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How can you take care of your slave when your on a diff... - 7/27/2012 9:09:04 AM

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How can you take care of your slave when your on a different time zone? As you can see im currently in the philippines, and lets say I have a slave who is residing in the USA; how can I manage my time and his time properly?

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 9:11:06 AM

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You're a Domme isn't this question in the handbook?

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 9:12:56 AM

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how would we know? it's YOUR relatioiship!

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 9:13:43 AM

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How can you take care of your slave when your on a different time zone? As you can see im currently in the philippines, and lets say I have a slave who is residing in the USA; how can I manage my time and his time properly?

Move.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 9:17:14 AM

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It ain't going to be easy, if it's even really possible. Good luck to you.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 9:17:23 AM

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imo, you can't.

But then I find that long a distance when you both are nothing more than penpals, not to be very satisfying.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 9:41:54 AM

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What does time zone have to do with paying their rent and utilities?

OH, you mean making time for cyber-play? Sorry, that isn't "taking care of your slave" to me.

If you are having trouble scheduling the time, perhaps this will help: http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/meetingtime.html?month=8&day=1&year=2012&p1=179&p2=145&iv=0

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 9:46:31 AM

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What does time zone have to do with paying their rent and utilities?

Actually, in my experience it has EVERYTHING to do with that. The problem with distance, in general, is that as the dominant you have so little actual information. Commands you give have to be fire & forget rather than something you can track all the way to it's goal. All the subtle feedback that happens with face to face is lost. For this very reason I'm very cautious about actually dominating someone long distance. It's like driving a car 3/4 blind to me.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 10:00:55 AM

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Oddly enough, for those durations when either of them is out of the country, managing their time is the LAST of My concerns.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 10:02:02 AM

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It is very difficult to make a long distance D/s relationship work. I question whether it is possible to even have a long distance M/s relationship.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 10:24:22 AM

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It is very difficult to make a long distance D/s relationship work. I question whether it is possible to even have a long distance M/s relationship.

Yes, but yes.

Of course it's not optimum and micro-management is impossible, but if both parties are motivated enough it *is* possible.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 10:27:40 AM

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Yes, but yes. Of course it's not optimum and micro-management is impossible, but if both parties are motivated enough it *is* possible.

Sure it is. And I'm guessing based upon the OP's age bracket and question that she's not talking about the same thing I'm talking about when we use the word "slave". If what we mean is a bit of long-distance kinky fun then of course one can do that.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/27/2012 11:47:12 AM

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It is very difficult to make a long distance D/s relationship work. I question whether it is possible to even have a long distance M/s relationship.

A long distance relationship involves actually seeing the person you're involved with every now and then. I'm willing to bet the OP is cyber.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/31/2012 6:40:48 AM

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If you are going strictly online then your choice is a strict regiment of email, chat and Skype communication!

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 7/31/2012 11:33:51 AM

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How can you take care of your slave when your on a different time zone? As you can see im currently in the philippines, and lets say I have a slave who is residing in the USA; how can I manage my time and his time properly?

So is this a long-distance relationship where you actually see each other in real life periodically? OR is this 100% online only?

I have a long-distance sub, who will be moving this way when he retires, but I am not going to micro-manage his time and his life while we are apart. Actually, I'm not a micro-manager ever, I haven't the desire or the time/energy to do that. We communicate daily and actually see each other every so often. We get more into the power exchange dynamic while we are together.

As for online only, it's mostly just cybersex and I don't go there at all so I wouldn't know what to do with that.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 8/6/2012 4:45:02 PM

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I don't think it's possible. Eventually the submissive drifts or develops visions of grandeur from all that freedom.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 8/6/2012 7:55:48 PM

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How can you take care of your slave when your on a different time zone? As you can see im currently in the philippines, and lets say I have a slave who is residing in the USA; how can I manage my time and his time properly?

Oh, just accept that you'll only be able to manage the slave's time for a few minutes after he finishes reading your email or you're done IMing or skyping or however you communicate. Then he'll jerk off and forget about you until your next chat session.

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RE: How can you take care of your slave when your on a ... - 8/6/2012 11:53:53 PM

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Long distance can work, but it's hard, and being in a different timezone doesn't make it any easier. If you can hardly even communicate via IM or phone because the difference is literally night and day, then invariably someone will have to sacrifice sleep in order to spend some time together. Such a relationship is doomed to fail. I would say that a relationship done purely through email, or even mostly through email, is also doomed to fail. There would be no accountability, and very little honesty or trust. And the key with making a long distance M/s relationship work is having a very solid foundation of trust, so that when you issue a command, even though all you have is the slave's word that it was fulfilled, you know it to be true. Building that trust requires time and communication, hence the problem.

So in answer to your question, communicate as much as possible, whenever possible.

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