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Love is not necessary M/s relationship - 7/8/2012 9:16:56 AM

werebeastie

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Love is not necessary to have a functional Master/slave relationship.

I am often confronted, usually by female subs in a D/s relationship with their husband or boyfriend (or who want to be), about my stand on love being unnecessary to the successful M/s relationship. They tell me my paradigm will alienate me and keep worthwhile slaves from wanting to commit to me. Fact and experience kill those dire predictions. Yet that behavior does raise some questions about the purveyors of such propaganda and their motives.

BDSM is a rather large umbrella under which many find shelter. So one must begin to organize and sectionalize and group accordingly. I am afraid that it is here that we begin to fall prey to our more base natures. Our kinks are good kinks and our way of doing them is the only correct way. Begins to sound like organized religion doesn't it? Because the next step in that cycle is that since our way is the bestest rightest way than it is THE way everyone should do it. So you begin to have people squabbling about the various approaches to finding happiness in life. Today I am going to address the attack on my way of living life. At no time will I say that the way those that attacked me is the wrong way of doing it, I will say it is their way of doing it and if it works for them that is wonderful but it does not make them correct and it certainly does not make them of a higher quality.

Within my relationships as a Master with regard to his slaves I do personally hope to develop strong bonds of love and certainly trust. Yet this love will not be the romantic entanglements of lovers or spouses. Think of how you take a pet. You pick one out of numberless options knowing very little about it quite honestly. You honor this pet by giving it your trust, your care, your attention. You train this pet to be the pet you desire it to be and to act as you would have it. As this pet grows and finds its place within your life your attachment grows. It is hoped your relationship will be symbiotic and synergistic. You will come to know and depend upon one another, your trust will deepen; you will care for your pet even more and may even come to love and cherish it deeply. If you are a good Master this love will be returned many times over with loyalty and trust as well. I have had this relationship with many of my pets human and otherwise. Never made me want to marry one of them. So if the idea of being compared to other chattel is offensive than you are not the quality slave I want. When I accept a slave's offer to give herself to me it is with the understanding that she is mine completely without reservation to do with as I will.

It is my opinion that a slave that will give itself over to its Master completely, no limits, no reservations is taking a much deeper leap of faith in its lifestyle choice than is the spouse that fancies a bit of kinky play. One might say it is a matter of degree but this is kiddie pool wading versus deep sea diving and the pressure down there are dangerous.

Now allow me to address the issue of quality. I was told no worthwhile slaves would be interested in my version of M/s. I find that terribly offensive. What sort of judgmental nonsense is that? To my way of thinking if this were an organized religion those slaves that give themselves to me knowing there is no romantic entanglement, knowing that we exist as Owner and property would be the clergy while husband/wife D/s M/s teams would be followers of our truth.