What does Edge Play mean to you?

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sheisreeds -> What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 6:10:26 AM)
One of the things that fascinates me about Edge Play is that it doesn't have a set definition. Pretty much anything can become edge play when taken to a certain extreme, or depending on the participants comfort level. What has generally been considered Edge Play has also been known to shift as those edges are explored en masse and over time become viewed as common practice. Most definitions I have heard in the end amount to this: quote: Edge play - Erotic role play near or at the edge of a submissive's or dominant's limits. The term also refers to activities that carry a higher than usual element of risk. From: http://www.novad.org/Primer/Definitions.html How do you define Edge Play for yourself, or in your relationship? So what practices do you consider to be Edge Play? What practices constitute your edge? Is the edge of your own comfortable level something you strive to experience? Or are your personal edges set as limits in play? Those are some questions to start, please ask and answer more :) I do ask that we be respectful and respect one another's kinks and preferences.

DesFIP -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 8:06:39 AM)
Both of those definitions. However, needles, waterboarding, breath play, punching, electricity, suspension, fireplay. All of which carry high levels of risk and require absolute attention. If the dog is sick and you can't stop what you're doing to open a door for him without your bottom being likely to be harmed, that's edge play. My own limits? I don't think there's anything we do that I consider edgy. The things I can't handle at all aren't edge play, they're hard limits.

kalikshama -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 8:14:19 AM)
Edgy for me are things with sharp...edges [8D] But seriously: needles and blades - things that draw blood.

ResidentSadist -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 8:26:32 AM)
For me edge play = deadly consequences.

sheisreeds -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 8:38:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist For me edge play = deadly consequences. I fear that's where my edge is headed. This is something where my view of it has changed overtime. Sensual Knife play? Originally it was OMG if we fuck up one of us could die! Now we know our knives, fear of imminent death, maiming and harm have reduced to near zero. We have other things we do now with knives that take on this definition of edge play. At some foggy point, the edge does become a line that can't be crossed with any sense of safety. Does your edge move?

sheisreeds -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 8:39:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama Edgy for me are things with sharp...edges [8D] But seriously: needles and blades - things that draw blood. Still in the sense that they push your the edge of your limits?

sheisreeds -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 8:52:54 AM)
> How do you define Edge Play for yourself, or in your relationship? Anything that invokes fear, pushes either of our comfort levels as the top, bottom, or a mutual experience. Anything that requires research and preparation to be anything approaching safe. Anything that has the potential to completely shift a boundary. In essence for me this is about growth and expanding my horizons. > So what practices do you consider to be Edge Play? I do a lot of things widely considered to be edge play, that aren't edgy for me at all anymore. Fire play, knife play, blood play, suspension, punching, consensual non-consent, the list goes on. A lot of these things no longer meet the boundary pushing or preparation aspects of edge play. As some of these things are well practiced. I consider edge play to be the practice, the edge is constantly moving, I want it to continue to shift and continue to experience new things. > What practices constitute your edge? Things I am currently doing that are edgy for me: Blood cupping, fighting with metal, fighting w/ knives. Things I am working up to: Venipuncture, suturing (including cuts), hook suspension. > Is the edge of your own comfortable level something you strive to experience? Absolutely. Though at the same time it isn't about experiencing everything for me. I'm not a fan of anal, scat play, anything involving urine. I love breath play but choose not to engage in it as for me it isn't worth the risk. There are some things though that just call to me, and I want to take them as far as I can.

sexyred1 -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 8:56:42 AM)
I don't want to go into detail, but edge play for me put me in the hospital for 5 days. Just be careful out there!!

LadyPact -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 9:02:55 AM)
I think this thread that I did some time back explains My thoughts best. http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2499651&key=edge%2Cplay

ResidentSadist -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 9:04:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sheisreeds quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist For me edge play = deadly consequences. I fear that's where my edge is headed. This is something where my view of it has changed overtime. Sensual Knife play? Originally it was OMG if we fuck up one of us could die! Now we know our knives, fear of imminent death, maiming and harm have reduced to near zero. We have other things we do now with knives that take on this definition of edge play. At some foggy point, the edge does become a line that can't be crossed with any sense of safety. Does your edge move? Yes, my personal edge moves in conjunction with experience, skill, partners and equipment. Some partners are more fearless, some gear (like the water tank I want) makes edgy things easier. For example: 'Dunking' right now requires a bit of effort and set up. Hog tying in the tub or using the pool outside and risking the neighbors or police if she starts screaming too loud. I have a new girl and I haven't yet to play with dunking. Now if I had that clear Lexan water tank I designed, I would have already done some pretty intense water dunking with her. I want a clear plastic rectangular water tank. It should have two chambers with the divider at the 70/30 mark. The smaller chamber is the holding tank with pretty blue water and a heater. The other chamber is for the slave. This way she can see the water reservoir as it empties into her chamber. There is a whole cut in the lid so she can breathe through a tube while completely submerged.

