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gungadin09 -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 8:00:10 PM)

Two suggestions:

1. Be more original when composing emails.
2. Decide not to let it bother you when someone doesn't respond.

Pam



Baroana -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 8:00:53 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland

Is sending a message that says "hello." followed by a question such as "Was wondering if you are still looking for a daddy." (to those who's profile says they are still looking) Is that such an offensive thing?



Offensive? Maybe.

Groan and eye roll-inducing? Definitely.

Don't expect someone to be interested in you when all you have to say by way of making a first impression is.... nothing. That is, nothing but a question about whether someone, whose profile says she's looking, is looking.

As if that isn't enough to discourage a response, you don't even bother to use proper grammar in your opening message. Not one subject and predicate to be found in the same sentence. If you don't give a shit, why should she?



OsideGirl -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 8:08:28 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland

If for whatever reason I'm not their cup of tea, ok.


You're young (21) and admit that you have no experience. You're in a community (BDSM) where men outnumber women by at least 10:1, the number of women in this under age 25 is even smaller and you're up against guys that have experience. And I'll be a little blunt by saying that your profile reads like someone that lives in their Mom's basement playing video games. That impression was compounded by the impression of a college student that used "cheep" instead of "cheap".

It's a buyer's market, and therefore you'll need to really work at selling yourself to get a foot in door. The best thing you could do is start attending local events and munches and find a mentor. Get some learning under your belt.



Rule -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 8:08:31 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
Are you fucking serious?

Can it be that you are a USA citizen?

quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
I'm in total awe and shock from the apparently how things work here though.

Are you shaking all over now? That is what dogs do when they are in that condition; I saw it several times on The dog whisperer. It means that they are rethinking their world.

quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
Maybe it is just me and I'm being unreasonable but isn't BDSM based in respect and trust before it is based in calling a humilation loving sub

I dunno. But I wonder if there are such submissives. In my opinion that is characteristic of certain natural slaves.

I will start a poll on it.

quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
You'll have to pardon me if I think there should be some connection between the two of us before I start degrading you to some sub-anthropoid creature.

Umm, while you are at it, would you please degrade the Alps? Going to Italy will be less expensive if they are not so high.

quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
This is my personal rant.

You are doing fine. Have another go at it.

quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
I hold nothing against the people who haven't/won't answer my messages.

We concur! I hold nothing against them either!

quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
Like I said I'm not Fabio,

I dunno who or what that is, so it cannot be important.


quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
I'm not man pretty.

Do you have a circumcized dick? I am curious, because I have this hypothesis...

Man pretty? Are you homosexual?

If not, I have news for you: Christian females often do not care what a male looks like. (They can always be adulterous with a better looking male.)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
I know it, accept it, and live with it.

How about letting it go instead of carrying that obsession with your looks around? Give that load to the Divine to carry. And throw that mirror away. Jezus, haven't you got anything better to do than being preoccupied with such an inconsequential thing as your looks? Are you a narcissist, perhaps?

quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
Just show some respect.

No. I am busy picking my nose. Respect must be earned.

quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
To whoever agrees friend me

Nah. I never hear from people who befriend me any more. I do not even know whether they still live.

I suspect that you are a narcissist.



Killerangel -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 8:09:45 PM)

Btw, I don't respond to anyone simply asking about kink or sex in a first message. To me its an indication that the sender is on a different wave length than I am as i like to know about a person outside of those two things. Show me something different and have it be personal to you, and you'll stand out from almost every other message I get that day. Your example of asking if I was still looking for a daddy would hit the garbage pile in no time.

I can find sex and kink anywhere, for a woman it's just not that freaking hard, and it's not our primary reason to be looking. Generally, women are looking for people, while men look for sex. If you want to find a woman, guess what? You have to interest her as a person.



CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 8:11:28 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: searching4mysir

No response (or a deleted unread) means they aren't interested. They don't respond because experience has told them that when they do so they either a) get called a fat/worthless cunt/bitch/whore or b) they aren't heard and the guy tries to push himself on you. By not responding, they avoid that ugliness.

