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Lockit -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 10:59:57 AM)

I didn't say it to anyone else. I said it to her. If I say it to you, you have my permission to kick my ass. [:D]

And no... some of us will never get along. [;)]




OneKinkyArtist -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 11:24:20 AM)

Mommy Mommy stop fighting!!!!




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 11:30:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist

Mommy Mommy stop fighting!!!!


So, do I get an answer? Or any of us? You're in a town flooded with kink opportunities, and all you are finding is professional dominants? Where are you looking?




OneKinkyArtist -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 11:33:21 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus


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ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist

Mommy Mommy stop fighting!!!!


So, do I get an answer? Or any of us? You're in a town flooded with kink opportunities, and all you are finding is professional dominants? Where are you looking?



I have my preferences much like everyone else. I dont care what they look like as long as the attitude is in the right place. I dont mean that in the sense of a text book yell and scream type of Domme but one that recognizes her power ...........and doesnt charge




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 11:35:43 AM)

Which doesn't answer my question, or explain what your problem is. But whatevs, have fun. Hope the sunspots align for you and all that.




OneKinkyArtist -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 11:37:55 AM)

oh well...youll be alright...thanks for the well wishes




Privileged -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 11:45:53 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Lockit


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ORIGINAL: Privileged


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Well fuck wench, I didn't realize I needed a lie detector.

Who the fuck are you to tell the op what to put in his profile? He doesn't have to have anything about service provisions in his profile, nor does he have to answer to you... now does he?


Lemme try this again: "No lies detected" is an expression. Are you as offended when people agree by saying "THIS"? Because it means the same thing.

I have some questions:
Are everyone's observations and suggestions unwelcome? Or just mine?
Why are you swearing and calling me names?
What are you really pressed about?





It seems you don't know me as well as I know you. I cuss... often. When I am happy, when I am not happy, when I fucking feel like it. See? Wench is an expression. I use it when I am happy, when someone is evil in a good way or bad way, when I love someone and when I don't. I did in fact think you were talking to me as you gave no indication that you were talking to two people, until you explained it. Even then I thought it odd that you would use that expression with me, as if I needed validation or agreement on what I said, coming from someone I have seen lie on these forums. I don't need agreement from someone that lies. It might not be wise to make me prove that because I can, then everyone would see what I have seen. Okay Miss M...a? I can do it with things from this current profile and off site. Some of us do get around.

Whatever people think about the op's post or things said... he is speaking about not wanting a findom, therefore calling him to task on what is in his profile or not on his profile wouldn't pertain to what you wish to see there. You can say whatever you want. Just as you responded to me and used what I said to make a comment, I just didn't care for you using what I said and following it up with a comment I would never agree with or make under these specific circumstances. Combining the two with what I have seen of you with how you used an expression and those things alone were the reason I said what I did. I wasn't pressed about anything else. I thought it ironic that someone that I feel has lied was validating what I said and claiming it not to be a lie or agreeing with it. [:D]

I would have said nothing to you had you not included what I said in your comments to two people, even if I thought of you as I do. I respect some findom's and have never had a problem with them. Others, I don't respect, I don't often have anything to say to them and don't say anything. To each their own... but with you... well... I just find your absolute statements and misrepresentation of yourself... worthy of a response when you quote me.


So because I'm a findomme, my opinion on the topic is invalid. Got it.

Lockit, you're welcome to explain/expose whatever fraud you think I'm guilty of. In public or via PM. It doesn't matter because I'm sure it's down to misunderstanding or impersonation. You didn't have to edit my name; it's not a secret. Every one of my loved ones knows about my involvement in D/s. There's no way in hell I'd be lying to people who could never impact my life, such as strangers on the internet.




OneKinkyArtist -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 11:50:40 AM)

Im thinking this has grown well past the call of duty. I didnt post this topic for the sake of promoting a catfight!




Rochsub2009 -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 12:15:06 PM)

OneKinkyArtist,
I peaked at your profile, and it looks like you live in Chicago. There are TONS of kinky folks in the Windy City. Where are you looking? Saying that you can only find financial dommes in Chicago is like saying that you can only find New York style pizza in Chicago. You're obviously not looking very hard, or you're looking in the wrong places.

Go to FetLife and do a search. Plenty of info will come up that you'll find helpful. Make sure that you search for Milwaukee and Northern Indiana as well. As you know, neither is a very long trip from Chicago, but there are kinky folks and activities in both locales.

Also, I see that you're African-American. Chicago also has a large African-American kinky population. So if race is an issue, you should be in good shape right where you are.

