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Firebirdseeking -> Meeting the relatives, and "Shades of Gray" (7/3/2012 2:47:12 PM)
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Met with relatives, and my cousin, female, brought up Shades of Gray, had I read it? No, I got it from the library, skimmed it, and decided it was a romance novel, and badly written. (She read all 3). Then the exclaiming began: "Can you imagine people actually living that life? what was it called, black and white?" "No, vanilla". "And that a woman would be submissive to a man?" I am at that point trying very hard not to look at my husband for fear we would not be able to be straight faced. I pointed out that many women want their husbands to take more of a leadership role in their marriages.
The conversation continued about Gray. "He was beaten as a child and that shaped his sexuality". "I think there is no real evidence that people who have that lifestyle were abused any more than anyone else". "Well, and in the end, he decides he actually prefers vanilla". So, instead of saying "this is not something you choose, it is something you are", I say, "I think maybe the main character was playing with a role that was not really who he was" (although I have not read all three books, not even one, and she has).
This was actually a very funny time, like a scene from a movie. My good cousins could not even imagine they were actually related to people who "live that lifestyle".
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