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trystan500000 -> need help (7/4/2012 4:47:57 PM)
why is it so hard to fined a real long term slave on here in the memphis area i mean i can get some slaves but they only want oer the computor and then just one seson can someone give me some pointers?

stef -> RE: need help (7/4/2012 4:50:43 PM)
I know how depressing it can be to not find the slave of your dreams after such a lengthy search, but you might want to give it at least a WHOLE day before lamenting the dearth of real slaves here.

kalikshama -> RE: need help (7/4/2012 4:52:14 PM)
Probably because you do not yet have the expertise to command these demands: quote: i am looking for a real slave that will do WHAT EVER i whant and WHEN I WANT it done Are you sure these online only people were actually women? Did you speak to them or cam with them?

CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: need help (7/4/2012 4:55:35 PM)
Oh fucking jesus on a pogo stick... because obviously they don't exist. There aren't any real slaves, it's a myth, like sasquatch or trickle down economics. I would never lie to you about something as important as this.

searching4mysir -> RE: need help (7/4/2012 4:56:59 PM)
FR Bless your heart, a man who claims to be a dominant must have at least SOME patience. This isn't Slaves 'R Us where you just go to Aisle 3 and pick one up.

poise -> RE: need help (7/4/2012 6:08:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: trystan500000 why is it so hard to fined a real long term slave on here in the memphis area i mean i can get some slaves but they only want oer the computor and then just one seson can someone give me some pointers? Instead of searching on the computer for slaves to do exactly what you want whenever you want it, try gettting involved in your local TNG (The Next Generation) community, and meet real live people in the real live world. Try googling BDSM Memphis TNG and see what you have going on in your neck of the woods. Before going though, you should ask yourself what you have to offer someone that would make them want to do whatever you want whenever you want it. It sounds great on paper, and it's all the rage in porn, but it takes an awful lot more than saying Do this now or else.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: need help (7/4/2012 7:26:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: trystan500000 why is it so hard to fined a real long term slave on here in the memphis area I think the quote below says it all: quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama Probably because you do not yet have the expertise to command these demands: quote: i am looking for a real slave that will do WHAT EVER i whant and WHEN I WANT it done Oh for crying out f*cking loud. You're 18, you joined today, and you're already whining because you haven't yet acquired the slave of your dreams? That sort of impatience is very unattractive and it will get you nowhere fast. Good things are worth waiting for. Some people have waited literally years to find the right partner, both on here and other sites. You might as well relax and enjoy the ride. NBMG

angelikaJ -> RE: need help (7/4/2012 7:38:08 PM)
You need time. Really. A slave has to be able to trust and that comes through the time of relating (kind of sounds similar to relationship, doesn't it [;)] ). It takes patience, which again is related to time and actually to a degree personal temperament. It takes actually sort of knowing what you are doing, and that takes maturity and experience, which both take time. That all may be a bit of a hassle to you, since you seem to be in a bit of a rush. Have you thought about seeking out your local wizard? I have heard that there is a bit of a long wait to get an appt... .

DeviantlyD -> RE: need help (7/4/2012 7:46:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stef I know how depressing it can be to not find the slave of your dreams after such a lengthy search, but you might want to give it at least a WHOLE day before lamenting the dearth of real slaves here. He's 18...it's kind of like doggie years. You know how they say one year in human years is like 7 in doggies years? Well one day is like a whole year to that age group. :D

OsideGirl -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 7:15:14 AM)
Would you like me to list the reasons why? Because this is your entire profile: quote: i am looking for a real slave that will do WHAT EVER i whant and WHEN I WANT it done It's unrealistic, shows your inexperience, says nothing beyond that ridiculous statement, shows that you think that it's all about you and looks like a 6 year old typed it. There are some great books. There's some great advice on this board. There are groups near you. (You were told how to find them in another thread). I suggest you do some reading, meet your community, and find yourself a mentor.