Based on the fact that you are only finding fin-dommes, I get the feeling that you're only looking on-line. The interesting thing is that I only find financial Dommes on-line. I can't remember ever meeting one at a local BDSM event. So give that a try, and get off the computer. But log onto FetLife before you do. You'll be glad you did.




mnottertail -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 12:17:24 PM)

This piqued my interest, since I once wask peaking on some mickey mouse microdot in colorado and a horse was eating my hair in the morning when i peeked out of the sleeping bag.

Dave's not here. 




TNDommeK -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 12:32:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus


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ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist

Mommy Mommy stop fighting!!!!


So, do I get an answer? Or any of us? You're in a town flooded with kink opportunities, and all you are finding is professional dominants? Where are you looking?


It seems just you get an answer,lol...I'm just gonna chalk Mine up as the post was directed toward someone else, as I am far from a grammar Nazi.lol.

ETA: the letter "s" because the word "just" isn't just without an "s"




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 12:37:04 PM)

Maybe he will answer Roch. I am just channelling rantiness by typing, it's not like I care one way or the other. How often do we hear from people in kink nirvanas who can't manage to find the scene?

Makes you wonder how LadyPact and I managed![;)]




OneKinkyArtist -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 12:42:12 PM)

so what youre really saying is that youre bored




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 12:50:54 PM)


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ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist

so what youre really saying is that youre bored


Nope, I am almost never bored! Are you?




KYsissy -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 12:58:44 PM)

If you want a relationship it will take some time maybe years to find the right person. If you want to order a service contact a pro. But with all the complaints I have read from lifestyle dominants about guys who they invest a lot of time in and then when it comes time to actually meet, they get blown off and never hear from them again. So I can understand tribute a bit.

Grammar nazis have at it , this is from my phone




LadyConstanze -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 1:00:11 PM)


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ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist


I have my preferences much like everyone else. I dont care what they look like as long as the attitude is in the right place. I dont mean that in the sense of a text book yell and scream type of Domme but one that recognizes her power ...........and doesnt charge


OK, if a guy would tell me that his preference is "somebody who doesn't charge", I'd really be turned off, not because I charge but because it speaks volumes about your attitude. Hey, you pay a price for everything, sometimes it's in coin and sometimes it's not in currency. A woman who gets the feeling that she's viewed as a kink delivery system deserves compensation - what are you going to offer?




OneKinkyArtist -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 1:10:42 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist


I have my preferences much like everyone else. I dont care what they look like as long as the attitude is in the right place. I dont mean that in the sense of a text book yell and scream type of Domme but one that recognizes her power ...........and doesnt charge


OK, if a guy would tell me that his preference is "somebody who doesn't charge", I'd really be turned off, not because I charge but because it speaks volumes about your attitude. Hey, you pay a price for everything, sometimes it's in coin and sometimes it's not in currency. A woman who gets the feeling that she's viewed as a kink delivery system deserves compensation - what are you going to offer?



what I offer is between myself and the Female Dominant I choose to pursue and vice versa. There is no issue as to what I mean when I say charge. Either you charge money or you dont.




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 1:16:59 PM)

It's the implication that's off-putting.

I am old enough to remember that tradition where the man pays for dates, or at least for the first one! Nowadays, most men act as if they are being "financially dominated" if they pay for a cup of coffee! I have no problem paying for my own drinks and what have you---but the underlying message that is read from "no money" is that the lady had better be damn worth it and be grateful for anything she gets in return for spending HER money (on those toys and costumes) and time and talent on HIM while he appears with a laundry list.

Is the above true? Far too often, YES.

If you don't want to pay a pro dominant, don't. Aggressively announcing that just pushes away your actual target audience, who DON'T have their hands out, but DO expect some kind of gesture of generosity. Such as asking her if she'd like another coffee.

So, good luck having fun in the town that has things like PERMANENT KINK VENUES and clubs and the Leather Archives, and and and and.




DarkSteven -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 1:46:59 PM)


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ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist

I ask this question as I peruse through the dommes in my city that pique my interest and what I find is that all of the ones Ive seen are professional or financial Dominants.


So there are no lifestyle Dommes you find attractive, only the pros?

Any ideas why that might be?


I'm not sure where you got that idea from. Seems like you're looking for something that isn't there. Good luck with that!



There are two kinds of Dommes, lifestyle and pro. You say ALL the Dommes you're attracted to all turn out to be pros. Therefore you are not attracted to lifestyle Dommes. I got that idea from your own words.




OneKinkyArtist -> RE: Is being a Pro/FinDomme the only way to test a prospective submissives authenticity? (7/12/2012 1:49:54 PM)

Find a hobby!




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