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kalikshama -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 1:54:11 PM)

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unhide that profile of yours and let's look at your previous posts.


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dink22 -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:04:31 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Killerangel


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ORIGINAL: dink22

I'm not negative and antagonizing. You are. I'm just a nice, but mischievous boy who needs a governess. But my efforts to find such a person are frustrated by phonies. One phony after another after another. Like, frankly, most of you. That's probably why you see my request as being unreasonable. And it is eccentric, I'll admit that. And I'm a "loser" in the sense that I'm a heterosexual male, I'll admit that as well. It's not easy. But the females posting on this thread seem to mostly confirm what I originally said: it's all about money, chicks don't want sub guys, and the ones who say they do -- well, let's see what they actually do. Probably 85-95 percent more phonies.


Hey Sparky, I responded to you twice which you ignored in order to carry on an argument.




Um sorry. It won't happen again. You're pretty cool. I argue wid ya! ;)



pyschosubmission -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:13:32 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MsGypsey

That made me laugh louder than I should have done, perhaps.




*Takes a modest bow* :D



stef -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:21:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dink22

I'm not negative and antagonizing. You are.

You've already spent 50 some odd years on this rock, bitter and alone. Do you want to spend the years you have in that same state or do you maybe want to try a different approach?



kalikshama -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:22:45 PM)

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Yes, it's frustrating to find out that there just aren't that many female lifestyle Doms out there. That is what is driving the problem here, even if you got all the fin Doms out of the way there just aren't that many women who Dominate in a lifestyle manner left. It's also frustrating to have about half the men who contact me be married or in a relationship and wanting to cheat. I invest my time again and again only to find this out when they choose to reveal it later, or I figure it out. What can be done about that? Can I get a report feature for that too?


I think the men complaining about fin dommes actually have it easy. Fin dommes reveal themselves in their profiles or first few emails. I've invested a lot of time in men only to find out they were married looking to cheat. I don't demand the site change though, I just adjust my filtering process and ask more questions up front.

I also don't solely rely on this site. I find events through fetlife and get out from behind the computer. I don't expect to meet Mr. Right at the first munch I go to but view munches as networking opportunities.

To me these myriad complaint threads boil down to disappointment that this site and the women on it are failing to meet a promise of kink fulfillment, an attitude that baffles me, but then, I take responsibility for my own happiness.



CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:34:37 PM)


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ORIGINAL: dink22

As far as trying to find a REAL dom chick, this place has become almost totally worthless.


My boy found ME here at CollarMe. A truck driver friend of ours found his (r/t) Mistress here at CollarMe. My list could go on and on and on of people I know from CollarMe who found their mates here. I've been here for around nine years though, so I am not trying to claim that this is easy or happens fast; finding someone compatible for long term (and not just a no strings BDSM version of a f*ck buddy) is very much like looking for a needle in a haystack. Searching is time consuming and difficult...even for Dommes. I had to screen through thousands of married but cheating men to find a compatible and unmarried submissive.

Without the finDommes here making a nice large target for the marrieds and others who are not looking for more than occasional NSA drive by toppings, I would have been too big of a target for their attentions. As it was, I burnt out frequently and several times closed out my profile planning to never come back...not because of the site itself (I love this site) but because of too many obnoxious letters from men with entitlement issues.

Wanting findommes separated from the non-findommes just to make your searching easier... Blacklisting issues aside, if that day ever happens then I vote that the dividing line needs to cut both ways; that women get to label all the married and cheating (including ones cheating on lovers), as well as the guys us women decide are asshats with entitlement issues...and...anyone who has ever sent us a nastygram. [;)] If I don't like a guy's attitude and report him, what is to stop me from writing to dozens of other female Dominant friends and acquaintences (or making multiple profiles) to get them to help me out by reporting the guy as an asshat? The label will stick. Right? Just like the finDomme label.



Killerangel -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:35:55 PM)


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

I think the men complaining about fin dommes actually have it easy. Fin dommes reveal themselves in their profiles or first few emails. I've invested a lot of time in men only to find out they were married looking to cheat. I don't demand the site change though, I just adjust my filtering process and ask more questions up front.

I also don't solely rely on this site. I find events through fetlife and get out from behind the computer. I don't expect to meet Mr. Right at the first munch I go to but view munches as networking opportunities.