DesFIP -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 2:10:50 PM)
Because they aren't interested in a master who still has a curfew.

crazyml -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 2:39:35 PM)
Welcome, Now... Here's what I suggest. Set aside a couple of minutes, clear your mind, then view your own profile. If you don't see a problem, turn off your computer and take it back to he store where you got it and buy a skateboard instead.

mnottertail -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 2:41:50 PM)
Right off the bat, straighten the dirty towel for christs sake at the very least, and wash the phone lens, you got fingerfucking all over that goddamn thing. (thats the pic, nobody is gonna read the text after that pic). Its just tacky.

JanahX -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 2:46:30 PM)
Your profile might have something to do with it. Its obvious you have zero idea of what youre doing - and Im guessing its not only in the women dept.

OsideGirl -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 2:48:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ It takes patience, which again is related to time and actually to a degree personal temperament. It takes actually sort of knowing what you are doing, and that takes maturity and experience, which both take time. That all may be a bit of a hassle to you, since you seem to be in a bit of a rush. OP you're in a venue where men far outnumber women. That means that women can be extremely picky about who they choose. You have a lot of competition, most of whom have more experience than you. So, if you want to succeed, you need to do something to stand out. Your profile shows a lack of understanding about the symbiosis of D/s relationships, says nothing about who you are and comes across as sloppy and lazy.

DomMeinCT -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 3:04:18 PM)
True slaves dig men who have mastered capitalization, punctuation, proper spelling, and who can spot a run-on sentence at 50 paces.

OsideGirl -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 3:47:29 PM)
Let's eat Grandma! Let's eat, Grandma! Commas save the world from cannibalism! Helping my uncle jack off a horse. Helping my uncle, Jack, off a horse. Punctuation saves the world from animal abuse!

Lockit -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 3:54:44 PM)
You're making this granny, a little nervous! [:D]

lizi -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 4:11:06 PM)
So lets brainstorm this.... It does seem rather silly that you're frantic over not getting your dream girl after being here for a day. A tad unrealistic wouldn't you say? Give it a bit more time. And honestly if someone is 'only' out for online action, I'd wonder if they were female at all. Your profile is one sentence on a dark background. No one can read it. This is good, because as we've seen it's a tad unrealistic as well- asking for someone to do whatever you want when you don't have ANY IDEA what you are doing. I don't care if you've been dominating since the womb, it's just not looking like you know what the hell you are doing. So there's that. Back to the profile since you wanted pointers - you have 'expert' listed on quite a few interests in the interest list. Are you really an expert in bondage, enemas, vibrators, fisting, and public play? Really? You've fisted like tons of women by now at 18? Given lots of public play demos at clubs and such? Put scores of women in bondage? Be honest, have you even had sex yet? So you see, reading the information you are putting out there about yourself says you are very unreliable....do you honestly think a woman is going to put her safety in your hands when you are lying like a dog? The take-away here is to be realistic and represent yourself truthfully. Being an unrealistic liar is the fastest way to chase away a kinky girl, she's got to trust you...ya know? Plus, people don't even really get naked with someone who exaggerates and comes off like a little kid much less get kinky with them. Are you understanding why peeps are just wanting a quick wank off session with you rather than real life? I wouldn't trust you with a houseplant, much less my body tied up and helpless. Go to your corner and come back a little more growed up and maybe a young girl like yourself will talk to you if you approach her honestly.

DarkSteven -> RE: need help (7/5/2012 5:26:26 PM)
Fella, why do you want a slave? They're difficult because they require a tremendous amount of work. And they are handing over control of their entire lives to someone - why should they do it to you? Bluntly, you're young and inexperienced. Get more exposure to the lifestyle. Try to avoid the common perception about you being young and immature. Do such things as use proper punctuation and spelling to give the impression you're careful about your appearance. Make it evident that you're patient and not looking for the first piece of ass to fall your way. Treat others with respect and dignity. Concede that your skills are in need of assistance and go to local events to learn and practice. The bottom line is that the problem isn't that slavegirls aren't knocking on your door. It's that you're not the one whose door they'd knock on. Work on developing yourself.

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