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sheisreeds -> RE: BDSM vs S&M (7/20/2012 3:33:37 PM)
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On Training and Fighting:
Littlewonder: Overall, honestly I agree with you. Though there are dumbnuts into kink that community needs to account for. I think classes in anything where there is any risk of grave harm should be offered by local communities, if only for CYA! It differentiates US from the assholes who cut open their partner's vagina in a fuck saw accident(yes this happened, someone thought it wise to put the dildo on the SAW BLADE) . Also sometimes instruction can be incredibly useful, and there are some areas where safety on the whole tends to be way underlooked (fire play being a biggie).
CPR/First aid, standard precautions, real fire safety, needles, knives, and heavy impact play are all areas where common sense and solid foundation of knowledge are needed.
I also agree that the BDSM "community" has a tendency to become so obsessed with safety that the appearance of safe ends up coming before actual safety.
I was at an event where only a set list of vetted folks could do fire play, and there had to be a dm, and a spotter, and all this other crap. I walk in and the bottom is wearing nylons, and a skirt all of which could melt to her skin in a second if there was any sort of slip. And the tops flame was mere inches from this potential hot melty inferno. All that appearance of safety wouldn't have counted for shit.
Also fighting someone you are angry at, or someone who is angry at you is very different than play with a partner. The goals and motives are different, with very different results. Not to mention ER visits due to BDSM are not very fun. We've been accused of DV before, don't wanna bring doctors and cops into it.
I came into edgier play already having a background in First Aid, CPR, professional fire performing, Anatomy and Physiology, among other things. Along with years and years of working up to my edges. So I didn't practice what I just preached, I used what I already new, supplemented with some research, some talks with folks I trusted, and a lot of common sense. Which bridges into:
graceadieu and hathgriven:
Injury can easily be avoided by going slow and learning as you go. We started by rough wrestling, kicking, biting, slapping while laying down. Then we started standing up on carpet/mats. Then we started using some toys while we fought. It was a progression overtime. We got better at it, learned how to hit harder and more safely. We learned how to make it more of a spectacle. In a lot of ways we jumped right into the deep end of the pool. We didn't dive though, if we had we would of cracked our heads open.
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