To me these myriad complaint threads boil down to disappointment that this site and the women on it are failing to meet a promise of kink fulfillment, an attitude that baffles me, but then, I take responsibility for my own happiness.


Damn skippy. The married guys are invested in keeping their secret- they don't want you to find out. The fin Dommes want to get their money, so their targets find out quickly and if it's not what they want, they can move on. Sometimes it can take ages and lots of real time interaction to find out someone is married. Sometimes you never do. I know when I meet men here that there is a big chance they will lie to me about their appearance, marital status, location, etc. It's on me to find out what the deal is. Trust but verify. How bent out of shape could I get on a daily basis by not finding what I want?

I never quite get the entitlement that people seem to feel about coming here for something and when it doesn't happen, having a hissy and blaming the site. How is it the site's fault that they cannot fulfill their desires? It's like blaming the grocery store for being out of gallons of skim milk because you went there looking to buy some. Wtf? If there's no skim milk in town I guess you drink something else or do without. That's life.



dink22 -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:37:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: stef

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ORIGINAL: dink22

I'm not negative and antagonizing. You are.

You've already spent 50 some odd years on this rock, bitter and alone. Do you want to spend the years you have in that same state or do you maybe want to try a different approach?


lol. Nope. I'd rather spend another "50 some odd years on this rock, bitter and alone." stef, c'mon, don't you think that's a bit of an overreached conclusion? Or maybe it's correct, but if it is, I'm doomed to always be alone. CM, and most of the people responding to me, convince me that I'm a fish out of water. SUBMISSIVE MALE????? WHY DID YOU EVER EXPECT ANYTHING BUT TO PAY PAY PAY MONEY MONEY MONEY?????????????????????

And you guys ALL seem to think this is okay. That this is as it should be. That this is normal. That this is right. And you despise me for challenging that position.



MsLadySue -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:41:59 PM)

Is this a pity party? [sm=beatdeadhorse.gif] [sm=Groaner.gif]



MsLadySue -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:44:13 PM)

Where did anyone say they despise you?



Killerangel -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:45:12 PM)


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ORIGINAL: dink22

lol. Nope. I'd rather spend I'd rather spend another "50 some odd years on this rock, bitter and alone." stef, c'mon, don't you think that's a bit of an overreached conclusion? Or maybe it's correct, but if it is, I'm doomed to always be alone. CM, and most of the people responding to me, convince me that I'm a fish out of water. SUBMISSIVE MALE????? WHY DID YOU EVER EXPECT ANYTHING BUT TO PAY PAY PAY MONEY MONEY MONEY?????????????????????

And you guys ALL seem to think this is okay. This is as it should be.



Oh FFS, really? More foot stamping and whining? I'm done with this thread, this latest has made me throw up in my mouth a little. I tried discussing with you, which you acknowledged after a reminder, and then you went after the argument again. Perhaps this is why you can't find a Domme to pay attention to you- are you worth getting to know? Your issue has nothing to do with fin Dommes, but with your whining personality.

For the record, no, I don't think it's ok and I said that earlier which you are once again ignoring, but I don't have a fair, workable solution and neither do you. I don't happen to have a workable solution for the cheaters either except to buckle down and look for them myself.



PrincessJessieJ -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:46:14 PM)

If you'd bothered reading half of the posts made here since this thread was started, you would see that that isn't what they're saying at all. A submissive male does not necessarily have to pay a pro or a fin to find his Mistress.
From what I gathered, what they're saying is your ATTITUDE could use some help- because quite frankly, with what I've read from you, I can honestly tell you right now that I highly doubt any of my lifestyler friends would allow you to serve them. You come across as overly argumentative- more of a spoiled brat than I act like some days- and it makes me wonder if you understand anything about being a sub at all, re: Power exchange, much less anything else that's been said..



Lockit -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:54:07 PM)

Good powers that be... dink back for a pity party and making a splash in the pool. Surprise, surprise! dink, I know I have personally tried to be nice to you and have tried the email route. You totally ignored me. I don't want your money. I don't want your anything other than for you to stop coming every couple of months with your pity party and aggression.

I doubt I will get what I want anymore than you will get what you want.



stef -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 2:56:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dink22

lol. Nope. I'd rather spend another "50 some odd years on this rock, bitter and alone." stef, c'mon, don't you think that's a bit of an overreached conclusion?

Based on what you've said, no, I don't think so.

