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gentlethistle -> in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 2:57:05 PM)
Do you ever get angry? Or do you just get sad? I'm curious. And if you do ever get angry, how does it express itself, and how do you deal with it? Laura

Quivver -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 3:06:11 PM)
In my youth I had Anger, out right Ugly anger....... Now that I've (aged, gotten old, matured, <-- yea right, or simply experianced a bit more life) I find sorrow.. It usually comes in tears hand in hand with a not so healthy dose of low esteem. Then I find a corner and hide for a few weeks with my head firmly burried in the sand turning my back to the world. It isnt the best way to handle thing... but the only tool i've got right now..................... Q

iliv2servher -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 3:28:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gentlethistle Do you ever get angry? Or do you just get sad? I'm curious. And if you do ever get angry, how does it express itself, and how do you deal with it? Laura Anger to me seems the anthesis of sorrow or depression, but some mental health professionals would disagree. If you cannot rationalize or in some way explain or diffuse the anger or sorrow, and then put it aside, you will need to find another outlet for it. Exercise, meditation, visual imagery, breathing exercises, Yoga...theses are all tools that will help to alleviate the symptoms, but treating the cause rather than the symptoms is always the best medicine.

juliaoceania -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 3:50:15 PM)
Depression is anger turned in on one's self... it is always good to express anger in healthy ways before you smotther it into depression. Usually by that time it is very hard to figure out exactly what you are angry at.

missturbation -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 4:08:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gentlethistle Do you ever get angry? Yes !! Or do you just get sad? I get that too. I'm curious. And if you do ever get angry, how does it express itself, My sadness comes out in anger and then i get sad again because i responded angrily and thw whole circle starts again. and how do you deal with it? I cry................................a lot!! Laura

Tikkiee -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 4:12:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gentlethistle Do you ever get angry? Or do you just get sad? I'm curious. And if you do ever get angry, how does it express itself, and how do you deal with it? Laura Yes, I get angry [:)] I have found, that for myself, the best way to deal with is to go run a couple miles, or swim a couple miles. I also get sad though. In those cases, I just sit and reflect on why I am sad, and then try to change something so that it does not happen again.

Vancouver_cinful -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 4:38:40 PM)
Anger is a difficult emotion for me to process. I don't like it, I am not overly inclined naturally to feel it, and even though I understand the difference between healthy anger and unhealthy anger I still perceive any anger as unhealthy, and unwanted. My friends have noted that I re-channel anger into sorrow; then I turn that sorrow on myself. Sometimes it manifests as self-blame. I'm now aware of this and try hard to work on it whenever it happens. The interesting thing is I rarely stay sad for long; I have a naturally optomistic nature, and this is something that definitely has pros and cons.

Littlepita -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 4:50:27 PM)
I do get angry, but not to often. When I do I try to think of the reasons for it and come to some sort of conclusion.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 4:55:08 PM)
Prozac solved my anger problems..lol...Sorry, I'm in such a goofy mood this evening.

BitaTruble -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 6:53:14 PM)
I'm sure, like most humans, I experience the entire gamut of human emotions. I'm happy 'most' of the time and sad some of the time. I rarely get angry, but it does happen on occasion. My brothers now ex-girlfriend ripped him off for over $45,000 by gambling while she was cheating on him at the same time. I got pretty pissed on his behalf, that he wants her back after duping him and ruining his credit just makes me shake my head in wonder. The occasional lows really help me appreciate the highs which are much more frequent.. and I think they are because I choose to see things that way. When life gets to be a bit too much, laughter is a wonderful cure for what ails. Both my parents and my father-in-law are pretty ill right now.. that's sad and worrisome, but we talk a lot on the phone, we laugh a lot, Himself and I fly to see them as often as we can and that helps. When I'm angry.. hmm... chocolate seems to work pretty well. Breathing works, too. Gotta take the good with the bad and all that don't ya know. Celeste

Sirandlittle1 -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 9:37:30 PM)
Way way way before i became a submissive, i became a person, with the complete range of emotions possible to the species. I do not seem to of changed that at all. How could i? I have learned that there are certain ways to productively express my emotions. Sometimes, they are so strong, they kinda burst out, but again, that's all the emotions, happiness can come across as too boisterous for his mood. Anger can come across as anger at him instead of whatever pissed me off in the first place. There are correct ways to express emotions in my D/s relationship, shit, ive even been known to get it right on occasions too! little1

