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Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 2:00:41 PM

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Not sure how many folks will identify with this. Just throwing it out there for opinions.

Especially on the Ask A Mistress board, we get a lot of posts that ask if anybody has ever done kink X? No matter what people come up with, I'm pretty sure that somebody on CM has done it. One of the sadists or masochists here will be able to say yes.

This got Me thinking. Do you ever feel it would be easier to say that you haven't done a, b, and c, instead of trying to list all of the stuff that you have ever done?

I'm a later in life sadist. I know what My "I've done it" list looks like. I can not even begin to imagine what those lists would look like for people who have been doing this twenty years or more.

Thoughts and comments welcome.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 2:30:36 PM

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Hello LadyP!

My 'done' list is pretty small. As is my 'oh hell no!' list.

Because I've no interest in playing with random people, it rather limits my 'done' list. I am okay with that. I've loads of common sense and wouldn't try something, just because it sounds like fun. I've always been an, err on the side of caution, kinda chick. I don't like icky surprises. Anyone that's bothered to get to know me, trusts me in that regard. Usually, they get annoyed when I won't do something I am not confident of pulling off to my satisfaction.

But as far as making kink activity lists, I've discovered it really is easier to say what I won't do, rather than list all of my interests, and the "maybe, if the energy and mood was right", stuff.

If all of that makes any sense at all...

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 2:48:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Not sure how many folks will identify with this. Just throwing it out there for opinions.

Especially on the Ask A Mistress board, we get a lot of posts that ask if anybody has ever done kink X? No matter what people come up with, I'm pretty sure that somebody on CM has done it. One of the sadists or masochists here will be able to say yes.

This got Me thinking. Do you ever feel it would be easier to say that you haven't done a, b, and c, instead of trying to list all of the stuff that you have ever done?

I'm a later in life sadist. I know what My "I've done it" list looks like. I can not even begin to imagine what those lists would look like for people who have been doing this twenty years or more.

Thoughts and comments welcome.

Honestly, it's easier for me to list what I have done, versus what I have not done. Simple reason is that while some of the things I have done are off the wall, they ARE in a small number in regards to what I COULD do in the realm of BDSM.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 2:53:42 PM

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I find it easier to answer as it comes up: "Have you done kink x?" Yes/No. Kink x is the subject. Kinks a - w are irrelevant to the topic.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 2:54:43 PM

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I would say it would be best to say what you will NOT do and what you WOULD certainly do under the right circumstances and would be willing to discuss play not listed. I presume you are talking about in your profile.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 2:56:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Not sure how many folks will identify with this. Just throwing it out there for opinions.

Especially on the Ask A Mistress board, we get a lot of posts that ask if anybody has ever done kink X? No matter what people come up with, I'm pretty sure that somebody on CM has done it. One of the sadists or masochists here will be able to say yes.

This got Me thinking. Do you ever feel it would be easier to say that you haven't done a, b, and c, instead of trying to list all of the stuff that you have ever done?

I'm a later in life sadist. I know what My "I've done it" list looks like. I can not even begin to imagine what those lists would look like for people who have been doing this twenty years or more.

Thoughts and comments welcome.

To write down what I've done would take too long and give me hand cramps, I'm sure.. to write down what I haven't done would probably give me brain cramps trying to come up with stuff. I've been.. a busy girl.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 2:58:10 PM

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I've been.. a busy girl.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 2:58:18 PM

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*laughs* Well let's see. Here's two different answers.

For me, my "done list" would look a lot like, "Missionary sex".

For you, no matter how extensive your "done list" is, I'll bet you $100 that I could double it's size with other stuff you haven't done and I'm not even immersed in kink yet. You haven't, by any chance, gotten on to eyeball licking or spinal tap play have you?

My general rule of kink is, "Even if your LadyPact, the universe of kink is WAY broader than you can imagine."

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 3:02:34 PM

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Sometimes I say, "Oh, I'd never..." and then I have an "Oh, wait."

Much of the time when I say I don't like doing something, it's because I tried it at some point, or just somehow found myself doing it...

There's a long list of things I would like to do, but it's a pretty extreme list... and honestly? Why should I share either list with some mook on the internet?

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 3:10:50 PM

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eyeball licking

Hard limit. But Cossette, my cat, wakes me up with non-consensual eyeball licking every morning. Damn you cat.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 3:16:23 PM

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Hiya, LaT.

Hib and Bita, you were actually two of the folks I was also thinking of writing this thing. In fact, I almost messed up writing the original and didn't have the masochist part in there. (Just not My frame of reference, so I don't think of it that way.)

Jeff, it's not that point that I've done them. It's that they get done at all and the very WIDE amount of experience that we have here. Not for nothing, but I highly doubt I'd ever be qualified to mess with someone's spine. Doesn't take that much skill to lick an eyeball.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 3:32:27 PM

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Why does everyone quote eyeball licking as
one of those extra weird kinks... is it really
that weird? i've done it, and i'm a prude...

