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Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 3:18:31 AM

ARIES83

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For me, I'm a big fan of traditional Male/Female
roles, I know in this day and age theres some
resistance to that, and some see women as the
"housewife" as being out dated and a product of
male chauvinism.
For me it's important, and since it ties in with my
holistic view of what a woman is and does in my
style of D/s, I suppose I can say "traditional" is a
big part of my kink...

I love to cook, my spice rack is humongous, I love
smelling every one to deside what, whatever I'm
cooking is missing, I love shopping for ingredients,
trying recipies... So she she does get a break.
Yes a lot of my cooking gives people diarrhea but I
seem to be fine...

So who does the cooking in your house?
Does your dinner need to be on the table or theres
trouble?
Do you take turns?
I'm interested to hear how everyone handles it at
their place.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 3:24:58 AM

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We have a bit of an apron fetish. 'Got about half dozen vintage bits of lace and frill. After food prep, I like to see her in one while being served dinner.

Otherwise, she cooks, I chop and clean up. We collaborate on the spicing.

If I say "I feel like coq a vin", generally it's going to appear in front of me within 48 hours.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 3:56:30 AM

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My submissive works, 4 days a week, leaves the house at 7:00 AM, and doesn't get home until 7:45 PM. I on the other hand , am usually home by a quarter after 5. She would cook for me every night if I asked her to, but that is impractical. So Monday through Thursday I do the bulk of the cooking, both breakfast and dinner. She always cooks on Fridays, and on weekends we collaborate. It doesn't hurt that I am quite an accomplished cook, and find cooking ....... spiritually soothing.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 5:11:46 AM

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.......And if you're cooking is giving people diarrhea, please consider getting new cutting boards, washing your hands more, and tossing out food from the fridge that's a little on the old side. Alternately, cut back on the flax seed oil.

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RE: Who WEARS the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 6:02:36 AM

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Both of the people that live in my house do the cooking. I probably do it more as I enjoy it more and am better at it. No aprons get worn.

He does most of the cleaning as he enjoys it to some degree and is better at it.

I do most of the laundry because I am picky about how it is done.

I do nearly all of the animal care and work involved with animals...except he usually does help me with hay hauling.

In my house there are no male or female tasks. There is only shit that needs done and whoever is better at it, or places a higher priority on it, does it.

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RE: Who wears the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 6:07:59 AM

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Not only do I love to cook, but was fortunate that shortly after my husband and I separated I learned a lot from two boyfriends and a good friend who were professional chefs. Some of this was when I lived on an ashram where I picked up Indian cooking. Part of my responsibilities when I was a volunteer at a small yoga retreat center in Costa Rica was cooking lunch, and I learned a lot from this as well, including how to improvise from the land when the twice weekly food delivery truck failed to show up. Then I met R who was a big fan of Thai cuisine so now I dabble in that as well. My Mexican coworker turned me on to authentic Mexican cuisine.

Since 1999, I've been reading authors such as Michael Pollan and intend that for my next relationship, he preferably shares my food values or if not gives me free rein to buy organic and cook healthily, which to me includes meaning the plate will have a rainbow of colors from different vegetables. I should have known that it wouldn't work with M when at the first meal I cooked him, a Thai chicken stir fry, he picked out all the broccoli and said this was more vegetables than he normally eats in two weeks. (Two months was closer... maybe two years.)

Now that we have transitioned into roommates and I am no longer cooking for him, it irks me to no end to have Wonderbread in my house.

(I have been described as a Food Domme.)

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 6:17:36 AM

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I cook. If he cooked it would be hotdogs and doritos every night for dinner. Maybe hamburger helper as a special treat. They don't even sell hamburger helper in the UK, his mum actually sends it to him in the mail because she knows what a useless cook he is.

I enjoy cooking for him though, makes me feel like I'm taking care of him. I like doing the whole domestic goddess thing. He makes it a challenge because he is a very fussy eater, and is diabetic, so I'm constantly trying to find ways to vary his diet without going outside his limiting criteria.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 6:20:26 AM

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Men in my life have cooked now and then, but it mainly fell to me, which has always made sense since for years I was a vegetarian and/or vegan. I kind of had to do the cooking to make dishes we would both enjoy.