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Or maybe it's correct, but if it is, I'm doomed to always be alone. CM, and most of the people responding to me, convince me that I'm a fish out of water. SUBMISSIVE MALE????? WHY DID YOU EVER EXPECT ANYTHING BUT TO PAY PAY PAY MONEY MONEY MONEY?????????????????????p

Perhaps you should stop trying to figure out what you think people are trying to say and instead actually read what they DID say.

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And you guys ALL seem to think this is okay. That this is as it should be. That this is normal. That this is right. And you despise me for challenging that position.

You're wrong. Again.



kalikshama -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 3:09:02 PM)

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SUBMISSIVE MALE????? WHY DID YOU EVER EXPECT ANYTHING BUT TO PAY PAY PAY MONEY MONEY MONEY?????????????????????

And you guys ALL seem to think this is okay. That this is as it should be. That this is normal. That this is right. And you despise me for challenging that position.


I don't recall ONE person saying that, let alone ALL. Please quote these statements.

(I have said in the past if a man has a script and does not want to invest in a relationship, than a pro domme may be the best choice for him, which is not the same as saying all submissive males should pay pay pay.)



dink22 -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 3:09:34 PM)

You supposedly "dom" het females shouldn't bitch. Just for the record: July, 2012. Read the comments. There are no real dom chicks here. I realize, in 50 years, my point will be well taken and I'll seem ahead of my time. But in 2012, supposedly "dom" chicks want SO BADLY to be accepted by the "community" they don't think for themselves. It's depressing, but I realize guys like me are ahead of our time. It goes with the territory. They're not bad people at all. They're just not free.



stef -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 3:15:08 PM)


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ORIGINAL: dink22

You supposedly "dom" het females shouldn't bitch. Just for the record: July, 2012. Read the comments. There are no real dom chicks here. I realize, in 50 years, my point will be well taken and I'll seem ahead of my time. But in 2012, supposedly "dom" chicks want SO BADLY to be accepted by the "community" they don't think for themselves. It's depressing, but I realize guys like me are ahead of our time. It goes with the territory. They're not bad people at all. They're just not free.

I'm not a "dom het female", and there's absolutely nothing "ahead of your time" about being a professional victim.

Bitter, table of one, the rest of your life is waiting.



LadyPact -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 3:20:16 PM)


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ORIGINAL: dink22

You supposedly "dom" het females shouldn't bitch. Just for the record: July, 2012. Read the comments. There are no real dom chicks here. I realize, in 50 years, my point will be well taken and I'll seem ahead of my time. But in 2012, supposedly "dom" chicks want SO BADLY to be accepted by the "community" they don't think for themselves. It's depressing, but I realize guys like me are ahead of our time. It goes with the territory. They're not bad people at all. They're just not free.

Dude, ya know, I don't bitch much. At the same time, I know My place at the table. (Look it up.)

A year from now, or fifty years from now, I'll still be a leather chick. That means far more to Me than it ever will to you.

Feel free to be ahead of your time. Do what you must. As I'm sure that you feel sorry for Me, I feel sorry for you as well.




PrincessJessieJ -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 3:25:43 PM)


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ORIGINAL: dink22

You supposedly "dom" het females shouldn't bitch. Just for the record: July, 2012. Read the comments. There are no real dom chicks here. I realize, in 50 years, my point will be well taken and I'll seem ahead of my time. But in 2012, supposedly "dom" chicks want SO BADLY to be accepted by the "community" they don't think for themselves. It's depressing, but I realize guys like me are ahead of our time. It goes with the territory. They're not bad people at all. They're just not free.


First off, I'm not a 'supposedly' 'het' anything, although according to my mother I am 'supposedly female'.

You're just acting like a dick. How is that ahead of your time, exactly?



LanaDeVille -> RE: (Potential Scam) Financial Dommes Taking over the Personals (7/13/2012 3:29:14 PM)


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ORIGINAL: dink22

You supposedly "dom" het females shouldn't bitch. Just for the record: July, 2012. Read the comments. There are no real dom chicks here. I realize, in 50 years, my point will be well taken and I'll seem ahead of my time. But in 2012, supposedly "dom" chicks want SO BADLY to be accepted by the "community" they don't think for themselves. It's depressing, but I realize guys like me are ahead of our time. It goes with the territory. They're not bad people at all. They're just not free.


Pssh. I'm asexual anyway.



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