Hmm spinal tapping isn't my sceen though...

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 3:33:59 PM

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See, medical play = Do Not Like. Easy peasy!

I like to lick, though.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 4:07:34 PM

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I don't know why folks use eyeball licking. I think it's because it might be on some people's 'now that's just gross' list.

Still, most of the kinks that people come here asking about are stuff you can see at darn near any public club any given weekend.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 4:47:27 PM

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Though I consider my "done" list to be small compared to some of you lovely people here (and I'm just guessing at that), it's longer...and weirder....than others I know outside of here.

My "will never do" list is quite small. Despite what I list as "limits," I really only have one that I'm very firm on. Other than that, I think it's more about my choosing the right partner than it is making the list.

Now...my "sure, I would try it list" is endless. :)

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 4:59:14 PM

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quote:

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*laughs* Well let's see. Here's two different answers.

For me, my "done list" would look a lot like, "Missionary sex".

For you, no matter how extensive your "done list" is, I'll bet you $100 that I could double it's size with other stuff you haven't done and I'm not even immersed in kink yet. You haven't, by any chance, gotten on to eyeball licking or spinal tap play have you?

My general rule of kink is, "Even if your LadyPact, the universe of kink is WAY broader than you can imagine."

Well, ya got me there, Jeff. I've never had a spinal tap and I've never scened on the moon either. That's two already! I would love to do a scene in zero gee's but Richard Branson won't return my phone calls. Bastard.

In the realm of realistic and accessible to the average person, I'm not sure that doubling my list would be that easy a task so earning that $100 would take a bita work on your part but, certainly, eventually, it's possible given the vastness of 'stuff' there is to do. 30 years, 200 some odd play partners and counting and I'm not bored yet.

(Yes, I do casual play and if I'm at the local dungeon I will scene with folks within 10 mins of meeting them (if they smell good!) I'll play chess within 10 mins of meeting someone, too.

We just negotiate first and then one of us is .. mostly naked. Generally, I top more these days than bottom. (Himself is stingy with sharing his toys for some reason. He never did work or play well with others but he's kind to animals, children and wait staff so I have to forgive that little proclivity of hims.)

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 5:37:56 PM

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Do you ever feel it would be easier to say that you haven't done a, b, and c, instead of trying to list all of the stuff that you have ever done?

I'm a later in life kinkster and it would be way easier for me to say what I have done than what I haven't. There's a lot out there I haven't done but I'm itching to try. Although there is one thing I said "I will NEVER EVER do that. Oh HELL no!!" about and I just did it the other day. I don't know that I ever will again but I just wanted to see if I could or not. lol

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See, medical play = Do Not Like. Easy peasy!

I've never licked an eyeball and I can say with almost 100% certainty that I never will, but I have dissected one in nursing school. That was eeewww.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 5:56:05 PM

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LadyPact,as I have gotten older,I seem to be getting a bit more sadistic.Now is it because I have accepted my fetishes more or want more I am not sure.For me my hard limit list is not overly long but set in stone.My list of things I haven't done but might try with the right partner is slightly longer.But the list of things I have done is far longer but might be seen as mild by some,kinky by others.We each have our own kinkiness level.Some think of things and think they are too kinky,that no one can possibly be into this.So they seek reassurance from others.I know my first attempts at this were like baby steps,unsure of what I was doing.I list most of the likes and dislikes on my profile,while it isn't a complete list it does give the person I am talking to an idea of if we are in the same ball park or on different planet.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 6:08:23 PM

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Man my lists are convoluted.

I list the stuff I really like that I am skilled in (fire play, knife play, wrestling/fighting, etc)

Then there is the extreme and a bit more unique list (blood cupping, scalpels, etc)

The large general categories, caning, spanking, clamps, etc etc

Stuff I won't do.

Stuff I want to do.

The large categories shorten things a bit.

There is no way to list what I haven't done, as this list is infinite for all of us.

Like I've never licked an eyeball, but have you ever done tortoise mating call role play? It's kinda awesome lots of strange noises and head butting! It totally squicks me out and humiliates me. The there's tying my fore arms and upper arms together and I have to act like a T Rex, or me just acting like a T Rex. Sometimes T Rexs attack turtles.

So yeah, there is always stuff on the "have not done" list.

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RE: Which is easier? - 7/23/2012 6:27:45 PM

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Oh MAN, I would be all over playing dinosaurs!! I would be a stegosaurus.

A thing I am sorry I never got to do...years back some guy from NJ wanted me for a pie face video, where I was doing a dignified Margaret Dumont kind of part. I was bummed he wasn't local.

No one's surprised that I'm the biggest goof in the universe, right?

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