact, she was falling asleep, lol.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/17/2012 11:44:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		My mother knows that I fin Domme males but she doesn't know about My family. They are southern conservative baptists, she actually looked pissy about the Fin Domming until I explained how I do it. Even then, she was a bit meh about it.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 1:04:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I had the girls here people would ask what the deal was. I just said We were dating and left it at that. It's not anyone's buissiness unless we chose to make it so. The girls lost a couple of friends here and there, but for the most part everyone was very understanding and accepting. Thier parents were even accepting, although it took some time and a lot of communication and overcoming thier concerns. We managed though. It's what you make it to be. If you aren't ashamed of it and people see that you are happy, especially friends and relatives, they come around. And if they don't, fuck 'em.


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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 1:11:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		That's exactly how we feel. When the waitress said she didn't understand what a quouple was, we said "we are all together in a relationship". I think she understood it,lol. We feel that our life right now is what makes us happy and if others don't like it, they don't have to associate with us. No sleep lost. I'm thinking I should have posted this in the poly section, so more folks could give some input. I will tell you it feels so awesome to say what we are. Instead of having to cover things up. We used to live in Olive branch, Ms...and it is a small red neck, southern, everybody is in your business, town. So Me and hubs didn't think it was a good idea to share out lifestyle with others. Now that we can, it's awesome.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 8:14:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		Being a mixed race couple in MS must have been more than enough to o.O folks!

I dunno, I don't feel compelled to explain my life to strangers. Are those your daughters? NO. Asked and answered.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 10:28:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yea, it was hard enough in MS. We always got some sort of looks and reaction. I can remember a time when we would take our dogs to the park and get things yelled out to us. I am glad now it isn't like that. Well at least not for us, unless we go back down to Jackson.

People here must be more nosey than people there. If I say "NO" they will say, " oh just his kids?". They do it in a polite way but it's like they want to know. Part of Me wanted to tell them so I could shock them into heart attack but......naaa.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 4:59:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		i don't have kids, giving my opinion here...

i think that's a rude question, esp from strangers. i would answer "of course" and smile.

for friends and acquaintances, i would say "of course", but follow with "in every way, except by blood".

btw - i'm assuming you adopted mixed race kids?

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 5:04:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		We had 19 year old with us for awhile. I used to just tell 'Nillas that we were mentoring her.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 5:16:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		why on earth did you feel the need to describe your relationship to a waitress? why don't you understand why a waitress would struggle with the term "quouple"? it isn't a real word.
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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

That's exactly how we feel. When the waitress said she didn't understand what a quouple was, we said "we are all together in a relationship". I think she understood it,lol. We feel that our life right now is what makes us happy and if others don't like it, they don't have to associate with us. No sleep lost. I'm thinking I should have posted this in the poly section, so more folks could give some input. I will tell you it feels so awesome to say what we are. Instead of having to cover things up. We used to live in Olive branch, Ms...and it is a small red neck, southern, everybody is in your business, town. So Me and hubs didn't think it was a good idea to share out lifestyle with others. Now that we can, it's awesome.



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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 5:43:20 PM   
TNDommeK


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Sweetie, no one is trying hard. It is just something we don't mind sharing, or hiding for that matter. And I'm quite aware "quouple" isn't a word. It's called a funny play on words, where you mix two words up to make one. You should try chillaxing, see what I did there?

Karm, no, no kids. My husband has two female slaves. They are 22 and 23, everyone asks if they are our kids...I was wondering what others would say in this position. We simply told the truth.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 5:50:13 PM   
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Karm, no, no kids. My husband has two female slaves. They are 22 and 23, everyone asks if they are our kids...I was wondering what others would say in this position. We simply told the truth.

oooo! :)

i would still have fun with it, and say "yes", and then snap my fingers, which means they both bow their heads.

freak the nillas out ;)

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 5:54:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		Haa, yea that might be funny.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 6:14:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Haa, yea that might be funny.

yes, just make it clear you're all laughing AT the waitress, and not the subs (unless of course, y'all into public humiliation)

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 6:21:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		TNDommeK,be glad it was Olive Branch and not Hernando or Nesbit.I know mid-town Memphis very well,I used to work over there and you could see just about anything in mid-town...including the mid 6' tall crossdresser in a short red dress with a large beard[think ZZTOP style].Mid-town is a nice place,I used to hit Overton Square when it was the hot spot.Glad you found the right spot for you and yours.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 6:30:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks, you're so right, Nesbit would be a bit more intolerable to our lifestyle. Hell Mississippi all together is just sooo fucking back in time! lol.

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RE: What do you say? - 6/18/2012 6:37:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Could try they are my cousins and staying with me while going to school.

Don't really know. I have never been in that situation before

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