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The population of Super-Doms is pretty small to begin with, and if you are holding out only for one of them... good luck, you better be the perfect sub.

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TNTDommeK:

h3ll0 thi$ i$ K3llz.

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ORIGINAL: AurumCaminus

This is just another example of how raging against the clueless in profile text winds up being completely counterproductive.

Yeah, all you women get flooded with messages of exceptionally low quality by males who demonstrate their complete hopelessness at every turn.

However, in order to see your rant about how much you don't want to talk to them, they would have to actually read your profile text to begin with, which you already know that they aren't doing in the first place.

Stupid people, fakes, liars, and other undesirables are not deterred by such things. And if they were, do you actually want to inform them how to get you to take them seriously?

The only guys who are deterred, are the simple regular guys who are self aware enough to realize that they aren't perfect, have flaws, make mistakes, and typically get dismissed out of hand for not living up to some unrealistic ideal.

The population of Super-Doms is pretty small to begin with, and if you are holding out only for one of them... good luck, you better be the perfect sub.

If, however, you are also one of those flawed, imperfect, actual human beings, then your rants against the idiots are only going to discourage the very population of guys that you are most likely to find a compatible match with.

Ignoring the stupid people involves genuinely ignoring them, not filling your profile text with rants about how much you hate them. Even worse is to send them messages blasting them for their stupidity, which is only giving them the attention that they want to begin with, thus rewarding bad behaviour.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I'm a firm believer that posting negative things in your profile backfires. The people who you're railing against ignore it.....and the people you actually want to meet are turned off by the rant.

That said, I truly think you should lay out what you're looking for, be specific and don't settle. Yes, some idiots will always think they're the exception, but your chances are much better when you focus on the positive.

I'll also add that I think I found a "super Dom". He's an amazing human being.....and I'm far from perfect.

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ORIGINAL: AurumCaminus

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
I'll also add that I think I found a "super Dom". He's an amazing human being.....and I'm far from perfect.

And I'm sure that your idea of a super Dom does not include being a mind reading sparkly vampire.

Having a good idea about what you really want and expecting to live in fantasy land are two completely different things.

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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

Where did that come from?

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ORIGINAL: AurumCaminus

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I'm a firm believer that posting negative things in your profile backfires. The people who you're railing against ignore it.....and the people you actually want to meet are turned off by the rant.

That said, I truly think you should lay out what you're looking for, be specific and don't settle. Yes, some idiots will always think they're the exception, but your chances are much better when you focus on the positive.

I'll also add that I think I found a "super Dom". He's an amazing human being.....and I'm far from perfect.

And I'm sure that your idea of a super Dom does not include being a mind reading sparkly vampire.

Having a good idea about what you really want and expecting to live in fantasy land are two completely different things.

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ORIGINAL: AurumCaminus

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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

Where did that come from?

From the fact that the book "50 Shades of Grey" originally started out as "Twilight" fan fiction.

And that I keep seeing more and more profiles saying how they are looking for Christian Grey.

Or some such other absurd expectation of what a "True Dom" is.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

After nearly 12 1/2 years together.....yeah, it's really close to mind reading.

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ORIGINAL: mons

The book is so good, what if there is a man like this out there?

Let everyone have this dream, it does no harm to anyone!

But always be careful when you meet anyone!

What kind makes any type of dominant person? Many of us have things that
have made us this way, it is true!

mons ( I have my own nightmares as to why I am who I am)

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: AurumCaminus

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I'm a firm believer that posting negative things in your profile backfires. The people who you're railing against ignore it.....and the people you actually want to meet are turned off by the rant.

That said, I truly think you should lay out what you're looking for, be specific and don't settle. Yes, some idiots will always think they're the exception, but your chances are much better when you focus on the positive.

I'll also add that I think I found a "super Dom". He's an amazing human being.....and I'm far from perfect.

And I'm sure that your idea of a super Dom does not include being a mind reading sparkly vampire.

Having a good idea about what you really want and expecting to live in fantasy land are two completely different things.

After nearly 12 1/2 years together.....yeah, it's really close to mind reading.

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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

Wow. Am I the only one on these boards that hasn't read that book?

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Wow. Am I the only one on these boards that hasn't read that book?

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

~ Fast Reply ~

I don't really care about grammar or lack of grammar in others. If someone's lack of grammar has exceeded my lack-of-grammar-tolerance, I've moved on. I don't move on with some notion that the person is stupid or unqualified; just that I don't want to spend an excessive amount of effort trying to decipher what they've written.

There are two men in my life whose grammar is not great - my brother, and the Mister. Both of these men are smart, loving, beautiful human beings whom I'd give the world to (or for the serious grammar nazis, "to whom I'd give the world."

There have been a lot of things said in this thread that I could find offensive, if I chose to. On both sides of the argument. But the question I ask myself is whether or not it's worth my energy. In this case, it's not. As with most things that weigh too lightly against the bigger and more important areas of my life, I form opinions about what is said and the people who have said them, and I move on.

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ORIGINAL: AurumCaminus
And I'm sure that your idea of a super Dom does not include being a mind reading sparkly vampire.

Having a good idea about what you really want and expecting to live in fantasy land are two completely different things.

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You mean like being intelligent enough to know the difference between "your" and "you're"?

Personally, I wanted someone that was intelligent and able to communicate regardless of the method.

Here's part two of that whole thing: How long does it take to go back and proof read what you've written? A minute maybe? You're saying that you're unwilling to spend an extra minute to be concerned about how you're viewed. It's about effort. And I'm not willing to be with someone that doesn't make the effort.

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ORIGINAL: MariaB

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Grammar Nazis are just a silly bunch of pseudo intellectuals that are far more interested in proofreading someone else’s work and carefully pointing out every grammatical error than engaging with the content that post or profile is trying to convey.
If you’re the type of person who’ll notice typos, improperly placed commas or misused words and post a condescending comment about being unable to read anything by someone who wrote “your,” not “you’re”, would be better off reading a dictionary rather than a post on the internet. Its the sort of behavior I would expect from someone with mediocre intelligence and a rather dull personality.

< Message edited by MissKittyDeVine -- 7/2/2012 5:40:36 AM >

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ORIGINAL: kalthus

I’m getting a little irritated with profiles from ‘submissives’ who are really concerned about people’s use of English. They make it very clear that if your response is grammatically incorrect they won’t reply.