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One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 6:45:09 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		I'm really not in the mood to complain these days, but for some reason I seem to be getting a LOT of one-liner introductions from women these days. You know the kind that say something like: "I read your profile and am looking for a sub, so send me all of your information." Now, I know that a guy that does this gets flamed to the ends of the Moon, yet I've noticed that when a woman does it, we really don't say a lot about it. I know there's this whole "there's a lot more guys looking for women than there are women looking for men" attitude, but doesn't it constitute the exact same thing if a woman is contacting a man?

I know people will probably lose their lunch over this, but I usually don't respond to any of these types of messages. I figure they're really not all that into me if their first contact with me is to ask me for a photo and more information about me, but then don't give me a reason to why I should give a flying flip about them.

What are your thoughts on this?
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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 6:48:54 PM   
pinkee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

I'm really not in the mood to complain these days, but for some reason I seem to be getting a LOT of one-liner introductions from women these days. You know the kind that say something like: "I read your profile and am looking for a sub, so send me all of your information." Now, I know that a guy that does this gets flamed to the ends of the Moon, yet I've noticed that when a woman does it, we really don't say a lot about it. I know there's this whole "there's a lot more guys looking for women than there are women looking for men" attitude, but doesn't it constitute the exact same thing if a woman is contacting a man?

I know people will probably lose their lunch over this, but I usually don't respond to any of these types of messages. I figure they're really not all that into me if their first contact with me is to ask me for a photo and more information about me, but then don't give me a reason to why I should give a flying flip about them.

What are your thoughts on this?



i say " i liked Your profile.  Please read mine and respond if so inclined."
 
Asking You to describe Y/yourself in a one liner opening salvo seems like a control issue or just bad manners.
 
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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 6:53:02 PM   
OedipusRexIt


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Status: offline 		Chalk it up to uber-Dommes who expect instant submission.  I understand it's common on all sides, though.

Rude people abound.  Think of it as help in knowing to pass them by.

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 6:53:22 PM   
zumala


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Status: offline 		*shrugs* If a female writes you and you don't care for what's said or how you preceive it was meant to be taken, then don't reply.  It's no different from a female receiving a stupid message from a male.  Although I personally think asking for SPECIFIC information based on the profile would be a much better start then just asking generally.  I hate it when guys do that to me, so I imagine it must feel the same going the other direction.
 
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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 6:54:20 PM   
Misstoyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

I figure they're really not all that into me if their first contact with me is to ask me for a photo and more information about me, but then don't give me a reason to why I should give a flying flip about them.



Well, I can't argue with the logic, but on the other hand, the Dommes *did* take time from reading the endless petitions from sub males to make an effort to write to you. lol Your post does make a nice change from, "why don't Dommes respond" though. :)

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 6:57:21 PM   
Slipstreme


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Status: offline 		It depends on what one needs to say. Sometimes I just compliment people on their profiles,or something on their profile, ask them about a subject they are more experienced with or even to compliment their picture.

Of course, I'm not really looking for a partner, so I guess the information echange is different.

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 7:00:13 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		couple of things, as LuckyAlbatross pointed out on some other post, it is spring and a young kinksters fancy turns to........the influx of people is one reason.

sarbonne, you know as well as I do that it is a buyer's market for all intents and purposes.  The double  standard is double-blind.........

You, being a man of some age and wisdom, know just as well as anyone that is of an age of majority, that most of them are not gonna lead anywhere..............on the other hand you probably have friends that are in your catagory.......I have alot of female master freinds whom I visit with from time to time...........there is no question of whether or not we will make the beast..............

So, it is ALL good...........perhaps you might strike up a friendship and don't worry about the protocols and so on.............

LOL, glad to see you are still chugging little train!!!!
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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 7:02:09 PM   
spankmepink11


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Status: offline 		Right or wrong....i'm not a rude person,  but i never answer one liner emails either. I actually answer very few emails in general.   And if i do answer,  it's  usually a  polite declination, since i prefer most personal/one on one  contact to be with someone who is close enough to be "viable" for face to face interaction. " Online" can fill many needs for some, but i'm just not interested in months worth of online only interaction.

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 7:12:36 PM   
DelRey


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Status: offline 		Testosterone check !!!   Dude, your a guy and you are expecting the warm and fuzzy love letter or you won't reply?.... You have got to start “just saying NO” to Dr. Phill or put on the Spanish channel and watch some cleavage for a while. Shit forward them letters to me.

