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Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 6:57:59 AM   
UsableSexSlave


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Status: offline 		Hi, I am new to the site and was wondering what the correct protocol is when finding out about people for possible meets with my Sub. I’m not one for time wasting so I like to get the basics out of the way before we begin. So I like to ask which suburb they are in and the line of work they do and what do they need to do with her to get themselves off. This does help me in my selection and if talks go well? I am going to ask for a face pic.
Is this so wrong to ask for more details from the person who may and come to train my sub than what I am sharing? I see it as I’m choosing her new trainer so we do it my way and if you pass everything you get a good prize at the end. At the end of the day we are here for the sex and the person we have chosen still can say no at the coffee shop meet.
I can assure you that if you’ve not the one we are looking for you are forgotten about in seconds and we don’t care who you were, only you weren’t for us and we wasted time, next.
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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:00:09 AM   
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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:02:40 AM   
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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:02:55 AM   
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I’m choosing her new trainer so we do it my way


The above seriously makes no sense to me. Wouldn't you train her to do it your way?

As for the protocol in meeting people, I think number one rule would be get to know them well enough to know your sub is gonna be safe with them, if you are gonna loan her out.



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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:10:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, I'd be seriously put off by someone asking me "what do (I) need to do with her to get themselves off" before even meeting and finding out if there is even any chemistry.


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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:18:39 AM   
JstAnotherSub


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Status: offline 		Me too Greedy, but, this aint about us and chemistry yanno! It is about getting someone to train her to do things the way he wants it done. I think. I don't really fucking know.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:21:16 AM   
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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:21:41 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		You ain't getting pertinent personal info until I sit down and eyeball ya, face to face.
I don't give out real personal shit, or stuff that can be used to trace me, online to strangers, and if they don't like that they can pound sand. Just as they have a right to protect themselves, so do I.
It's that simple.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:27:57 AM   
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Ok, she is not been loaned out but wanting to get some to come and help me train her and also so I can watch the training. She has just submitted all her life to me (Not so much in a hardcore BDSM way) and now I'm wanting some proper training to take her down to Slave and have her act like one

Tough crowd tonight but yes it's what this new trainer is doing with her that will get me off and think it is a very clear understanding that if she is going to be trained by him, she can deliver, hopefully just.





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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

quote:

I’m choosing her new trainer so we do it my way


The above seriously makes no sense to me. Wouldn't you train her to do it your way?

As for the protocol in meeting people, I think number one rule would be get to know them well enough to know your sub is gonna be safe with them, if you are gonna loan her out.




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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:29:17 AM   
GreedyTop


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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:35:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		You'll get lots of replies from horny guys claiming to be Doms, but I think anyone with the experience you seek is going to be put off by your me-me-me attitude. You are basically looking for a Dom for your kink fulfillment.

You might have better luck if you get to know people off line rather than through an ad. Lots of kinky events and groups in Melbourne: https://fetlife.com/search?q=Melbourne

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:37:50 AM   
UsableSexSlave


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Status: offline 		Sorry Frazzle but we have had many offers but looking for the right one. We do have our MFM vids on FL
We all see things different and after different things.



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Joined today and hasn't got a million and 1 offers!!!! Wonder why.


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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:46:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		i suspect you'll be flooded with wankers who try to tell you they have forty years experience. Ask for references, and to meet them at local functions. Some will be scared shitless to be with locals, due to having a horrible rep, and some will be terrified at stepping away from their computer. Your goal is to separate the pretenders from those who are active.

And yeah, STD results.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 7:54:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		In my world it is normal for a sex & play date on first meet to exchange contact info prior to meeting. Name, address & a verifiable phone number in your name and registered to your address.

Upon meeting, you both confirm identity by showing your drivers license. Then swap STD test result papers if fluid exchange is expected.

And don't forget:



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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 8:03:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think the best way to start is by being completely honest in what you are searching for.
What you are asking for here and in your profile doesn't match what your wife is looking for on hers.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 8:04:26 AM   
UsableSexSlave


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Status: offline 		I do admit there is a bit of me-me-me in there but thats only becuase I want to know what she is in for and will it satisfy me enough. I have watched and joined in to help other men having sex with her and although it was very stimulating!! the after effects went quickly

Not having a go at anyone (as some have been able to) but had a few of them fall short. Hate history repeating and if your fucking her in a normal enviroment (not BDSM) at least make her cum.

I want it done right this time as we are trying out BDSM, so yes it's a bit me-me as last time all I said was, "your up" :-)




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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

You'll get lots of replies from horny guys claiming to be Doms, but I think anyone with the experience you seek is going to be put off by your me-me-me attitude. You are basically looking for a Dom for your kink fulfillment.

You might have better luck if you get to know people off line rather than through an ad. Lots of kinky events and groups in Melbourne: https://fetlife.com/search?q=Melbourne



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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 8:17:57 AM   
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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 8:35:59 AM   
Winterapple


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Status: offline 		You're looking for a guy to fuck your wife while you watch. It's murky from your post if you
want to do more than watch.
Meet someone and try to evaluate if
they are reasonably sane. Then think
about STD testing and such.
If you want some going in knowledge
about his technique and ability as if he
has in video of himself in action to share.
And he wouldn't be training your wife he'd
be fucking her.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 9:12:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am not trying to be rude nor dense, but can you please explain to me how having someone else fuck your wife will either turn her into a slave or further her training in becoming one?


I am slave to my Master.

Relationships are defined by the people in them and not by what one sees on internet (or any other variety of) porn.

In our relationship, slavery is about obedience, it is not just about kinky sex.

[my] Master trained me to please Him.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 1:26:15 PM   
AnimusRex


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Status: offline 		OP, its a tough crowd because what you are doing is using ideas about "training" that come out of an erotic novel, where the Queen summons a male slave to train Beauty in how to fuck or something.

In other words, you are bullshitting folks who live this stuff.

What you want, it seems, is the erotic pleasure of watching your wife get spanked and fucked by other guys, while you watch or join in.

Great! Lots of people are into this. Why not just say so?

What you will find is when you take ordinary sexual desires, and dress them up in the fancy clothes of some mysterious "training" and "pushing boundaries" you sound like the other 45,587 guys who strut around these parts hiding their horny desires behind the veil of exotic romance.

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