Now that I'm eating meat again (I can't fucking believe it), I'm finding out that I am still struggling to learn how to cook it all properly. So cooking has actually become less enjoyable for me, even with all the more options. I was much better at non-meat meals. I'm hoping whoever I do wind up with has at least a few kitchen skills to help me along a bit. Either that, or I'm going back to dry-frying tofu and and making lentil loafs.

In general, though, I'm traditional, as well. I would prefer to do the cooking, unless he's in the mood to do it himself.

I also can't grill for shit. Likely because I don't own a grill.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 6:31:41 AM

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I do most of the cooking. I love cooking and doing it for my Master just makes it all the more enjoyable. It puts me in a good headspace to cook up a meal and serve it to him. It makes me happy.

However, occasionally he will join me and help out with the cooking--making meals, baking bread or sweet things, sometimes we will do it together and that is nice too. We have fun and spending time together like that is always very cheerful and pleasant.

He rarely does any cooking on his own. The only times this happens are times where I've been sick or incapacitated in some other manner, and he'll take care of me.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 6:38:49 AM

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It wasn't always my thing but when I went vegan five years ago I fell in love with cooking.

I do most of the shopping, cooking and meal planning. My boyfriend is competent in the kitchen though (and more so every year). He does the grilling, sandwiches, frying, and the crockpot. We we're both home at a reasonable time we cook together. He's at a point now too where if I'm really tired or not feeling well that he can make things I know how to make with some instruction.

We oddly have some traditional gender roles spread throughout our household chores.

Me: primary grocery shopper, cook, kitchen and bathroom cleaner.

Him: trash, litter box, and laundry.

There are no strict lines though. We help each other out with everything.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 6:45:34 AM

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We share cooking duties depending on who is going to be home first to do the cooking. I am the better cook, having had friends back in NY when I was growing up who used me as a guinea pig when they were trying to see if they could teach people to cook at their restaurants. I also work 10 hour shifts 4 days a week, so starting a major undertaking of a meal wen I get home at 9pm isnt terribly useful. He cooks on the days he is home, and I will either set something up for him to put into the oven or he will make something from a box. Rice a roni, jumbalaya and asian peanut noodles are his favorites and if left to his own devices we would eat a lot of that. On my days off, I cook and usually make extra for lunchs for the week too. After Fencing classes on Wednesday, we usually pick up dinner on the way home since we are both too tired to cook.

There really arent traditional roles in our house. Fox likes being able to be the little "wife" at home and have dinner waiting on me. This worked better before his promotion when he was always home first. Regardless of who cooks, he does always do the dishes.

The only time there is an "or else" when we have dinners ready is when he has a turn around at work. If it isnt ready when he gets home, we might not have time to eat since he has to head to bed to be back up really early. Getting home at 11:30 and having to be back in the next morning by 8 sucks for sleep and eatting.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 6:58:37 AM

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quote:

Now that I'm eating meat again (I can't fucking believe it), I'm finding out that I am still struggling to learn how to cook it all properly. So cooking has actually become less enjoyable for me, even with all the more options. I was much better at non-meat meals.

What about sticking with your favorite or simplest non-meat meals and adding a little meat? My mother poaches enough chicken for a few days and adds it to her veggies and starches. I do the same only I grill. When it's cooler, I bake a package of chicken thighs.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 7:40:14 AM

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......It's all Mediteranian, heavy on the appetiser tasting menu approach to dinner. A bit of chicken breast or a few prawns, but mostly it's veg with a serving of quality carb.

We'll make a tajine, then have it the next day with a tri-colored salad or a bit of some fennel and orange on the side. Then the next day we might grill up some salmon and dump the salad mix next to it. We had a bumper crop of parsley and mint, so I made a few quarts of tabouleh (it freezes). I've lost 10 K since getting married -usually, it's the reverse.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 7:55:12 AM

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Let's see. When my husband was alive, I did the cooking...not because he wanted me to or because I was expected to though. My husband was one hell of a cook...he actually taught me. BUT, he was the messiest man I had ever come across. When he cooked, I spent two to three hours cleaning his mess.
I took over the cooking and refused to even let him near MY kitchen. I used to threaten him with bodily harm if he even thought of trying to cook in MY CLEAN kitchen.

