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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 1:43:20 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Why would anyone want other people to be their check and balance in something they have done for fifteen years... a hundred times? Even with a new aspect, don't you have some foundation of being adult, life experience and such that when you come to a new web site, you still can hang on to and handle yourself without the input of others? What can we say that will do anything at all for you? We can't make you comfortable in how you process things. You can't figure something this simple out? What the fuck have you been doing all these years if you need such elementary advice?

Attention seeking tends to backfire when people call you on the ignorance and vent you are providing us to work with.

You don't want a tough crowd... figure it out.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 2:35:46 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: UsableSexSlave


Ok, she is not been loaned out but wanting to get some to come and help me train her and also so I can watch the training. She has just submitted all her life to me (Not so much in a hardcore BDSM way) and now I'm wanting some proper training to take her down to Slave and have her act like one


You're delusional.


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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 2:54:09 PM   
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Hey, I didn't dress anything up and you will find I have posted comments that I dont even know what we are or never claimed it.

I have said we are new and never tried to hide I am cuckold or what I want.

Yes I want someone to meet up with us, take my wife and abuse her while I watch and join in. I want her punished, restrained, forced to do what the hardline Dom wants. See her crawl across the floor and then beg to suck his cock and take objects etc. After she has been finished with and presented back to me more than abused then she is to preform for me. Maybe not textbook BDSM but seems to come under BDSM?

I also want her trained in Sensory Deprivation etc and do not have the knowledge so if I get someone in and watch how a well knowledge Dom can get the most out of her then we are well on our way.




quote:

ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

OP, its a tough crowd because what you are doing is using ideas about "training" that come out of an erotic novel, where the Queen summons a male slave to train Beauty in how to fuck or something.

In other words, you are bullshitting folks who live this stuff.

What you want, it seems, is the erotic pleasure of watching your wife get spanked and fucked by other guys, while you watch or join in.

Great! Lots of people are into this. Why not just say so?

What you will find is when you take ordinary sexual desires, and dress them up in the fancy clothes of some mysterious "training" and "pushing boundaries" you sound like the other 45,587 guys who strut around these parts hiding their horny desires behind the veil of exotic romance.


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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 2:56:51 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		so basically you're seeking to be a cuckold.

There are lots available more than willing to do that.


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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 3:10:47 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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Status: offline 		I could never understand why a Dom would want someone else to "train" his slave. Who knows better than you how you like things done? Strange.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 3:13:47 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		From what i gather he's not looking for someone to "train" his wife. He's just looking to get off while someone fucks her which is basically cuckolding from what I understand of cuckolding.



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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 3:18:50 PM   
Lockit


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UsableSexSlave


Hey, I didn't dress anything up and you will find I have posted comments that I dont even know what we are or never claimed it.

I have said we are new and never tried to hide I am cuckold or what I want.

Yes I want someone to meet up with us, take my wife and abuse her while I watch and join in. I want her punished, restrained, forced to do what the hardline Dom wants. See her crawl across the floor and then beg to suck his cock and take objects etc. After she has been finished with and presented back to me more than abused then she is to preform for me. Maybe not textbook BDSM but seems to come under BDSM?

I also want her trained in Sensory Deprivation etc and do not have the knowledge so if I get someone in and watch how a well knowledge Dom can get the most out of her then we are well on our way.




quote:

ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

OP, its a tough crowd because what you are doing is using ideas about "training" that come out of an erotic novel, where the Queen summons a male slave to train Beauty in how to fuck or something.

In other words, you are bullshitting folks who live this stuff.

What you want, it seems, is the erotic pleasure of watching your wife get spanked and fucked by other guys, while you watch or join in.

Great! Lots of people are into this. Why not just say so?

What you will find is when you take ordinary sexual desires, and dress them up in the fancy clothes of some mysterious "training" and "pushing boundaries" you sound like the other 45,587 guys who strut around these parts hiding their horny desires behind the veil of exotic romance.






In your first post of this thread, you said your wife was your sub.

You may not know what you're talking about or titles. That's okay, you really don't have to be a title. However, when you use words that you don't understand or try to say something in the manner you are phrasing them in, without coming straight out and saying what you mean... don't be upset when people don't understand you.

You want to be a cuck. You want someone to train her and do it all to turn you on or for the high. Okay... a cuck doesn't normally come by way of being a dominant... but I have seen it. You want someone to train her as a slave... so she will act like one. Okay... that tends to come by way of her dominant and therefore she isn't your sub if you want someone else to make her a slave so she will act right. Do you see the conflict here? It shouldn't take two pages of a thread to get to the real story if you wish to get positive assistance.

Bottom line, you decide how you will interact with prospects, whether they be dominant or submissive. Until they mean something to you, how you meet people has nothing to do with anyone but you and your wife. Forget others protocol or romancing the lifestyle. Seek what you want and you determine how you accomplish that.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 3:22:59 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I think people would get a better picture of what this guy is looking for if they read his other post on here.


