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RE: Sites for new doms - 7/11/2012 11:41:25 AM

Dunamis2009

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC
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Oh, and for the love of all that's holy, even if you decide you want to go down the M/s path... do NOT call yourself a "new master" online. I have yet to determine what new masters ARE supposed to call themselves, but apparently a lot of folk think it's presumptuous to use the word "master" at all if you don't have the experience to back it up.

I *definitely* haven't been here long enough/have enough experience to say this, but I guess I will anyway. Feel free to ignore it or correct it.

I think the consensus is that mastery requires something to be a master with, and the majority of people who post state something like "New master looking for slave". I think it'd be different if they said something like "My girlfriend wants to progress our relationship into an M/s relationship and I want to try it, how should I start". I still think the majority would say to slow down (with great power comes great responsibility and all that, and asking in itself indicates that you don't know yourself or your sub well enough to be a good master), but I don't think people would state that he isn't going to be a "New master" in that case. Being a master requires the slave to begin with, just like being a boat-owner or cat-owner requires a boat or cat FIRST.

(And I think it might also be different if they said "Desiring to eventually become a master" or something similar.)

Anyhow, as a new user myself, I'd just recommend searching the CM forum for answers to your questions, and failing that, posting one. And I think the main info people will give you here is communication, communication, communication. You should know your sub's needs so that you can provide them. You should know what your sub's desires are so you have the choice to *not* fulfill them.

Welcome!

< Message edited by Dunamis2009 -- 7/11/2012 11:43:40 AM >

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RE: Sites for new doms - 7/12/2012 6:01:40 PM

AineofTx

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Google "Submissive Loving". It is just one point of view, but it describes a more inclusive definition of Dominant than some sites, which focus on appropriate submissive behavior only. I believe a Dominant is the ultimate example of masculinity in all it's beauty. But becoming an Uber-Man is no small task.

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