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why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then they d... - 8/3/2012 2:40:25 PM

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I have had slaves submit to me and then they high tail it and are not serious in being owned.I don't know why they submit if they don't intend on carrying thru with it.any help would be appreciated

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 2:42:22 PM

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Not enough information. Could be anything.

Quickest 2 reasons I can think of:

1) You were not what they were expecting/wanting and they ran.

2) They were very inexperienced and when it came down to it they just couldn't actually go through with it.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 2:43:35 PM

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Was this online or in person?

What did you discuss beforehand?

Did you arrange a meeting first, like the classic coffee shop, to get to know each other better?

A lot of this revolves around what you discussed and planned.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 2:43:54 PM

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I think the answer lies in the first line of your profile.
Being "mean" doesn't equal being dominant.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 2:44:03 PM

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Thanks for your response

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 2:44:22 PM

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You took care of their wienie needs and they got bored after a while.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 2:46:49 PM

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I am what I am. A Mistress. I tell them what will be expected of them. Thanks to all who wrote here.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 2:47:37 PM

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OP, your profile just says how mean you are and to beware so maybe some of the girls you want to dominate are just scared now.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 2:51:08 PM

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I have had slaves submit to me and then they high tail it and are not serious in being owned.I don't know why they submit if they don't intend on carrying thru with it.any help would be appreciated

The same reason men fuck and run.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 2:52:41 PM

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Do you realize that just giving them orders, and expecting them to carry out the orders does NOT equal dominating somebody?
Seriously, if it did, then s-types wouldn't need D/s relationships, they could just get jobs instead.

If you are telling them you're a Mistress, they're going to expect you to actual DOMINATE them. Not just tell them what to do and call them a bad s-type if they don't, or are unhappy.

So if you find that s-types keep running from you, step back, and ask yourself: "Am I just being a bossy bitch who expects to be obeyed, without providing the guidance, leadership and dominance that would make me worthy of being obeyed over the next person?"

ETA:
There are very few people out there that submit in a vacuum and don't need to have the D-type to actively create dominant energy for them to obey.
Those people do exist though, and are generally referred to as doormats by a lot of people.
If it's a doormat you're looking for, be honest about that, and focus your search on them. Although it's my experience that even doormats seem to prefer D-types whom actual dominate them when given the chance.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 2:56:27 PM

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The best mistress I ever had never once ordered me to do anything. She was able to get me to want to do whatever she wished.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 3:06:00 PM

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I have had slaves submit to me and then they high tail it and are not serious in being owned.I don't know why they submit if they don't intend on carrying thru with it.any help would be appreciated

No pics....can't h'ep you.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 3:14:33 PM

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In 94.6% of cases this happens because the Domme in question has hairy warts and is rather smelly, MistressNaughty.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 3:14:48 PM

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I have had slaves submit to me and then they high tail it and are not serious in being owned.I don't know why they submit if they don't intend on carrying thru with it.any help would be appreciated

Because they're not serious about being owned and they've had an orgasm.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 5:00:53 PM

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Are you positive they were actually female? Did this submission happen online or in real life?

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/3/2012 11:30:24 PM

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If they high tail it, trust that they did just that.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/4/2012 12:25:13 AM

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I have had slaves submit to me and then they high tail it and are not serious in being owned.I don't know why they submit if they don't intend on carrying thru with it.any help would be appreciated

Just off the top of my head...

1) They wanted some cybering and got it, had their orgasm and left
2) Were new, and thought they wanted what you had to offer but were scared off
3) Their husband/wife/SO's keys were jingling in the lock...
4) They weren't new, weren't scared, weren't married nor otherwise involved but realized that the two of you were not compatible
5) Considered what you two were doing was casual, not "going steady" yet, and someone else they were also talking with hooked their interest.

MISTRESSNAUGHTYX, unless someone was willing to meet with me for coffee somewhere, I withheld "the cookie" because...
1) Starting a relationship online makes some people prefer the fantasy...so much that they will not risk breaking a perfect (wank fodderish) dream by meeting up in r/t.
2) Some will cyber many intimate things and then suddenly realize they will have to meet up with this...stranger...they know nothing about other than kink preferences. No trust has been built and yet they are owned by this person.

My advice? Slow down a little. Avoid some of this by getting to know the PERSON first.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/4/2012 12:35:55 AM

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I have had slaves submit to me and then they high tail it and are not serious in being owned.I don't know why they submit if they don't intend on carrying thru with it.any help would be appreciated

Maybe they thought you were a match and then, after a session, they decided your styles just didn't match after all. Some things you just don't know until you try it.

Maybe you scratched their itch for time time being and now they're looking for new thrills. They took off for the same reason guys fuck and run. They got what they wanted and now you're history.

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In 94.6% of cases this happens because the Domme in question has hairy warts and is rather smelly, MistressNaughty.

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/4/2012 12:55:59 AM

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Maybe you should ask why you are causing this reaction in them

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RE: why do slaves/subs submit to a Dominant and then th... - 8/4/2012 6:49:24 AM

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I read your profile. It clearly states that you consider D/s to be sessions only. No actual relationship, no vanilla down time, no going grocery shopping together.

Why do you expect to have your subs stick around after the scene when you're advertising for subs for sessions only?

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