It don't mean  you have to swallow the hook, just taste the bait. I for one don't need to be beat over the head in reading a signal. A flirt, a smile, nipples popping through the bra what ever.... it don't have to be the "Sharon Stone" uncrossing of the legs for me to get a hint of a possible interest.

For Criss sake man, I'll reply if they send me a pic of there used panties... well maybe that is a lil exaggeration but less of an exaggeration if there thongs... LOL

Just busting some balls here

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 7:15:32 PM   
irishbynature


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Status: offline 		I just reply..."Did you read the profile?" Esp when I get messages asking me to move into a poly home and clean floors, wash clothes, and cook food. I sometimes add..."I'm a submissive..and I don't do windows." LOL

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 7:25:06 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Irish... I have a position opening up in my home for you when you get tired of "playing" at being a slave my little sweetheart. You will be required to go without sleep as I need you on call 24-7.. How does that sound? You will also have to provide your own airfare to my city, clean my toilets, brush my teeth for me.. and I do not have food in my house for you, please provide your own..smiles

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 7:25:15 PM   
murmur


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Status: offline 		For the OP, there are as many dumb womans as there as mens. Same goes for one-liners, unfortunately. You're just into one of those phases again. Wait, it'll pass...

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 7:29:08 PM   
littlesarbonn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Slipstreme

It depends on what one needs to say. Sometimes I just compliment people on their profiles,or something on their profile, ask them about a subject they are more experienced with or even to compliment their picture.

Of course, I'm not really looking for a partner, so I guess the information echange is different.


Oh, I talk to people at length in personal messages. I don't have a problem with that. A lot of female subs and I communicate back and forth. I know I'm never going to "get" anything out of them other than friendship, but some people don't realize that "just that" is quite a lot. Friends are cool. Friends are great to have, so I'm always happy to have them.

I, too, compliment people on posts. I even sent a comment the other day to a female submissive who was just drop dead gorgeous. I wasn't intending on "hooking up" with her, and I made that clear, but she said something in her profile that struck a chord, and I decided to mention that to her. She didn't respond, probably thinking I was some guy trying to get in her pants, but that's okay. I'm used to that.

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 7:49:02 PM   
mistresszarah


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Status: offline 		littlesarbonn,

As a dominate who receives *several* messages I often do not respond to those who are in direct conflict of my profile.
Most often I respond with one liners when the sub has neglected to fill out his profile, or the join date indicates the profile has yet to be approved.

Unfortunately I cannot comment on the initial message question as I have never initiated contact with a sub.

Zarah

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 7:53:36 PM   
littlesarbonn


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ORIGINAL: mistresszarah

littlesarbonn,

Unfortunately I cannot comment on the initial message question as I have never initiated contact with a sub.



That's okay. Neither have I.

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 7:58:38 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		My profile runs off 99% of those who read it...works perfectly.

Don't sweat that most don't respond, you are probably MUCH better off that way.  Just make sure enough of you IS on your profile so the ones you might actually be interested in and have things in common would say "gee, there is one that stands out to me"!

Best of luck

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 8:00:48 PM   
littlesarbonn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

My profile runs off 99% of those who read it...works perfectly.

Don't sweat that most don't respond, you are probably MUCH better off that way.  Just make sure enough of you IS on your profile so the ones you might actually be interested in and have things in common would say "gee, there is one that stands out to me"!

Best of luck



Um, okay. But this thread wasn't really about people not responding to my profile.

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/8/2006 8:28:14 PM   
mistresszarah


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Status: offline 		littlesarbonn,

You have mail. <evil giggle>

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/9/2006 7:22:51 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		littlesarbonn,

I wouldn't worry about it too much. If they're sending that, they haven't read your profile as it has a great deal of information. I believe I sent you a one-liner question once concerning a point I didn't see addressed in your profile. you responded and answered my question. So, it's not that they've sent a one-liner, it's that the one liner is less than desirable.

Be picky. you have the right just as much as everyone else has the right.

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RE: One-liners that come from women on introductions - 6/9/2006 7:31:42 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn
What are your thoughts on this?


I've had a few one liner responces and frankly I wasn't impressed in the slightest. If they aren't going to put any effort in what so ever at that stage then it strikes me as pretty likely they won't put effort in later on either so frankly are not worth my time.

The reason I don't think you see too many complaints about it from Males is that we don't tend to get inundated by them whilst the ladys do.


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