Kana -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 9:06:03 AM)
How do you define Edge Play for yourself, or in your relationship? Things that are or could be very very dangerous, as in potentially deadly So what practices do you consider to be Edge Play? Knives, razors, cutting, real fire play, extreme breath play, cattleprods, skewers, needles, nailguns, blowtorches What practices constitute your edge? See above Is the edge of your own comfortable level something you strive to experience? I like to push edges hard, so yes-I wanna push things almost as far as they can go...right up to the edge so to speak Or are your personal edges set as limits in play? Limits are made to be expanded :-p

sheisreeds -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 9:11:39 AM)
Let me ask you then, how has your edge shifted over time, are there things that you used to consider with trepidation, that are now standard in your play? How essential for you is pushing boundaries in play? Do you consider it a need?

sheisreeds -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 9:13:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana I like to push edges hard, so yes-I wanna push things almost as far as they can go...right up to the edge so to speak What do you get out of pushing your own boundaries? What do you get out of pushing hers? And why do you like it?

IrishMist -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 9:20:51 AM)
quote: How do you define Edge Play for yourself, or in your relationship? This was asked once before; I will answer the same as I did then. For me, edge play is when my own survival is not assured. quote: So what practices do you consider to be Edge Play? Within my own definition... Breath Play Any activity that draws blood painfully...and by this I don't mean scratches or a couple drops here or there. I mean, literally, draws blood in a way that it flows freely. Any activity that takes me to the edge of life and death. quote: What practices constitute your edge? See above quote: Is the edge of your own comfortable level something you strive to experience? Each and every time quote: Or are your personal edges set as limits in play? WHEN I do play with someone in this nature, there are no limits in regards to what is acceptable and what is not. It's more of a case of 'go with the flow' . However, I never, never, play casually with someone. Those who I have played with, know me and what I need and are carefully picked to give that to me. As an aside...there are very few who are willing to play with me simply because I AM to edgy for their own tastes.

IrishMist -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 9:22:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I think this thread that I did some time back explains My thoughts best. http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2499651&key=edge%2Cplay That's the thread I was referencing [:D]

LadyPact -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 9:50:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IrishMist quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I think this thread that I did some time back explains My thoughts best. http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2499651&key=edge%2Cplay That's the thread I was referencing [:D] I thought it might be. Actually one of My favored here because RS and I had such a good stream of thoughts going and a number of the answers were so very good. I love it when people open themselves up a bit. [:)]

NuevaVida -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 9:59:18 AM)
I've gotten less edgy over time. Without getting into details, the last edgy thing I did nearly made my mind crack. At least that's how it felt. It would take me a very long time to process it, and it took me years to heal from, after the relationship ended. It was not life-threatening. Edgy does not have to mean painful or life-risking.

hathgriven -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 10:15:58 AM)
For me personally, I feel a close sense of bonding and shared experience with edge play. I feel the pleasure and pain through the other person... it almost borders on jealousy of her having been through difficulties and surviving, but it feels healthier than jealousy, if that makes any sense. I don't feel like my edge moves very much. It's more that there are certain things that I would like to do, but never at too much risk. I agree with sheisreeds in that some things that were formerly at the edge no longer become at the edge and lose their luster (e.g., for me, basic knife play). But other things, like blood play, breath play, choking, tight rope bondage, etc., don't lose (or haven't yet lost) their deep bonding and meaning. Edge play requires extreme focus and attention to detail. Edge play is also something I like to mix things up - I don't want it all the time and some times I do want vanilla sex. If you're feeling tired, a little mentally drained from work, then I personally think it's better to have a more gentle way of bonding at that time.

JeffBC -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 10:29:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sheisreeds How do you define Edge Play for yourself, or in your relationship? http://www.collarchat.com/m_4176503/tm.htm For me I've always been more of an "in my mind" person than "in my body". So predictably, for me, the edges I look for are internal.

NuevaVida -> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? (7/21/2012 10:37:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote: ORIGINAL: sheisreeds How do you define Edge Play for yourself, or in your relationship? http://www.collarchat.com/m_4176503/tm.htm For me I've always been more of an "in my mind" person than "in my body". So predictably, for me, the edges I look for are internal. Yeah, it's been my personal experience that the internal edgy stuff is far deeper reaching and more difficult than the external for me. However, it took an external physical (but not physically painful) influence to cause my internal self to nearly crack - go figure. Then again, I think one of the results of "extreme" external play is what it creates internally. Maybe that's why I still have such strong negative reactions to the internal stuff these days. Ha, no maybe about it.

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