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RE: Love is not necessary M/s relationship - 7/11/2012 6:45:41 AM

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You're welcome! Always thought the Greeks got it right when they come up with different names for "Love", for such an important collection of emotions, it's just inescapably vague

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RE: Love is not necessary M/s relationship - 7/11/2012 8:11:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

To the OP...

This is how adults can disagree.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: Dresproperty

I know love is not necessary for every M/s relationship but for me it is necessary. I prefer a 24/7 TPE and for me that level of dynamic needs love, trust, honesty, loyalty and respect. I cant see that happening in a dynamic with no emotional attachment. YMMV.

My experience was the exact opposite. The only real way I can function in a bound relationship w/o emotional attachment (Note-I ain't talking bout play, but relationships) is within the boundaries of a strict TPE where I am the owner and she is property.
The structure, and strictures, made it easier for me to detach.

I've had relationships that were purely about the D/s and where love didn't even come into the equation. Now, in most of those respect and affection played a role, but I've had a couple where even those weren't on the table.

Personally - I'm looking for love, mutual respect, and a shit load of D/s, and sure you can claim that my preferences are invalid, but if you do, I'll just assume you're a cunt.

You can state that you have a different perspective, different needs and wants, and that while my preferences are not yours, they're not invalid. And if you do, I'll assume that you're not a cunt.

Does a happy dance, CML just gave me a promotion to adult!
Yea for meeeeeeee's.

And on a serious note, thanks. I try to write these things in such a way that others aren't offended, that open things up for discussion, and certainly can't be taken personally.
In other words, debate like grown ups should.
It's nice to have the effort noted.

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RE: Love is not necessary M/s relationship - 7/11/2012 1:09:48 PM

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Whilst I don't think you have to be have love to be in a M/s relationship I can see how it might improve the realtionship. For me, trust comes with love, being able to tell someone your deepest darkest desires and fantasies without fear of judgement can be an integral part in any relationship. I think without love the relationship is simply just that of an owner and property and for some people that does work, however, I would wonder how much of yourself you will really reveal without feelings involved! Just my humble opinion :P

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RE: Love is not necessary M/s relationship - 7/11/2012 2:27:13 PM

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Two things brother Kana,

Firstly, I'm really having trouble picturing your "happy dance"...

Secondly, if in being snarky to one poster I should accidentally be nice about another can we just all agree that it's collateral praisage?

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RE: Love is not necessary M/s relationship - 8/10/2012 1:49:35 AM

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I do understand the argument that love may not necessarily be a must for M/s. There are plenty of fine examples of folks living like this and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that... whatever floats your boat!

Personally, love is a big part of my life as a slave. I consider myself to be both a lover and a slave and would not have entered a 24/7 TPE relationship without first being very much in love with my then live-in girlfriend, now Mistress and Owner