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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 11:01:56 AM   
brattysub4


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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 11:15:02 AM   
RiotGirl


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Ahhh but fantasies do come to life sometimes! You just have to have faith and believe in them and have a POSITIVE ATTITUDE!!


LOL if THAT really worked.. idda of been a millionaire at the age of 10 AND like 6 feet tall.. plus one would be like a biker.. with some massive muscle and some wicked tats.

LOL it doesnt always work = (

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 11:47:43 AM   
Slipstreme


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Status: offline 		To the OP, there will always be assholes no matter which avenue you choose to open your self to. Plus, some of us, like myself, aren't here to find their perfect one. Hell I found my family by being a Furry, not an S&Mer, and that was through a friend of his I used to roleplay with, and he just happens to have a poly relationship I am now a part of. It just so happens we all share the same likes. What do I equate that too? Dumb luck. But, I never once joined a site to find my significant other, just to talk to others and be myself, and maybe make a few friends. Why? I have never put emphasis on finding a soulmate as being the number one goal in life. I just figured everything had its time and place and would all work itself out. It has. Honestly, those who get upset about not being able to find Mr, or Ms right is simply trying way too hard and getting caught up in the mess that usually floats around everywhere, in every scene in the nilla, BDSM or Furry world. Stop being so negative and chill for a while. I can guarantee you are less likely to find a soulmate by complaining about it on the collarchat boards. Besides, sometimes it will come as a surprise, when you least expect it. And when it happens, it happens. The world doesn't end because you got impatient and frustrated dealing with "fakes" and "liars".

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 11:59:40 AM   
JohnWarren


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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 1:31:02 PM   
EvilGeoff


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Status: offline 		Having had the pleasure of attending a presentation given by Mr & Mrs Warren, I will attest to the fact that they are very real. 

I can also verify that Carolsea, LA. NajakCharmer and others are real from the simple fact that I have met them, spoken with them face to face, hugged them, watched them play or am friends with others who vouch for their existance...

I can not speak to their luck in finding suitable partners here in this forum but I can verify their reality.

Of course, if you assume _I_ am not real, then my verification counts for naught, eh?

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 1:36:43 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: EvilGeoff
I can also verify that Carolsea, LA.

That was totally my evil twin.

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 2:24:15 PM   
pinkee


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ORIGINAL: slavejlb

This is my respondance to all who think they are looking for a real life time realtionship.  I hate to say but you are not going to fine it here, here you will fine nothing more then smoke and mirrors, made up of darken dreams, and unfilled fanstaies. of lost hidden desires, that the way we can explore though words and sharing of wants needs and desires.
sorry for my negative, dishearten attude,
take care and be safe
slave jlb


Sorry you're not happy with CM; best wishes.
 
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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 2:31:45 PM   
meatcleaver


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Status: offline 		Since the world exists within our imagination you are right.

It is a fantasy because if I abduct a woman and do what I want with her I would now be behind bars so I have to rely on her consent to play out such a scenario as with all scenarios that involve sex and violence but even with vanilla sex one needs consent.

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 2:55:39 PM   
iliv2servher


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ORIGINAL: slavejlb

This is my respondance to all who think they are looking for a real life time realtionship.  I hate to say but you are not going to fine it here, here you will fine nothing more then smoke and mirrors, made up of darken dreams, and unfilled fanstaies. of lost hidden desires, that the way we can explore though words and sharing of wants needs and desires.
sorry for my negative, dishearten attude,
take care and be safe
slave jlb



As others here have said, it's easy to become discouraged and give up.  Even though the journey to find someone to share those fantasies and dreams is often plagued by disappointment, I think you would agree that looking for a good match is equally-difficult in the vanilla world.  And if this journey is something that comes from deep within you, then you will never be truly happy without it.

I think that the advice coming from GddssBella was very appropriate when she said, "Stop looking."  If you put all of your energy into making friends here, getting involved in the discussions, and not try to find immediate gratification, you just might find that special person you are seeking, but all in good time.

