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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy
So my question; Am I the only one who sees this? Does anybody agree with the quotes I found? Is political correctness making it damn near impossible to search for a lifestyle partner because everybody defines things the way they are comfortable with and everybody else is telling them it is ok to do so? Is it even affecting something so mundane as how we write a post it note for fear of offending someone?

I think like any way of interacting with others, going to extremes isn't helpful.

I agree in the ideas of listening to others, of being considerate of others, of shaping my language to be inclusive, of using words that are likely to foster communication and understanding rather than alienating and shutting out. If those are PC ideals- I'm ok with that.

I can be a polite and nice person and do all those "typically PC things" and still be true to myself. I don't consider myself being compromised by being socially aware and comfortable.

"Acting PC" can go to as unhealthy an extreme as "Being brutally honest." People who rail against being PC are just as bad as the ones who pander to it.

I see nothing wrong with trying to be open and courteous, trying to be inclusive and aware.

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ORIGINAL: HollyS

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

Come on, if your name is Johnny and you are eating shit from your Master’s ass to get off in reality you are a homosexual with a scat fetish.

If your girlfriend whips your ass you are a sub, a slave, a switch or a bottom. What you are not is a Dom. I really do not care how you feel about, how you define it does not mean a damn thing; if some one is whipping your ass you are not a Dom, period!

You can call yourself a slave or subbie until the cows come home; if you only submit in the bedroom when and how you want, you are bottom or you simply enjoy kinky sex. What you are not is a slave or subbie, period.

twicehappy-

I'm confused why these things are important to you.  In all three examples you give, the person is defining themselves, not anyone else, and hasn't done anything that would affect you. 

I'm speaking directly to these three examples, since these are what you chose to put up here.  How are you hurt by others self-defining their own reality?

~Holly

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Like most political movements, the ideals are good, but the execution goes to unhealthy extremes.

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ORIGINAL: pinkee


and IMHO there is a consensus amoungst most P/posters that W/we will not write "hate speech" and W/we will try to be as inclusive as W/we can.  Obviously, not E/everyone agrees, but that's what the "block" button is for.

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Is Political Correctness affecting the bdsm community

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  The world at large?

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Is political correctness making it damn near impossible to search for a lifestyle partner because everybody defines things the way they are comfortable with and everybody else is telling them it is ok to do so? 

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  Is it even affecting something so mundane as how we write a post it note for fear of offending someone?

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel 
First, none of those scenerios hurt her, or anyone else for that matter... what matters is the absolute dishonesty of the situation. To my knowledge dishonesty has never been known to have a real good outcome. Why would that have any effect on me and mine... or anyone else? Well, lets spell it out here ok?
 
I am looking for a male slave (not that I honestly believe they exist at this point, but it occupies some of my spare time) and I scan the profiles on the other side. I find someone close to where I live... they have a great profile so I contact them. Now, lets just say for the sake of fantasy that they reply. So far so good. We talk and we talk... then we talk some more... so far they are living up to what their profile says. Then... if the Goddess is with me, we meet. Great first meeting and all that (keep in mind this is a fantasy) so we start spending time together. After a month or so of this I find out that in reality he is nothing more then a "bottom" and all he wants out of life is kinky sex.
 
That's where my problem with all this pc crap stems. "It's ok, call yourself whatever you want"... "If you feel like you are a slave then it's ok to call yourself one"... NO, it isn't. If all you want out of life is kinky sex then by all means have a blast and go for it, but don't tell me you're a slave! Be honest in your profile and if someone blows you some shit about it tell them to kiss your ass... but don't f**king waste my time and the time of others that believe the bs in your profile. Just because we (and I mean me and mine) are not in it for the kinky sex doesn't mean we don't have feelings too. This "no one looses and everyone is right" crap is just plain bull shit, people are sometimes wrong and it's politically incorrect to tell them so... that's bull shit too.
 
I'm all for tolerance... so how about we "tolerate" the truth for a bit? I'm not aiming this at you directly HollyS, I'm directing it at the situation in general.
 
How does it affect others.. simple, it's a lie, plain and simple. It's a way to validate and justify living that lie. And as much as that may work for people that have been doing it for years it does more damage to others that are seeking to learn and grow into this or any other lifestyle. Yeah, the truth hurts sometimes... but it's learning experience and a natural progression of growth. 

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“Political correctness is literally a form of cultural Marxism. Where Marxism is an economic-political doctrine, political correctness is a cultural-political doctrine. They are both totalitarian. They are both dangerous.”

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I am actually hitting the fast reply because I am kind of confused - does anyone here actually know what PC is?

Because I seriously have no idea if people do based on the majority of responses.

 

Peace and Rapture

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ORIGINAL: LL1aintbehavin

twicehappy.
thank you so much for starting this thread, this has been on my mind for a while after reading some of the posts here.
it seems that someone will start a thread telling what terrible things they do in their live, but explain why they do it.
instead of someone saying your are wrong, what the hell are you doing, the replies are okay its not my thing but since you explained so nicely why you are continuing to do something that you feel is wrong have fun.
anyone who comes out and says hey, that is wrong and everyone knows it gets flamed for their opinions.
i agree that every kink is not for everyone, and should be tolerated, certain life issues are just wrong.
some come to these boards to justify what they obviously know the should not be doing in life and to get validation for that.
everyone has the right to make their own decisions, whether right or wrong, but they come to the boards knowing they are doing something wrong, explain themselves and expect to be told its okay and get their justification. when someone calls a spade a spade everyone jumps and flames their ass.
some may do the same to me now, but i don't give a shit.
some things are just wrong, just cause we are in the lifestyle doesn't make them right.
bravo twicehappy, you have said what i have been thinking but in a very eloquent way.
oh, and if this isn't pc to some people???? ummmm, lol
aintbehavin

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with"Do you feel like you are gay? If you feel you are gay then you might be gay, explore those feelings. But if you feel you are straight even though you just admitted to blowing three men last night then you are straight, nobody can define your sexuality but you and that's ok if that's how you feel".

To those kinds of statements i say BULL SHIT! If you are a guy sucking off another guy you are bi or gay, not straight.

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

twicehappy, I see lots of quotes about what non-PC people think about PC but I don't see any examples from this board or even from the BDSM community at large in your OP.

Can you give some specific examples?