Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Your First...


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> Your First... Page: [1]
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Your First... - 10/31/2004 2:12:23 PM   
SentForu


Posts: 303
Joined: 3/23/2004
From: Middle Tennessee
Status: offline 		What was your first BDSM (all definitions accepted) experience like. Were you as excited as a kid in a candy store afterwards??? Even, if it were a casual play session. As in, FINALLY finding yourself? That was mine, it was like opening up a door, I knew was there, but never really thought I'd actually find.

_____________________________

Myra
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Your First... - 11/1/2004 10:10:26 AM   
Mercnbeth


Posts: 11766
Status: offline 		hi Myra,
this was a very thought provoking question..."first" awareness, "first" BDSM experience, the door that opened and the light bathed everything...hmmmm...

the BIG door opened for this slave when she went to the M.D. for help to quit smoking. he prescribed patches and pills and then counseled this slave. he said that this slave would have to really do something big in order to quit smoking and it meant a change of "lifestyle", make new non-smoking friends, engage in non-smoking activities, etc. this slave lived in a rural area with internet access and on the 30 minute ride home from the doctor, she mentally worked herself up trying to define her "lifestyle". by the time she got home, she had decided to enter the word lifestyle into the search box on the puter. the door to BDSM practices and D/s and M/s "lifestyle" swung wide open--a big thanks to Al Gore or whoever REALLY "invented" the internet and also all those who have created online communities of and for those of us who are interested in and/or drawn to what it is that we do.

this slave's first awareness that she was sexually interested in a different type of intercourse than the standard vanilla flavor came with trial and error over quite a few years of sexual exploration with husbands(have had 2), lovers, boyfriends and one night stands.....and the resultant lack of satisfaction in trying to fulfill this slave's deepest desires and fantasies that she has had since before puberty. this slave had come to the (vanilla based) conclusion that she was very nasty, extremely perverted and quite possibly mentally ill to desire and fantasize about such things(and there was no shortage of vanilla's that this slave was involved with who felt it necessary to say so!). then came that moment of enlightenment upon the discovery of information on the net and best of all, personals sites where like minded folks could meet!!! this slave got down on her knees and thanked God that she would never have to date a vanilla again! she promptly wrote up an ad and posted it with alt, limiting her search to a 100 mile radius. first date with a potential "Dom" in this slave's remote area went ok, but he felt just like another vanilla date---within 1 week and after the second date, he's the same as the nilla's at the singles bars, wanting nothing more than kinky sex. since this slave wanted to go a bit, if not a whole lot, deeper than that he stops returning calls. this slave did not give up, however, cancelled the alt ad and posted a new, direct and concise one on a site called BDSM personals---opened up the mileage to 200 miles and got 50 responses in the first week. went through them all very carefully and picked 10 semi-finalists, then down to the top 3. this slave's number one pick seemed just too good to be true, a perfect match through the puter, so she promptly agreed to talk with Him on the phone--that voice stirred something deep within and this slave just had to meet Him! He insisted He was not interested in a long distance or online relationship and wanted very much to meet. this slave shared that desire and agreed to meet if for nothing more than a Firestone Pale Ale, pretzels with mustard and conversation! this man, this Dom would turn out to be the Master that this slave could only fantasize about previously. He has given His slave her first BDSM experience, and it started the moment we were first alone together and He instructed this slave to take off all clothes, interlock her hands behind her neck and turn slowly for Him. after that turn, there has been no turning back, and this slaves first BDSM experience is still going strong!
thank u for asking and giving this slave a chance to share an important piece of her journey.

(in reply to SentForu)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Your First... - 1/23/2005 6:44:29 PM   
sub4hire


Posts: 6775
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline
quote:

What was your first BDSM (all definitions accepted) experience like. Were you as excited as a kid in a candy store afterwards??? Even, if it were a casual play session. As in, FINALLY finding yourself? That was mine, it was like opening up a door, I knew was there, but never really thought I'd actually find.


Depending on mentally or physically. My first lifestyle experience was when I was 12. Reading a book on sexual dysfunction. Learning more, writing a paper. Then studying even more as I identified with the submissive side.
Not exciting at all if you hear it that way. Although it was the beginning of self awareness for me. Before puberty even. So, extremely exciting.

My first actual experience was many year's later. After I met my first Dom. I was living in Texas. We were over a friends home for dinner. Watched my first waxing. I already knew all about it but never before seen it happen.
We went home that evening after a stop at the grocery store. I got to feel wax on my skin for the first time. I've never looked back since.

(in reply to SentForu)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Your First... - 1/24/2005 2:23:21 PM   
FangsNfeet


Posts: 3758
Joined: 12/3/2004
Status: offline 		my first time was very fun and something I knew I was ready for. But then again it felt like I was giving another massage therapy session. So I felt confient and knew exactly what I was doing. As about worrying rather or not I would hurt the other person, well I'm sadistic and figured it's what they came here for in the first place. It would be there problem and not mine. So far I haven't inflicted damage that has sent anyone to the hospital. We both had fun, engorged ourselves in fantasies, and fucked liked rabbits.

