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SubStudentRich -> How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 1:24:46 PM)

Hello everyone

I am new to the site, but have since I discovered it made the observation that most people that live in this lifestyle seems fairly normal. I have always had this desire to serve, but I was never able to spot a Dom. So if anyone could give me any tips or hints on how to spot Doms and approach them in real life, that would be most appreciated. I guess it is not as important as we now have this site, but it remains a curiosity of mine.

Thank you.



Wantstocontrolu -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 1:30:43 PM)

Asking that question here works.
Looking at profiles and replying works.
Walking around with a steel collar and a sign? Might not work



sexyred1 -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 1:41:46 PM)

You cannot just "spot" a Dom, unless you are at a club that caters to BDSM and someone is walking around dressed like one. And even then you might be wrong.

All you can do is target a Dom, by participating on the forums, looking at ads from Doms and having your own clearly defined profile that might attract a Dom of your choosing.

And attend events where you live; just being passive and hoping to spot someone is not going to work.



JeffBC -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 1:52:01 PM)

If by "serve" you mean "they do fun sexy things to you" and if by "dom" you mean "someone who does fun sexy things to you", then I doubt you can spot that out in the world. Most of us don't advertise our sexuality walking down main street. I'd recommend going to a munch which is, by design, the standard gateway into the BDSM lifestyle groups in the real world. There it'll be easier.

If you just want a dominant relationship partner, then you find them "out in the world" where everyone else is. You "spot" them by looking for people who are calmly assertive just kind of as a default. Carol said of me when she met me, "She likes her men a little bit arrogant".



angelikaJ -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 1:55:53 PM)

Go and find a local TNG munch.

Don't rush.

How does anyone get to know anyone?

It takes time.

There is no such thing as an instant D/s dynamic, although there are things that mimic it pretty well.
In the end, they fall very flat.

An authentic relationship that is between an authentic you and an authentic dominant partner is the best.
Don't settle for less, if you want more.



poise -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 2:37:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SubStudentRich
So if anyone could give me any tips or hints on how to spot Doms and approach them in real life,
that would be most appreciated.

Up until 1953, every single Dom looked and acted alike. I swear you could spot them a mile away,
even if you were blindfolded. Nowadays, they are everywhere, and come in such variety that it's
almost impossible to choose which one looks/acts/smells/talks/carries themselves in a manner we
find dominant enough.

Surely, your desire to serve is not without substance, meaning you don't want to serve simply any
woman just because they label themselves as Dominant, right? I'd skip all that Me Dom, you submissive
stuff and instead work on spotting someone that you can enjoy getting to
know in a vanilla sense first, and who can inspire your submission. Best of luck!



CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 2:42:18 PM)

With a sharpie, over and over again.
Really, spot a dom?
They don't come labeled, find who you are, what you seek and look for someone who compliments you.
It's like any other relationship... you work on yourself and the other responds.



DaddySatyr -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 2:44:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CRYPTICLXVI
With a sharpie, over and over again.


I was going to suggest edible body paint but, you beat me to it. Damn it!
 
 
 
Peace and comfort,
 
 
 
Michael



DarkSteven -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 2:54:48 PM)

We Doms are better looking and more intelligent than the population at large. More modest, too.



chemeli -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 3:10:27 PM)

*They don't come labeled, find who you are, what you seek and look for someone who compliments you.
It's like any other relationship... you work on yourself and the other responds.*

This.



ARIES83 -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 3:19:54 PM)

You wont be able to tell I don't think...
especially if it was me, I think i'm just a
regular guy. If you saw me with a girl you
probably wouldn't be able to pick it either.

I'm all about being average when out in
public.

Although around these parts, blending in
means wearing Ripcurl boardshorts until
your 40 even though in my opinion they
are more for kids... Sigh

-ARIES

*as for the title, if you want a dom to spot
you, as someone interested in bdsm...
I duno, best of luck*



poise -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 4:48:11 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: CRYPTICLXVI

With a sharpie, over and over again.

Connecting the dots can be wicked fun!



littlewonder -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 4:49:42 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SubStudentRich

Hello everyone

I am new to the site, but have since I discovered it made the observation that most people that live in this lifestyle seems fairly normal. I have always had this desire to serve, but I was never able to spot a Dom. So if anyone could give me any tips or hints on how to spot Doms and approach them in real life, that would be most appreciated. I guess it is not as important as we now have this site, but it remains a curiosity of mine.

Thank you.


Go to Walmart and look for the couple where she is wearing a steel collar. Then follow him around the store. He'll appreciate your stalk....eerrmm...motivation. [:)]



JeffBC -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 5:25:11 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder
Go to Walmart and look for the couple where she is wearing a steel collar. Then follow him around the store. He'll appreciate your stalk....eerrmm...motivation. [:)]

LOLOL... priceless



CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 5:33:07 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Go to Walmart ...


[image]http://media.peopleofwalmart.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/331.jpg[/image]



RemoteUser -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/2/2012 9:44:22 PM)

Since the obvious points have already been covered all I would add is, how do you project yourself?

Think of that as you try to "Discern the Dom".



GotSteel -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/3/2012 7:52:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1
You cannot just "spot" a Dom, unless you are at a club that caters to BDSM and someone is walking around dressed like one.


I've always wondered, how does one dress like a dom?



Endivius -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/3/2012 8:30:52 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: GotSteel

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1
You cannot just "spot" a Dom, unless you are at a club that caters to BDSM and someone is walking around dressed like one.


I've always wondered, how does one dress like a dom?



Dress in all black. Wear a tie. Black sunglasses, even at night. Make sure you have a cheap cigar in one hand and a walking cane in the other.



You're welcome.




littlewonder -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/3/2012 9:13:25 PM)

I thought it was leather ass chaps and with floggers attached on clips.



Hillwilliam -> RE: How do I get spotted by a Dom? (8/3/2012 9:17:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SubStudentRich

Hello everyone

I am new to the site, but have since I discovered it made the observation that most people that live in this lifestyle seems fairly normal.
Thank you.

We ARE normal. It's all those nilla fuckers that are twisted.



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