Sensualips -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/9/2006 9:43:08 PM)
I rarely experience real anger, but I get irritated or hostile or generally pissy on a regular basis. How I deal with that depends on my pverall stress level, the specific situation, and how important it is in the big picture. quote: I still perceive any anger as unhealthy, and unwanted. I would not call all anger unhealthy. Anger can be a useful tool and a catalyst. It is also a signal that there is a deeper issue or threat that probably needs to be addressed.

spectreandnectre -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/10/2006 6:01:36 AM)
Do i get angry sure i do, and i also get sad. i get very quiet when i am angry or sad and i am fortunate enough that He knows when i am angry or upset and will confront me with it. For me its just a matter of getting things off my chest then i feel better

fullofgrace -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/10/2006 7:12:19 AM)
i rarely get angry at others...usually when i do it's over something someone has done that's totally baseless - for example, my stepmother just up and deciding i'm persona non grata because of all these lies i've supposedly told and the fact that i've supposedly blamed my dad for everything that's wrong in my life and a whole lot of other baseless bs. but even then, i'm mostly hurt, not angry. or my stepdad lying to me - because it's a pattern of his, and he just...isn't very adult over his mistakes. when i do get angry, it's in disbelief or just...the complete inability to wrap my head around the situation. which means i spend a lot of time rehashing it in my mind or to other people, trying to get it through my head, which often has the effect of fueling the anger. i don't like anger - i agree with a lot of what cin said about it - i've always felt that way. i also don't hold grudges against people and i don't hate anyone, and i view anger as a waste of time and energy, so it really frustrates me when i get angry. mostly i get sad and depressed instead of angry. i get really quiet and withdrawn when i'm especially sad or depressed, or when He (or someone else) says something that i take personally and thus get MORE sad and depressed. i tend to internalize A LOT and load up on the self-blame, i have all my life, so i turn the anger inward rather than outward...usually outward all i'm capable of showing is sadness, and that i'm used to covering up and making everyone believe i'm okay. i tend toward depression, but i have done a lot of work with myself in getting the "highs" and moments of happiness back. i'm beginning to let go of some of my anxiety and guilt, etc. which is very freeing, and occasionally being the 18-year-old 5-year-old because i grew up WAY too fast, so i enjoy doing a lot of whimsical, spontaneous, fun stuff :)

reverendtorres -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/10/2006 6:02:42 PM)
I tend to go into juggernaut mode when I am extremely angry. When I am caught in the grip of extreme sorrow, I shut down and kind of zone out for a while.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/10/2006 8:22:35 PM)
Sure I get angry...who doesnt?..There are probably a million ways as to how anger expresses itself....My own anger expresses itself through distancing myself from the situation..analyzing what caused anger,how can the situation become resolved,its importance to me, then I choose appropriate action or non-action, whatever the case may be....then I turn to chocolate!...Tempting

theRose4U -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/10/2006 8:57:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble I'm sure, like most humans, I experience the entire gamut of human emotions. I'm happy 'most' of the time and sad some of the time. I rarely get angry, but it does happen on occasion. My brothers now ex-girlfriend ripped him off for over $45,000 by gambling while she was cheating on him at the same time. I got pretty pissed on his behalf, that he wants her back after duping him and ruining his credit just makes me shake my head in wonder. The occasional lows really help me appreciate the highs which are much more frequent.. and I think they are because I choose to see things that way. When life gets to be a bit too much, laughter is a wonderful cure for what ails. Both my parents and my father-in-law are pretty ill right now.. that's sad and worrisome, but we talk a lot on the phone, we laugh a lot, Himself and I fly to see them as often as we can and that helps. When I'm angry.. hmm... chocolate seems to work pretty well. Breathing works, too. Gotta take the good with the bad and all that don't ya know. Celeste How is it that brothers magnify the innerDomme? I just found out that the first girl my brother ever even mentioned marriage about (parents were the anti-example) got drunk one night and fell on some random dude with her pants down. I was 1 lost passport from flying to germany to kick her butt!!

ShiftedJewel -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/11/2006 5:52:47 AM)
I get angry... mainly it's at my computer or other inanimate objects and I handle it by beating the hell outta my punching bag. Yes. I have a 60 pound heavy bag hanging in the corner of my computer room... it was a lot cheaper then a new computer. Besides, it's good exercise. *Jewel*

bandit25 -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/11/2006 7:05:59 AM)
I get both, but I try not to get really angry. Mostly I get pissed at my job or fellow employees. Not much I can do about that. As far as sad goes, well, I don't like to cry...gives me a headache, so I usually just get quiet.

mnottertail -> RE: in sorrow or in anger? (6/11/2006 7:11:22 AM)
This is not really a safe, sane and consensual conversation on this site, what with all the postal employees on here and all......... You guys be careful.

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