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ORIGINAL: ScottishLady

I need to hear from you 24/ 7 Dom/me(s) and Dom(s) is there a protocol for those rare occasions when the Dom/me and submissive are both out of control and behaving badly.

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ORIGINAL: ScottishLady

I need to hear from you 24/ 7 Dom/me(s) and Dom(s) is there a protocol for those rare occasions when the Dom/me and submissive are both out of control and behaving badly.

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ORIGINAL: ScottishLady

To La Tigresses ,

Thank you for your sage advice. No being the Dominant does not make me perfect or, always right. I am far from either of these Nobel goals. As much as my submissive would like me to be the strong one, I am not always able to be as strong as he or I would like. And ,when this sub. Looked at me and said he needed me to be the adult in the relationship . I did not know now to respond, are all subs. Children ? If so I am married to a male slave child.
The first problem was my slave husband / submissive , and I had been shopping. We purchased the I gradients to make Rice Crispy Treats. he asked if I knew how to make the marshmallow treats. I lied . At home he elected me to make the treats. I had said I knew how . I expected him to make the Rice Crispy Treats. At some point after this my temper and his begun to fly out of control.
I do not know how I allowed the situation to escalate to name calling , accusations, and a lot of shouting but, I did. I do not know how or if I can prevent this from happening again. I hope the conversation with my sub and conversations with others such as yourself will help prevent such incidents in the future. Thank you again for your time and advice

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We purchased the I gradients to make Rice Crispy Treats. he asked if I knew how to make the marshmallow treats. I lied . At home he elected me to make the treats. I had said I knew how . I expected him to make the Rice Crispy Treats.

Hm, okay. Of course you knew how to make them...get online, type in "Rice Crispy Treats recipe" and then read and do what it says. Your hubby could have done the same thing. The recipe might even been on the side of the Rice Crispies box. It's not rocket science; my kid and I did it right the very first time...as a homeschool project in third grade. He was badly autistic. I told him to read the recipe, supervised while he got out all the ingredients and made sure he followed the directions to the letter.

My slave could only nuke tv dinners and fry meat when I met him, and though he isn't making lattice top apple pies from scratch like my son has been doing since he was 12...he has learned to make grilled cheese sandwitches and pancakes (I'm working on the rest, lol). He will learn more over time and someday soon, I will (gasp) dig out a recipe book and see to it that he follows all the directions of a recipe.

I'm not too concerned over your giving yourself full credit for lying, but more for his TELLING you to do them. He ELECTED YOU??? If my guy was sick I would let him off the hook, but otherwise that wide evil grin is coming out if he tries to order me about. It is a shame that the both of you couldn't have enjoyed each other's company in the kitchen, laughing over puzzling the recipe out, putting yer feet up and sipping coffee or tea while he washed up afterward. Both of you could have had an enjoyable evening. Even if the treats turned out fugly they would have tasted good. (Try using cocoa crispies, or the multicolored ones. I loved making the cocoa ones and mixing in some Toll House morsels...)

This storm in a tea cup is over now and it's time to kiss and make up, and find out if both of you just had a bad day and were tired, or if there are some other issues...that need to be talked out to clear up any misunderstandings or whatever. Don't feel bad. My boy and I have had two times of trouble in the past two months. Spit happens.

Another thing. Life is a lot less complicated (for me) without lies to have to keep track of and to answer for. A simple, "Nope, never made them before but we WILL read the recipe and figure it out" would have been better than what the lie led up to in the end.

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The first problem was my slave husband / submissive , and I had been shopping. We purchased the I gradients to make Rice Crispy Treats. he asked if I knew how to make the marshmallow treats. I lied . At home he elected me to make the treats. I had said I knew how . I expected him to make the Rice Crispy Treats. At some point after this my temper and his begun to fly out of control.
I do not know how I allowed the situation to escalate to name calling , accusations, and a lot of shouting but, I did. I do not know how or if I can prevent this from happening again. I hope the conversation with my sub and conversations with others such as yourself will help prevent such incidents in the future.

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ORIGINAL: ScottishLady

To La Tigresses ,

Thank you for your sage advice. No being the Dominant does not make me perfect or, always right. I am far from either of these Nobel goals. As much as my submissive would like me to be the strong one, I am not always able to be as strong as he or I would like. And ,when this sub. Looked at me and said he needed me to be the adult in the relationship . I did not know now to respond, are all subs. Children ? If so I am married to a male slave child.
The first problem was my slave husband / submissive , and I had been shopping. We purchased the I gradients to make Rice Crispy Treats. he asked if I knew how to make the marshmallow treats. I lied . At home he elected me to make the treats. I had said I knew how . I expected him to make the Rice Crispy Treats. At some point after this my temper and his begun to fly out of control.
I do not know how I allowed the situation to escalate to name calling , accusations, and a lot of shouting but, I did. I do not know how or if I can prevent this from happening again. I hope the conversation with my sub and conversations with others such as yourself will help prevent such incidents in the future. Thank you again for your time and advice

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ORIGINAL: ScottishLady

To La Tigresses ,

Thank you for your sage advice. No being the Dominant does not make me perfect or, always right. I am far from either of these Nobel goals. As much as my submissive would like me to be the strong one, I am not always able to be as strong as he or I would like. And ,when this sub. Looked at me and said he needed me to be the adult in the relationship . I did not know now to respond, are all subs. Children ? If so I am married to a male slave child.
The first problem was my slave husband / submissive , and I had been shopping. We purchased the I gradients to make Rice Crispy Treats. he asked if I knew how to make the marshmallow treats. I lied . At home he elected me to make the treats. I had said I knew how . I expected him to make the Rice Crispy Treats. At some point after this my temper and his begun to fly out of control.
I do not know how I allowed the situation to escalate to name calling , accusations, and a lot of shouting but, I did. I do not know how or if I can prevent this from happening again. I hope the conversation with my sub and conversations with others such as yourself will help prevent such incidents in the future. Thank you again for your time and advice

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My husband and I will not be lied to. Our questions will be answered completely and honestly at all times.

These things will not be tolerated

Lying dishonesty in any shape form or fashion will not be tolerated.

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ORIGINAL: SlipSlidingAway

Hmmm, just a thought, the opening line to your profile might provide a clue:  "Silence! Maggots , shut your yaps and take a seat..."

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We purchased the I gradients