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Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 7:38:44 AM

SalemWiK

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Does it really make me a horrible person that I am poly? Furthermore that I'm a switch, voyuer who leans towards being a Dom, that doesn't want a harem, but does desire two submissives who each express a different aspect of the BDSM culture I have came to love?

I mean, I've been told I'm sick, disgusting over it and I am not one to want sex the first moment I meet a slave - I'm a romantic at heart, even in Domination, I don't like jumping into the sack right off. I have to trust the person before love making is involved... I just don't know; I mean, I get a very bad rap because of my age, I don't know. I just don't know anymore, I mean I don't feel anything wrong with my taboos, yet I get hounded for them by people who want to be shat on - I'd make a point fingers comment, but they really need to wash their hands first - and I just don't know. It's just really disheartening.

Sure, this is a Waaah post, but honestly am I such a bad guy? I don't think so, yet I'm tight-cast as one constantly.

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 7:41:40 AM

TolerableCruelty

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umm....

no.

whatever floats your boat, man.
what happens in your house, is your business... fuck 'em if they don't like it.

T.R.

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 7:43:55 AM

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No, you aren't a bad guy.

Feel better?

People will still tell you that you are a bad guy.

Feel better?

You can't control other people- so stop letting them control your feelings.

Feel better?

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 7:45:40 AM

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Who on earth would tell you that you were sick for that?

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 7:46:25 AM

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Be yourself and don't get hung up on what everyone else thinks otherwise they run your life, not you.

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 7:46:48 AM

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this actually belongs on the good news bad news thread.

The bad news is you are a sick fuck.
The good news is so is everyone else.

You are young and you will get over it.

Ron

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 7:49:41 AM

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Oddly, Ron just made me feel a lot better. Thank you.

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 7:51:26 AM

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Poly... yep, been openly Poly since age 15 (We called them "Open relationships" back then though!)
Fully intending to own two girls... check. My girl knows this, trusts my judgement, knows I'm in no rush but she's quite looking forward to it.

Does that make ME a "Horrible person"? *Falls over laughing* Erm that would be a no.

Are you a "Horrible person"? I've no idea, I don't know you, but certainly what you wrote there does not 'make' you one.

If someone doesn't understand but simply sticks a lable on you without taking the time to try and understand.... repay the favour, stick an "Irrelevant background noise" lable on their forehead and treat them accordingly.

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 7:54:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SalemWiK

Oddly, Ron just made me feel a lot better. Thank you.

Oddly, he does the same for me too.......lol

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 7:56:51 AM

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Raven, I thought that I was your girl?

*goes and sulks in a corner, batting her eyelashes, knowing he will hold his hand out to her

*snigger and a big Muwahhhhhhh*

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 8:04:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Does that make ME a "Horrible person"? *Falls over laughing* Erm that would be a no.

You are not? How do you ever hope to attract a third with pr like that?

Seriously though to the OP nothing you have mentioned so far makes you a bad person at least not in our little world. Change your tagline to" i live in my own little world but it's ok because they know me here" and welcome to collarme, home of the perverted(there are a few proverts here as well), land of the deranged.

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 8:04:33 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: givemyall
Raven, I thought that I was your girl?

Now that would be an interesting thought dear..... if Manchester wasn't so far away *g*

quote:

*goes and sulks in a corner, batting her eyelashes, knowing he will hold his hand out to her

Sulking just might get a hand..... smartly on your pretty rump!

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 8:15:44 AM

givemyall

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

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quote:

*goes and sulks in a corner, batting her eyelashes, knowing he will hold his hand out to her

Sulking just might get a hand..... smartly on your pretty rump!

*sticking her saggy arse in the air.... spank me quick

lol

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 8:18:10 AM

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Hey Salem.....you answered your own question. You do not think you are a bad guy, and that is what counts right?
I have been 'tight-cast' as many things, and that is okay, I do not and can not expect everyone to approve of or like or accept who I am or what I do or even what I have to say, so if they do not like it, or if they do not like me, whatever....it does not bother me, I do not let it bother me, I think if I did then I would be looking for ways to change myself simply to satisfy someone else's opinion of what is good/bad/acceptable, the only exception to this would be my sir, but even where we have differing views and whatnot I honestly do not feel he would try to change me.

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ORIGINAL: SalemWiK

Does it really make me a horrible person that I am poly? Furthermore that I'm a switch, voyuer who leans towards being a Dom, that doesn't want a harem, but does desire two submissives who each express a different aspect of the BDSM culture I have came to love?

I mean, I've been told I'm sick, disgusting over it and I am not one to want sex the first moment I meet a slave - I'm a romantic at heart, even in Domination, I don't like jumping into the sack right off. I have to trust the person before love making is involved... I just don't know; I mean, I get a very bad rap because of my age, I don't know. I just don't know anymore, I mean I don't feel anything wrong with my taboos, yet I get hounded for them by people who want to be shat on - I'd make a point fingers comment, but they really need to wash their hands first - and I just don't know. It's just really disheartening.

Sure, this is a Waaah post, but honestly am I such a bad guy? I don't think so, yet I'm tight-cast as one constantly.

Note: Underlining of quoted post by OhBeMyMind

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 8:22:15 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OhBeMyMind
I have been 'tight-cast' as many things

type-cast

Hope that doesn't come across as being arrogant, cuz it wasn't intended to be.

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 8:29:23 AM

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lol...not at all.....least not to me.......I wrote it that way and....' ' because that is how the OP wrote it

s'all good.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: OhBeMyMind
I have been 'tight-cast' as many things

type-cast

Hope that doesn't come across as being arrogant, cuz it wasn't intended to be.

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 8:37:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OhBeMyMind
lol...not at all.....least not to me.......I wrote it that way and....' ' because that is how the OP wrote it

LOL OMG you're right, shows how quickly I skimmed over that post.

Hope it makes you feel better knowing I paid more attention to your response.

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 9:00:46 AM

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Everyone has their kinks, their limits, their way of doing things. Be open minded enough to respect others, strong enough to do what pleases you, and wise enough to not let ignorance harm you. Know who you are embrace yourself, your power, and enjoy life...
(I dont think the OP is such a bad person just coming to terms with who they are age has little to do with it as much as age of discovery of oneself I know of 50 year olds who are just starting this journey for the first time and have the same feelings insecurities and questions)

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 9:11:56 AM

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There was a time when I needed to use a personal mantra to combat the crap I heard growing up.

Try to think of a mantra you can say (out loud or silently) to yourself when someone insults you like this and as you are saying it, walk away from them and never look back.

Ignoring them is the worst thing you can do for people like this because they want some response from you.

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RE: Does it really make me such a bad person? - 6/8/2006 9:49:23 AM

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It doesn't make you a bad person, but it will make you a hard person for some people to understand. Many people find they like things to be very obviously defined and for themselves find comfort and security in that. They have a very difficult time understanding people who slide in and out of definitions and descriptions.

You're not bad, you're just freaking them out! Stick to your guns. Over time you will collect people who view the world the way you do and you won't feel so out of place.

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