Take it up with your brethren. They caused it.


I'll own this, it is my personal fault that you receive few if any responses... I spammed all of them first, repeatedly. It was fun but I wanted to make certain that most if not all of those who were twue submissives went vanilla, I wanted to cure them of this perversion.

I did it.



ARIES83 -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 8:13:48 PM)

OP, ..... you need a lot of work....
and that has nothing to do with your looks
Good luck with it.

-ARIES



AlisterLockland -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 8:14:44 PM)

I must admit that though I understand the analogys, why they are being used, and even accept that this post and even I look like them. I find it absolutely hilarious that I'm compared to spam, telemarketers, and various other nuances. Just a personal point of humor. Thanks for the feed back. Hell even


quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterG2kTR

Great....another whiner. Man up and grow a pair...then move on.

Not getting a response is just like when I hang up on telemarketers. I have no obligation whatsoever to even respond with a "no thanks".



is good advice. I'll take my lumps for pissing and moaning and ranting. Still thank you for all the advice and suggestions.



CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 8:21:43 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland

I must admit that though I understand the analogys, why they are being used, and even accept that this post and even I look like them. I find it absolutely hilarious that I'm compared to spam, telemarketers, and various other nuances. Just a personal point of humor. Thanks for the feed back. Hell even


quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterG2kTR

Great....another whiner. Man up and grow a pair...then move on.

Not getting a response is just like when I hang up on telemarketers. I have no obligation whatsoever to even respond with a "no thanks".



is good advice. I'll take my lumps for pissing and moaning and ranting. Still thank you for all the advice and suggestions.


I think there is a thread in "Ask a Submissive" which has to do with writing to submissives online through the other side of this site.

My personal take, now that i have personally ruined anyone closely compatible to you here is to relax. First, know yourself, know who you are, what you want and most importantly, what you have to offer... and I don't mean kink, kink is the least important aspect of any of this if you are looking for more than just play. Remember, take away all the distractions and all this is, is relationships...

What do you bring to a relationship, what do you have, of yourself to offer to a woman? Also, again, relax... try to honestly make a connection in your message, show that you have read their profile, message those you feel that there might be a common basis for a relationship with or at the very least, a friendship with.

Also, don't take any of this shit personally, speak with intention, mean what you say, or type... and don't take anything said or not responded to personally, just continue working on yourself and the right one will be attracted to you.

Get the hell out from behind the computer... meet people, get to know people and who knows? There have been some very great meetings through this site but most of the people on this side have met their (fill-in-the-blank) out there somewhere and are just here to chat with people from all over...





littlewonder -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 9:23:16 PM)

Ok, this brings our count to what this week?? Anyone keeping a tally?



gungadin09 -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 9:25:27 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland

Are you fucking serious? I realize that I'm not exactly the most aesthetically pleasing man but seriously though what the hell is up with people?

I respect a subs, a slaves, and a switches right to say. "Ya know, so sorry but I'm just not into you for reasons x, y,and z."

My response usually consists of
"Ok cool sounds good. Have a wonderful day and I wish you the best luck in finding what your looking for." end, period, no more.

I'm in total awe and shock from the apparently how things work here though. Is sending a message that says "hello." followed by a question such as "Was wondering if you are still looking for a daddy." (to those who's profile says they are still looking) Is that such an offensive thing? More than that is saying simply "hello" a travesty? I choose to show some base human respect to a woman and don't get the damn courtacy returned to me? Is choosing to show respect to a woman until the point when you know her well enough to disrespect her so strange and outlandish? Maybe it is just me and I'm being unreasonable but isn't BDSM based in respect and trust before it is based in calling a humilation loving sub something along the lines of

(example) "a worthless cum sucking cunt who's sole purpose is to fuck me until she is crying, covered in cum, and used that is lucky I don't throw her away." (example)

You'll have to pardon me if I think there should be some connection between the two of us before I start degrading you to some sub-anthropoid creature.