*nods*

So there you have it.
I did ALL the cooking, happily, and without argument.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 9:29:28 AM

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My turn to cook usually means take out or we are going out to eat. On extreme rarities I cook. But right now I can't remember when the last time was. Maybe last year sometime.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 10:19:01 AM

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I don't live with my girl, but if I did, I would do most of the cooking. What I don't know I could learn easily enough.

If she wanted to cook she would be welcome to, and perhaps she might. That's something we would work out the way we do everything else.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 11:05:10 AM

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Despite being very very submissive from as young as I can remember I have never really served at home in that sense, although I am very naturally obedient and of course I do if I'm asked.

It is not the best use of my talents,. I earned 10x my husband and pay people to do things around the house and despite being submissive am a feminist. Anyway it would be a total waste of my professinoal skills and earning capacity to have me doing minimum wage stuff at home instead. No man has ever wanted me for that and those who do would steer clear of someone like I am. Of course putting on an apron, high heels and not much else and serving occasionally is very very sexy and whoever I am submissive to knows he could always insist I cook. I only eat primal/paleo anyway so fat out of shape British and American men probably would not eat what I do.
[This thread seems to be designed to put all men off me forever.. laughing as I type...]

On the other hand I am a mother of a large family and a lot of what I do is clearing up so I am not saying I entirely non domestic. I can mend most things about the house, do the garden most weeks, wield the electric hedge trimmer (today) and do acres of washing at weekends when the housekeeper isn't here and my sons go through many sets of sports wear.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 11:11:23 AM

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He prefers to cook, but when he can't I do it, and I need to ask what he wants to eat beforehand or I have to tell him what I plan on making and accept that he may want to make changes. He has heart and cholesterol issues, which makes him scrutinize what he eats. If he is doing the cooking I'm in there with him helping with whatever I can do.

He wants the control over what he eats, he has a thing about feeding me/taking care of me, and he just likes to make the decisions of everything that goes into it - like doing all the grocery shopping too. He allows me to pack food for outings and trips and such, but I generally have to ok with him what it is first, and accept the fact that he might not eat any of it, preferring to stop and buy something instead. He's not picky at all, he's a fairly adventurous eater, he just wants the control. Which is fine with me.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 11:53:01 AM

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quote:

So who does the cooking in your house?
Does your dinner need to be on the table or theres
trouble?
Do you take turns?
I'm interested to hear how everyone handles it at
their place.

I do the majority of the cooking.
I make him food when I know he's hungry and he'll tell me that he wants something to eat before getting home and I make dinner. There is no "or else" because I'm not stupid and I obey and besides, I l like being able to please him any way I can. Plus I don't work right now, going back to school so it would be selfish of me not to make him something to eat when he's been out working.

We don't take turns but every once in awhile he will do the cooking because he enjoys it or because I don't know how to make certain dishes but he does or if he knows I've had a rough day he will cook.

I only wear an apron when I'm making huge family or holiday meals. He sometimes will buy something for me to make but normally that's left up to me to do.

I pretty much do all the chores around here except when I can't reach something because I'm short lol. I'm his slave, why would I not be the one doing the chores? It's my responsibility being his slave. That's not to say he doesn't do things. He does but generally overall, I do the work. If I need help with such things I will ask him and most of the time he's more than happy to help me.

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RE: Who wares the apron in your house? - 8/5/2012 12:41:42 PM

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I love to cook! For me, it's both creative and relaxing. I live alone so, of course, I'm the one who does it. When my ex and I lived together, we both loved to cook so we'd take turns....one would cook and the other would do the clean-up, and then we'd switch the next day. I love cooking for people and I'm actually very good at it. I have more cookbooks than any other single variety of book in my home.

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