Best of luck to you!




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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 4:04:32 PM   
Bluebird


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ORIGINAL: slavejlb

This is my respondance to all who think they are looking for a real life time realtionship.  I hate to say but you are not going to fine it here, here you will fine nothing more then smoke and mirrors, made up of darken dreams, and unfilled fanstaies. of lost hidden desires, that the way we can explore though words and sharing of wants needs and desires.
sorry for my negative, dishearten attude,
take care and be safe
slave jlb


Wow, with a positive attitude like that, how can you fail???  I'm sure ANYONE would love to spend time with someone who is incoherently grumpy.

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 7:56:39 PM   
Submotive


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ORIGINAL: Dustyn

I KNEW I was a figment of my own imagination... *smirk*

ROTFLMAO

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 8:07:43 PM   
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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 8:28:32 PM   
CrescentLuna


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Status: offline 		BDSM isn't going to be your magic ticket to a "'til death do us part" relationship. Nor is any one specific trait. However, the people here are capable of finding that long-term love. Whether over this forum or outside of it, or outside of BDSM all together. Yeah, there are a lot of fakes or jerks in the world - it takes some hunting. But I've found wonderful people online, and don't think this forum is going to be so intrinsically different.

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 8:53:14 PM   
MstrssPassion


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slavejlb This is my respondance to all who think they are looking for a real life time realtionship.  I hate to say but you are not going to fine it here


Well you are correct up to this part...

I didn't find my life partner here. I found her on that little 3 letter word site over run but bogus profiles, professional dommes, low life cretins & spam. If the two of us could meet on a site like that... believe me, there is hope for everyone on this site.

But you know what... you'll never know with an attitude like yours. Less than one month on the site & you toss us all out like we were yesterdays trash.

pessimism will always lead you to a dead end road of despair

Try getting YOURSELF in check & the world will be a much brighter place.

FYI... funny thing happened when I spell-checked this document, respondance isn't a word & the first suggestion to replace it is "despondence" which seems to be oh so apropos


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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 9:04:52 PM   
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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 9:07:36 PM   
awhisper


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Status: offline 		i'm so sorry you feel this way jlb. please contact me, let's chat and see how it can be better. you'd be surprised what girl power can do for you. And it does not diminish your slave status to experience a little girl power. It actually has made me a better slave. Please see my profile and give me a shout!.
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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/9/2006 9:14:17 PM   
ScooterTrash


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ORIGINAL: slavejlb

This is my respondance to all who think they are looking for a real life time realtionship.  I hate to say but you are not going to fine it here, here you will fine nothing more then smoke and mirrors, made up of darken dreams, and unfilled fanstaies. of lost hidden desires, that the way we can explore though words and sharing of wants needs and desires.
sorry for my negative, dishearten attude,
take care and be safe
slave jlb

Amazing how people who don't have a clue, end up thinking after a short period of time they are some sort of expert. No, I won't join in the feeling sorry for you club, you're not special...we have all weathered some storms over the years, but many, as I, have found what they were looking for, perhaps when we weren't even looking. If you read the posts on these boards, you will find that although there are many players in the net world, there are many of us who are very real, more real most likely than your apparent desparity. If you felt that posting this on the board, like some drama queen seeking sympathy, was going to get you a positive reaction, I fear you were mistaken. Generally I toss out an idea or thought that is open for debate...but in this case...a resounding "you are so full of it" seems more appropriate.

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/10/2006 1:49:56 AM   
becca333


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Status: offline 		Some people here are wonderful, some are total jerks, most are somewhere in between.  Some people find great relationships here, some get cheated and dumped on.

Pretty much like real life anywhere else.

Sorry you're hurting, not sure what set it off but I hope it gets sorted soon.

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/10/2006 4:40:01 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Your profile shows that you've only been a member for less than a month.
Takes a lot more time than that to find the sadist of your dreams.

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RE: bdsm is only a fanstay of the mind - 6/10/2006 4:50:46 AM   
KennelDeSade2


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