To the people who agree that you should just jump into the degradation and/or believe that the physical is and should be the most important piece in a BDSM relation.

Go try mixing ammonia and Clorox

This is my personal rant. I hold nothing against the people who haven't/won't answer my messages. Like I said I'm not Fabio, I'm not man pretty. I know it, accept it, and live with it. Just show some respect.





CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 9:27:19 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Ok, this brings our count to what this week?? Anyone keeping a tally?


No, last time I participated in any form of tally, I came damned close to being moderated, no clue... don't want to know, I have nothing to do with this, move along, nothing to see... I was never here.

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Silentrunner26 -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 9:42:10 PM)

Seeing how much mail women get in just an hour of putting up a post I don't expect much of a response if any at all . I do like to hear a no thank you form women I do say hello to but I don't get up tight when it never comes . No answer is an answer .



hlen5 -> RE: Personal Rant (8/3/2012 11:02:46 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: CRYPTICLXVI

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Ok, this brings our count to what this week?? Anyone keeping a tally?


No, last time I participated in any form of tally, I came damned close to being moderated, no clue... don't want to know, I have nothing to do with this, move along, nothing to see... I was never here.

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Yay!! Squirrel!!!



xLaChienne -> RE: Personal Rant (8/4/2012 2:30:40 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
Is sending a message that says "hello." followed by a question such as "Was wondering if you are still looking for a daddy." (to those who's profile says they are still looking) Is that such an offensive thing?



You've gotten some good advice and lumps thrown in.

When I get a message that reads:

"Hello,

I was wondering if you are still looking for a sub?"

I don't even open it.

It's not offensive. It's simply unoriginal and uninspiring of a response.

My advise: inspire a response and invest zero into whether or not you get a response. No investment = no rant.



Whirlwind1 -> RE: Personal Rant (8/4/2012 3:15:28 AM)

What happened to

Hi!
My name is *insert name here*.
I noticed your profile, I enjoyed it and I think we might have a fair bit in common.
I'd like to get to know you better if that's agreeable.
Thank you for taking the time to read my PM.

Cheers,
~Nice Dude.

Nice.
Polite.
Isn't demanding.
Isn't sexual right off the bat.
Sees her as a human being.

Don't be a leg humper.
Leg humping sucks.



Rule -> RE: Personal Rant (8/4/2012 3:27:15 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rule
quote:

ORIGINAL: AlisterLockland
Maybe it is just me and I'm being unreasonable but isn't BDSM based in respect and trust before it is based in calling a humilation loving sub

I dunno. But I wonder if there are such submissives. In my opinion that is characteristic of certain natural slaves.

I will start a poll on it.

So I did. There were six respondents. Fifty percent marked "No" when asked whether genuine submissives love to be humiliated. The other fifty percent were intent on flogging Ron.



LadyPact -> RE: Personal Rant (8/4/2012 3:29:45 AM)

There is an old saying that goes if you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got.

What you are doing does not work. You refuse to become educated in what does work. At the same time, you want to complain about the respect you aren't getting, that you haven't earned from anyone.

I'm glad you labeled this a rant. Considering the above, I doubt there is little that would be constructive.




SpaceSpank -> RE: Personal Rant (8/4/2012 4:23:30 AM)

Nothing happened to it, it's just so plain that the majority if people would simply just delete/ignore it for either not being "good" enough of a first message, or reeking too much of copy&paste mass mail spam.


quote:

ORIGINAL: Whirlwind1

What happened to

Hi!
My name is *insert name here*.
I noticed your profile, I enjoyed it and I think we might have a fair bit in common.
I'd like to get to know you better if that's agreeable.
Thank you for taking the time to read my PM.

Cheers,
~Nice Dude.

Nice.
Polite.
Isn't demanding.
Isn't sexual right off the bat.
Sees her as a human being.

Don't be a leg humper.
Leg humping sucks.




crazyml -> RE: Personal Rant (8/4/2012 4:33:19 AM)

Nah.. that looks like you've just sent the same message to 200 other people.



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