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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 6/21/2012 8:23:35 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Even if i was not with Master and i had a cam (which i dont) i would not cam with a stranger.  Phone calls i   am kinda wary about i giveout my cell not my home number if i do so at all.  And  i have o Im with someone a while before i even think of givint out my number.

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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 6/21/2012 3:50:37 PM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: poise
I'm guilty! Sometimes, I'll answer the phone and I have no idea who is on the other end.

LOLOLOL... exactly what I was thinking.


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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 6/21/2012 3:53:37 PM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake
I wonder how many folks I have outraged because I don't have a cam.

Me for one! I'm deeply outraged at your lack of common courtesy in not having a cam. Judging from what I read here, it also makes you a fake so I'm not assuming you're a real tiger anymore. You're probably just some human masquerading as a tiger.


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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 6/21/2012 5:44:50 PM   
MercTech


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Status: offline 		The last time I cammed, it was with someone that wanted to see how my chain mail hat band was made.
So, on yahooey chat, I turned on the cam and held up the hat for close inspection.

I'm seeing an idea that "cam" is something voyeuristic here. Just making the point that it is "not necessarily so".

I use skype extensively to chat with people and use the cam function if there is something under discussion that needs a visual.

As to kinky camming, sigh, if I can't touch, smell, and taste, it just doesn't do a lot for me.

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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 6/29/2012 7:43:12 AM   
LadyDragonJade


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Status: offline 		I do ask any potential for a video verification. I see them and they see me. Nothing kinky happens. I decided to do this ever since I have met several people who are not exactly the way they presented themselves online. Old pics. Wrong gender. Some hoping that I will like their personality enough to disregard those things. Some never even show up. It's just one way for me to weed out people. Mind you, this is not fool-proof, but its a start.


First time posting in the forums. I just saw I'm "vanilla". Hmmm... I need to change that.

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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 6/29/2012 7:52:09 AM   
GreedyTop


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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 6/29/2012 7:54:14 AM   
LadyDragonJade


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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 6/29/2012 7:56:03 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 6/29/2012 4:26:22 PM   
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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/17/2012 5:49:15 PM   
Abbess


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Status: offline 		I hardly use my webcam with people I know, let alone strangers. Even then its never to do any "cybering" or such activities. You have to be careful. People can record your voice and your video footage and post it elsewhere. Internet creeps do the creep-ah.

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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/18/2012 4:31:23 AM   
crazyml


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ORIGINAL: AnastasiaSteele

I sounds like Hamlet. But I find this to be a tricky area for me, maybe some of you as well.
I was talking to a Dom who was all inflated by his ego. He insisted that I call him Sir because of my D/s experience. Okay I had no problem with that. But when we started talking in general about bs stuff we wound up talking about what I like, which is very kink fuckery ala E L James.


Aww c'mon... calling an asshat stranger "Sir" because he insists isn't helping him come to terms with his ass-hattery, now is it?

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When I asked him what he was into he said you'll have to find out. SERIOUSLY- the man was not charming or smooth because my flew on the bullshit meter within the first 10 sec. I don't remember, but I am pretty sure that saying hello and having a light conversation doesn't constitute an act giving my submission.

So he pop off line and says he could always allow me to top him.. YEAH I laughed. I figured that was the end of conversation with Mr. God Gift to Domination. But he reared his misguided head again.


Ah... you'll do fine, your bullshit-o-meter seems to be functioning

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He asked why didn't I contact him when I seen he signed on.. My response was " I deleted your contact information because I felt we had nothing more to say. His response was he had to leave in a hurry "family emergency"(break the code) So then he asked me if I would voice and cam with him. I flatly said NO.


Excellent. I'm thinking you have this shit pretty much covered.

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He asked why, I said If I voice it would be non d/s and there definitely would be no cam.
His seemed outrage that I wouldn't cam. He said " it seems like you don't trust me" My mind is racing with though of is this guy the biggest tool here. my response was" Of course I don't trust you, I don't know you. I would never put myself in a position to have my image plaster on the web by some stranger, who can take 3 minutes to know me.. which included knowing each others name.


Sorted!

quote:


So have you Cam or voice/cam with a stranger?


Ah... well it depends on what you mean by "stranger". Most of my interactions move to voice and then sometimes voice and cam if it looks like it's leading to a meeting. If an interaction doesn't look like it's leading to a meeting then nope.

The decision to cam/voice is yours, and if you're looking for the kinda chap who'd respect the fact that you won't cam/voice till you've at least got to know eachother, then in a way, the jackasses are doing you a favour by flying off the handle.

But... I get the impression that you know this... Seems to me that you've got a head on your shoulders, and a good sense for bullshit

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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/18/2012 5:28:26 AM   
xLaChienne


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Status: offline 		Cam? No, not with a stranger.

Voice? I have. Often. Likely will again soon. I've called some people after a couple of messages and others after weeks or months. Depends on My inclination.
The majority of folks have been very fun and decent to talk to. At times leading to face to face meet. A few weren't. As it's easy to create a number to use though various apps and likewise easy to block someone, it works well for Me as a screening tool.

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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/18/2012 5:38:23 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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I don't have a cam, and I don't give my phone number out to strangers from the internet.

Recently I've been looking for a service sub; so far none have managed to get to the point I would give them my phone number. One came close, then started getting flaky.

For you female subs: I have heard on very good authority that the desktop doms have certain "goals" they like to reach, and compete for, such as how soon can I get her to call me Sir? How soon can I get a g-rated pic? How soon can I get her to call me Master? How soon can I get her to cam (g-rated). How soon can I get an x-rated pic?

Do you see a trend here, OP?

Look for someone who is not interested in rushing you into things. Instant power dynamics exist only in fantasy.



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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/18/2012 6:06:37 AM   
crazyml


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

For you female subs: I have heard on very good authority that the desktop doms have certain "goals" they like to reach, and compete for, such as how soon can I get her to call me Sir? How soon can I get a g-rated pic? How soon can I get her to call me Master? How soon can I get her to cam (g-rated). How soon can I get an x-rated pic?

Do you see a trend here, OP?



I'm not doubting you for a second... but.... sigh.


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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/18/2012 1:31:59 PM   
ChatteParfaitt


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From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana
Status: offline 		I spent over five years as an online DJ in BDSM chatrooms, mostly on IRC but for a few months on CM.

Yeah, it's like the high school version of notches on the bedpost, a la BDSM.

<shares your sigh>


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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/18/2012 1:36:17 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Wow. It took me less than two minutes to get one of my facebook friends to share his personal accoutrement.

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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/18/2012 1:36:25 PM   
MsGypsey


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Status: offline 		Whatever happened to IRC? Do people mIRC anymore?

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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/18/2012 1:50:12 PM   
ChatteParfaitt


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Wow. It took me less than two minutes to get one of my facebook friends to share his personal accoutrement.

I WIN THE INTERWEBS!!!


<polishes Hibbie's tiara>

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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/18/2012 1:53:17 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: To CAM or Voice that is the question - 7/18/2012 8:11:25 PM   
SWDesertDom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt
For you female subs: I have heard on very good authority that the desktop doms have certain "goals" they like to reach, and compete for, such as how soon can I get her to call me Sir? How soon can I get a g-rated pic? How soon can I get her to call me Master? How soon can I get her to cam (g-rated). How soon can I get an x-rated pic?

Do you see a trend here, OP?

Look for someone who is not interested in rushing you into things. Instant power dynamics exist only in fantasy.


Desktop doms, ruining the BDSM online scene for the rest of us, sigh...

I kind of consider any x-rated pics an alert signal, not an accomplishment.

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