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To Switch or Not to Switch, That is The Question. - 8/3/2012 9:25:35 AM

LordAnteros

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Hello all,

I am LordAnteros. I primarily Dom but am finding that I would like a balance of the dynamics for myself. After talking it over with my primary sub, we both think I should expand my experiences. He has been a wonderful part of my life and growth within BDSM. His trust in me is something I treasure, as well as his genuine concern for our needs

When it comes to both Domming and subbing, I fall on the sensual end of things. I already live with chronic pain, so the receiving of additional pain is kind of a waste of time and effort with me. It does nothing. I can give pain since this is something my sub needs but when it comes to receiving it, a total turn off.

While I have experience, limited to cam and RP so far, I would like to find a sub play partner willing to travel to me for play sessions. I am open to trying new kinks if we negotiate the details carefully before hand. My style of Dominance is somewhat gentle but incredibly firm. I prefer to work a sub into begging for what they need and bringing their senses to the limit.

As for subbing... I have had two experiences with FemDoms that were very positive. While I am gay and there was no real sexual content to the experiences, it was still incredible from just the kink factor and experiencing sensations. I am open to having a male Dom, with the understanding that it will not overlap with the sub I already have. I also have a mentor, one of the FemDoms I mentioned. She has been teaching me the ins and outs of the lifestyle and what is acceptable and not. Given my inexperience and limitations physically, I need a Dom that has the patience and control to deal with a total newbie and keep their cool if I ask a lot of questions. Again, my preference is for a Dom willing to come to me or meet me at least part way. Travel is difficult but possible.

I hope this gives you somewhat of an idea of who I am, what I am seeking and if it interests you, be welcome to message me for further talk and exploration of possibilities. I am pretty open to many things except for the hard limits listed and some others that are not.

LordAnteros

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RE: To Switch or Not to Switch, That is The Question. - 8/3/2012 10:00:06 AM

Shininglight23

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Welcome to the forums.

I do have one question... If you are a self proclaimed "total newbie"... why did you dub yourself LordAnteros? I have a curious mind...

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RE: To Switch or Not to Switch, That is The Question. - 8/3/2012 10:31:22 AM

LordAnteros

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That is a carry over from another profile. :) I tend to stick to a name once I find it. The total newbie part refers to subbing and realizing I am likely a Switch. I am confident in my Domming and my mentor assured me that in that respect I've earned the title. I guess I can see how it might be confusing. Still, the newbie part is also accurate because I need to learn how to turn off the Domming and truly go sub.

Does that make more sense?

I still have my primary sub that I am committed to and we went with the Lord title rather than Master. It fit better and our mentor explained to us both why she feels I earned it.

< Message edited by LordAnteros -- 8/3/2012 10:34:50 AM >

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RE: To Switch or Not to Switch, That is The Question. - 8/3/2012 12:22:41 PM

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Hello and welcome. Hope to see you around the forums!

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RE: To Switch or Not to Switch, That is The Question. - 8/3/2012 12:31:19 PM

Delilya

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Good luck

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RE: To Switch or Not to Switch, That is The Question. - 8/7/2012 8:47:24 AM

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Welcome ant.

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RE: To Switch or Not to Switch, That is The Question. - 8/7/2012 10:30:44 AM

Lucifyre

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Hey welcome to CM!

As far as the switching thing goes...

Why the hell not? If it's something you're interested in and you already have an idea of what feels good to you, why NOT do it? Stick with safe, sane and consentual, keep your limits in mind and have a blast! your partner isn't opposed to it, so what's the hold up?

Being a married, bi, poly switch I must say, there is NOTHING wrong with being a touch greedy in the what feels good department ;)

Enjoy yourself, you only live once right?

Lucifyre

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