_____________________________

I'm Godzilla and you're Japan

(in reply to SentForu)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Your First... - 1/26/2005 10:05:35 AM   
phoenix52


Posts: 179
Joined: 12/9/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: SentForu

What was your first BDSM (all definitions accepted) experience like. Were you as excited as a kid in a candy store afterwards??? Even, if it were a casual play session. As in, FINALLY finding yourself? That was mine, it was like opening up a door, I knew was there, but never really thought I'd actually find.


First non-play experience: i was sitting in a college computer lab, on what they called "pervert row" - the row of computers facing the wall, where the lab monitors could not see. I timidly, hesistantely reached out (as if i was afraid the keyboard would bite), and typed "spanking stories" into Yahoo. The rest is history!

First play experience: several days later, in my boyfriend's dorm room, OTK spanking at my request. Eight years later, my then boyfriend is my current Master.

shannon

(in reply to SentForu)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Your First... - 1/27/2005 6:26:18 AM   
velvetvixen


Posts: 378
Joined: 1/19/2004
Status: offline 		When my mother washed clothes I always helped her hang them outside in the summer. I was always walking around with a clothespin on my lip. It was just chalked up to "weird kid on the block."

Oh if they could see me now.

(in reply to SentForu)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Your First... - 1/29/2005 8:50:14 PM   
DiamondDiva


Posts: 266
Joined: 10/10/2004
From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		My first experience was not realized until I actually embraced the lifestyle. I had been doing things that are part of "play" as a spice to my sex life but then after embracing the lifestyle I realized that I was a Domme in training and didn't even know it. LOL

_____________________________

~Diamond Diva~

" When someone is telling you who they are LET THEM!!!


(in reply to velvetvixen)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Your First... - 1/30/2005 1:04:17 AM   
Mouthy


Posts: 35
Joined: 1/18/2005
Status: offline
quote:

--a big thanks to Al Gore or whoever REALLY "invented" the internet
That would be Tim Berners-Lee. :)

(in reply to Mercnbeth)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Your First... - 1/30/2005 1:17:58 AM   
stef


Posts: 10215
Joined: 1/26/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Mouthy

quote:

--a big thanks to Al Gore or whoever REALLY "invented" the internet

That would be Tim Berners-Lee. :)

That would probably come as a great suprise to him.

~stef

_____________________________

Welcome to PoliticSpace! If you came here expecting meaningful BDSM discussions, boy are you in the wrong place.

"Hypocrisy has consequences"

(in reply to Mouthy)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Your First... - 5/15/2005 1:43:30 PM   
frankrds


Posts: 11
Joined: 5/14/2005
From: Denmark
Status: offline 		1st experience, mmmmm.

im still waiting for my 1st real experience, but when i 1st heard/read about BDSM was a book i bought with pictures about bondage, cbt and FemDomme, and i wanted to be the slave in the pictures, to be adore, teased, and played with like him, ohhhh.



_____________________________

how may i be of service?

(in reply to stef)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Your First... - 5/15/2005 4:53:57 PM   
SirCJ


Posts: 8
Joined: 9/14/2004
Status: offline 		Good question Myra, two events at age 7 I started to use clothing pins to pin back my foreskin, pleasure derived by looking normal. At age 17 I fisted a woman that was 24, I was able to control her climax, from there I stepped through a door looking for definitions.

(in reply to SentForu)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Your First... - 5/15/2005 5:26:11 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


Posts: 2822
Joined: 4/11/2004
From: Arizona
Status: offline 		I really had to think...it all unfolded so naturally!
1989...in a room playing with a few other Ladies. The boys came to the door and were told they could not enter the room. (They were allowed to watch Us have a good time tho.) Power rush!
From there it was an easy step to so much more...

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 5/15/2005 5:27:30 PM >

_____________________________

Dusty
They that give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety
B Franklin
Don't blame Me ~ I didn't vote for either of them
The Hidden Kingdom


(in reply to SentForu)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Your First... - 5/16/2005 12:14:07 PM   
BobcatsLilMinx


Posts: 201
Joined: 4/8/2005
From: UK
Status: offline 		My... VERY first experience was at about 8, accidentally reading a rape story in one of my father's naughty magazines, and realising it excited me...
My first practical experience was 2 years later, experimenting with being "raped" by a girlfriend, and "raping" her in return. We both quickly found out I wasn't so good at being the one in charge...

And from then on, each new first has been as wonderful as that very first experience. Each time, I just feel so amazingly happy that I'm acting out something that was only a fantasy before, that it's REAL and REALLY happening to me!!!

(in reply to GoddessDustyGold)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Your First... - 5/16/2005 1:02:42 PM   
ruffnecksbabygir


Posts: 412
Joined: 1/4/2005
Status: offline 		my very first eye opening moment was when i discovered bdsm online...i'll never forget the night, i was surfing the net and came upon a bdsm yahoo chat room and i didn't stop researching on it til the early morning hours....the first time i actually experienced it in r/l, probably about a year later, met with my first Master, he took me to his house...it was very exciting, it was a bit over whelming as well, experiencing for the first time so many of the things i had been, up to that point, only reading about. The transition from theory to "practice" was quite an awakening for me.

