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RE: That connection. - 7/25/2012 6:40:51 PM   
MalcolmNathaniel


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Status: offline 		So the trade is off the table then? What if I throw in a first edition 'Stranger in a Strange Land?'

OK, so I only accused you of bragging because I'm jealous. I only ever had a connection like that once and I pissed it away.

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RE: That connection. - 7/25/2012 9:42:13 PM   
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I wrote some really long posts recently about my relationship and some fears I've dealt with. And in those writings I realized how hard it's been for me to admit just how much he, and this relationship, does for me. I talked to him about that Sunday night, telling him this difficulty of mine. He smiled and said he knew, and he's in no hurry for me to get to that place - it will happen when it happens. No pressure, just love. And that love beckons me to keep giving him everything I can.

What the connection does for me is it allows me to give and receive love as I haven't known it before. And that makes me so very grateful.


I still struggle at times with accepting the depth of the love I recieve. Honestly I kinda like that I do. It reminds me that it is not just a given and that such depth is earned as mch or than its enjoyed

The struggle adds an appreciation, I think.

LadyPact mentioned something interesting and valuable, regarding the connection and still learning to live under one roof. I don't live with the man yet, and we are holding off on those plans until his daughter goes away to school. So we are very much at the beginning of that bond being created, even 3 1/2 years in. We're only at the tip. But it's there, even if in an infant state, and I am fully confident that it will grow exponentially in the years to come. This is based on a whole list of things, namely our combined histories, what we've taken from them, and how well our lives fit together. I'm at a point in life when I can recognize what we have and where we're going, and what it does for me, for him, and for us. I recognize I might lack credibility in a thread like this, but that's OK. I still feel what is there. And those struggles bring us closer, and allow me to value this all the more. LadyPact's post was a reminder that we're only at the beginning, and makes me even more excited about the years to come.



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RE: That connection. - 7/27/2012 2:03:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
Would "Wind beneath my wings" sound too cheesy?
I don't think so. :) That is exactly how I feel.

This connection, this bond is amazing to me and it deepens every day. I thrive in it and in his intense love. It drives me, it gives me purpose. It gives me a strong sense of belonging, something I find has been missing for most of my life. We "fit" and that is a great feeling. We love each other immensely and we are each an integral and essential part of this thing that we have, part of each other--there is not "me" and "him," there is just "us."

He loves me so much, I have no doubt he would lay down his life for me. I can confidently say I would do the same for him.

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RE: That connection. - 7/27/2012 4:39:32 AM   
Lucifyre


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Status: offline 		Wow...a lot of really nice things in the replies above...makes me feel all warm and tingly inside ;)

(or is that the toothpaste on the...oh nevermind, I'll be a good girl it's early LOL)

So yea, in addition to everything already posted, (wow am I being lazy or what!) I have to say what the connection does for me is allows me the freedom to let my dark side show. I have "permission" to be the best pervert I want to be and I don't have to worry about having to hide it or lie or be embarrassed about my deviant thoughts. He shares in my kinkiness in a way that allows the both of us to explore our interests with confidence that there will never be any shame involved. I never have to feel badly about being "bad"

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RE: That connection. - 7/27/2012 6:44:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		This post gives me the warm fuzzies too but also makes me VERY ENVIOUS.
Really a wonderful thing to find that connection and watch it grow, to nourish it, appreciate it.  It takes two (in this case 3) for that road. Teaching someone how to treat you, them teaching you, someone caring enough to want to do that. MARVELOUS.  takes a lot of practice for perfect harmony.

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RE: That connection. - 7/27/2012 8:06:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		The thing about the connection, for me, is it's so magical.  I know, it sounds sappy, but sometimes there is simply no explanation for it.  None.  It happened to me once.  I was not looking for it, and it was not exactly convenient, but it really did not matter much.  It was there, it was real, and it had to be acknowledged.  Knowing that sort of thing exists, having felt it, experienced it, it can really change a person.  I thought that I knew a thing or two about love and relationships prior to finding it.  I was so mistaken in so many things.  While I am a wiser, richer woman for the experience, I have also found that when circumstances take that person away, it can impact one's entire outlook.  Having something so incredible and losing it (for whatever reason) leaves an emptiness that is every bit as profound as the bond itself.  For those of you that have it, cherish it, don't take it for granted.  There are no guarantees it will be there tomorrow and no promises you will ever find it again if it has to leave...

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RE: That connection. - 7/27/2012 9:46:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

I don't know if I have any question here. But I was struck with the thought of how difficult it is to find that right person to be bonded with. I believe I am exceptionally lucky in that department. But it's ironic I suppose that I still feel open to the possibility of bonding to another with the depth and love I share with the two girls. Of course reality tells me that it is most unlikely and I would be better off hoping for the lottery. But when your poly, the bonding to one doesn't elimanite the possibility of bonding to another.

I suppose if there is a question.. It's what does that connection do for you? Is there words to describe it? I Have posted on his board what seems forever... But yet with all my words I still don't feel like I have come close to describing the depth of the connection we three have.

Just rumblings I suppose...




I don't think I really have a way to describe that actual connection itself. It's just a rightness... they suit me, I suit them; it just works.


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RE: That connection. - 7/27/2012 3:44:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

I don't know if I have any question here. But I was struck with the thought of how difficult it is to find that right person to be bonded with. I believe I am exceptionally lucky in that department. But it's ironic I suppose that I still feel open to the possibility of bonding to another with the depth and love I share with the two girls. Of course reality tells me that it is most unlikely and I would be better off hoping for the lottery. But when your poly, the bonding to one doesn't elimanite the possibility of bonding to another.

I suppose if there is a question.. It's what does that connection do for you? Is there words to describe it? I Have posted on his board what seems forever... But yet with all my words I still don't feel like I have come close to describing the depth of the connection we three have.

Just rumblings I suppose...




Well, the only thing I could possibly add to this is....you have a really pointy head.

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