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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 3:35:07 PM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		After watching the thread twist and turn, I wonder if he knows what he is doing? Maybe there is a bit of confusion between reality and fantasy? Can't this be put in 25 words or less?

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 3:50:13 PM   
kalikshama


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quote:

I have said we are new and never tried to hide I am cuckold or what I want.


You are sending different messages on your various threads.

That is why we are here. We have just about done every fetish, MFM, MMFM, public, 100 other more etc and still looking.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 3:51:15 PM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		This was very well put:

quote:

ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

OP, its a tough crowd because what you are doing is using ideas about "training" that come out of an erotic novel, where the Queen summons a male slave to train Beauty in how to fuck or something.

In other words, you are bullshitting folks who live this stuff.

What you want, it seems, is the erotic pleasure of watching your wife get spanked and fucked by other guys, while you watch or join in.

Great! Lots of people are into this. Why not just say so?

What you will find is when you take ordinary sexual desires, and dress them up in the fancy clothes of some mysterious "training" and "pushing boundaries" you sound like the other 45,587 guys who strut around these parts hiding their horny desires behind the veil of exotic romance.



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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 9:25:44 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I'm really in agreement with Kana here. If you started asking Me for personal info on the first couple of contacts, I'd leave you dry. To be fair, I'm a chick and I get "invited in" on a fairly regular basis. If you are more hassle than I'm willing to deal with, or you are scripting what I will do during "training"...... That's not going to work with Me.

You're asking somebody to play a certain role for you. That's great, if you can find someone to do it.

I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors.



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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/23/2012 9:45:47 PM   
subcurious12


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Status: offline 		This poster makes me feel so much better about being single. I've read his question three times and still can't figure out what on earth he's asking.

My only advice is if you're looking for someone to 'hardline Dom' your wife so you can 'turn her into a slave' for christ's sake use your brain and realize that SAFETY and not a freaking face pic should be your primary concern. And yes, STD screen is a must.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/24/2012 12:46:57 AM   
joeljch


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Status: offline 		I never understand why here we only get moral lessons instead of replies to the questions. Why do you want others think as yourself! Please respect thinking freedom of each! And if you don't like the question, be quiet, don't impose your own moral!

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/24/2012 12:55:55 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		dude, it's a public forum. we are all entitled to voice our opinions (within TOS).

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/24/2012 1:39:43 AM   
Winterapple


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Status: offline 		Yeah, pointing out the importance of STD tests to
people who are thinking about having sex with
people they meet off the Internet is so
self righteous .

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/24/2012 4:03:57 AM   
joeljch


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Status: offline 		Excuse me, I was only talking about respect and freedom to think!

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/24/2012 4:23:42 AM   
mons


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I find what you want to do to this woman is strange!
You want someone to come and do what they want, no matter what so you can be turn on!

What does she says, you never mention this at all! You must be so careful, you just want just anyone
come and use her with "things" then you will take what is left of her?

You wish to have someone beat her also! Your the type who wishes for all of a fantasy!
But none of the reality!

STD'S , AIDS, you must think and care of your safety and hers!

Check everyone out, their are so wild people out there, please be safe!

mons

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/24/2012 8:20:38 AM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UsableSexSlave
Ok, she is not been loaned out but wanting to get some to come and help me train her and also so I can watch the training. She has just submitted all her life to me (Not so much in a hardcore BDSM way) and now I'm wanting some proper training to take her down to Slave and have her act like one

So you are asking for someone to come and participate in some kinky 3 way scene with you and your wife. I agree with Kana. Information should be offered up by both parties at the same speed. Both parties, if they care about such things, have a reasonable right to protection. The only way that changes is if you find some trainer who is out already so personal privacy doesn't really matter.

I wouldn't answer questions about my job anyway on account of rudeness -- not until you could explain what that's got to do with this fantasy training your hoping to setup. You want a kinky scene. You don't need employment references.

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RE: Correct protocol in meeting people - 6/24/2012 6:56:11 PM   
Karmastic


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

You'll get lots of replies from horny guys claiming to be Doms, but I think anyone with the experience you seek is going to be put off by your me-me-me attitude. You are basically looking for a Dom for your kink fulfillment.

You might have better luck if you get to know people off line rather than through an ad. Lots of kinky events and groups in Melbourne: https://fetlife.com/search?q=Melbourne

^THIS

i would add my own thoughts...

it appears that she's not the one that "needs training". yes, she needs to be trained. but really, you're asking to be trained yourself, so that YOU can train her the way you want it. i.e., you may learn techniques, methods, tricks, and such from this person. but YOU need to be your own Dom.

i would approach from this perspective - seek out a Dom to train YOU, not her. a pro Dom might even a good option for your special needs.

re cuckolding, or joining in - that's kinda just kink.


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