The first time ever going to a munch was also a fascinating experience for me, and this just happened a couple of months ago. I had never been in a room with other lifestyler's before, it felt so much like my "element", i enjoyed myself tremendously that evening.

_____________________________

~hugs~
Babygirl

:Disclaimer: The above is only this slave's opinion:

"And Those Who Danced Were Thought To Be Quite Insane By Those Who Could Not Hear The Music" -- Angela Monet

(in reply to BobcatsLilMinx)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Your First... - 5/16/2005 1:05:15 PM   
Lordandmaster


Posts: 10943
Joined: 6/22/2004
Status: offline 		My first experience wasn't very good in one sense: I didn't know what I was doing; she didn't know what she was doing; and I ended up just fucking her in the ass instead (since that was about the most degrading thing I could think of at the time).

But it was a life-changing experience in another sense: Even though I didn't know what the hell I was doing, I knew that whatever it was, it was for me. (She learned the same thing that day.)

Lam

(in reply to SentForu)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Your First... - 5/16/2005 1:12:56 PM   
ruffnecksbabygir


Posts: 412
Joined: 1/4/2005
Status: offline 		forgot to add this....
i remember watching the dracula movies and getting sooooo turned on by the whole thing at around age 6 and 7, i'd fantasize with being "attacked" by dracula...lol...i would always have these huge crushes on all the "problem" kids in school, the bullies, the troubled ones, the ones that would beat me up and steal my lunch money...yeah, those were the boys i liked!! lol....

While married to my very vanilla ex hubby. one time during sex he slapped me across the face, my instant reaction was to slap him back and become very upset and defensive about it....yet from that moment on each time we had sex i'd go back to that one time he slapped me and it would just push me over the edge! lol...funny because i would feel so ashamed about being turned on at such a thing that i never mentioned it to him or anyone else, 'til i "discovered" the lifestyle i just thought i had serious issues....nice to know i'm not the only crazy one : ) lol

_____________________________

~hugs~
Babygirl

:Disclaimer: The above is only this slave's opinion:

"And Those Who Danced Were Thought To Be Quite Insane By Those Who Could Not Hear The Music" -- Angela Monet

(in reply to ruffnecksbabygir)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Your First... - 5/17/2005 4:07:52 PM   
RiotGirl


Posts: 3149
Status: offline 		My first non-realising it was bdsm, was when i was a kid. Never could understand why the 1800 slave stories i found so fascinating. Or the concentration camps (boy do i just LOVE reading about the LIFE of it) And i've a whole serious of books on teh muslim life (as the man is in charge)

Thought i was wierdo when one of the stories i went wrong and ALL the kids ended up getting whipped at the orphange (as well as the "naughty") kid. i promptly stopped writing my story and when i was about 15 i destroyed it. So nobody would know my "dirty little secret"

i actually Discovered BDSM when i was 17 and going through the chat room list on aol. Something just drew me. Yes i was excited and researched, researched reseearchd cos everyone i spoke to made me wait till i was 18 till they'd "meet" me. And 2 days after i turned 18 a good Dom friend took me down to a local club in DC called Bound. It was all history from the moment i was tied up spread eagle in the club and being flogged. And those darn knees shaking uncontrollably and i could barely stand.

Course i've "walked" away after meeting a "wannabee" Dom (really just a sub who was infatuated with me) and then meeting a friend who had Dom tendencies but ended up abusive. So the "lifetyle" had a bad rap in my eyes for years. But i'd try again, meet more wannabee's and then about a year ago (after 7 years) i made up my mind that i would not back out again. Because i realised it would ALWAYS be there in my mind and if i didnt stick with it...... So i put everything into finding "my dom" Searched for months and months.

And then a Dom IMed me out the blue....... And thats when it got really interesting!

< Message edited by RiotGirl -- 5/17/2005 4:11:01 PM >

(in reply to ruffnecksbabygir)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Your First... - 5/22/2005 8:58:28 AM   
HeavyhandedDOm


Posts: 1
Joined: 4/24/2005
Status: offline 		My first Experience ws in Hong Kong with an Older German women I was 19 at the time, It was quite the rush when I started to flogg her. She was a Switch and taught me alot about the lifestyle.

(in reply to RiotGirl)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Your First... - 5/22/2005 9:28:35 PM   
proudsub


Posts: 6142
Joined: 1/31/2004
From: Washington
Status: offline 		My first experience was online and I was 54 at the time, kind of a late starter. The first time i said "yes Master" i knew i had found something that had been missing in my life.

_____________________________

proudsub

"Without goals you become what you were. With goals you become what you wish." .

"You are entitled to your own opinions but not your own facts"--Alan Greenspan


(in reply to SentForu)
Profile   Post #: 19
Page:   [1]
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> Your First... Page: [1]
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094