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JessN -> Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 1:17:42 PM)

My owner is a smoker and doesn't care if I smoke or not, I want to quit but need an appropriate time and place.

Does your owners/masters dictate smoking or not?


* My Owner already knows I will not call him master for religious purposes. I only have 1 true master*



littlewonder -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 1:21:34 PM)

I don't smoke, never have so it's not a requirement here. He has however, taken away coffee for me. And yeah, he drinks coffee but he doesn't have the problems from it that I have.

Master dictates everything in my life if he wishes to.



DarkSteven -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 1:22:42 PM)

My sub's quitting. Because I said so.



OsideGirl -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 2:09:54 PM)

While I can understand a dominant giving the order, I think it needs to be kept in mind that smoking is an addiction. I know someone that is clean and sober, she once said that quitting Heroin was easier than quitting smoking.



SeekerMA -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 2:12:41 PM)

Neither I nor my sub smoke, but I have made her give up alcohol in all but the most special occasions, and reduced her soda intake pretty drastically, because both were adversely affecting her. If she did smoke though, I would certainly put a stop to it. Good luck to you!



crazyml -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 2:23:24 PM)

I suppose it would be worth checking with your one true master.

Does the big fellah want you to die painfully of lung cancer?

What would his son do.

.... seriously.



ironpalmsnewkitt -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 2:34:28 PM)

My Master Dictates my diet, Neither of us smoke, we have the occasional beer, and I can't cut my hair. He also does my STRESS AND ANGER MANAGEMENT.



RemoteUser -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 2:39:51 PM)

We both smoke occasionally. It's not something I dictate to her about because she is extremely sensible about it, and if I asked her not to, she wouldn't. Likewise, I have never smoked around her without asking whether it would bother her, and those times were very rare.

It also depends what is being smoked.



OsideGirl -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 2:48:33 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ironpalmsnewkitt

My Master Dictates my diet, Neither of us smoke, we have the occasional beer, and I can't cut my hair. He also does my STRESS AND ANGER MANAGEMENT.


Is he qualified to do so?



UllrsIshtar -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 3:13:26 PM)

I've quite smoking cigarettes on my own, without his input or instruction.

Now, I'm not prohibited from smoking, but I'm also not allowed to buy cigarettes. It's easier for me not to buy cigarettes than it is not to smoke, cause if I don't have a blank prohibition against buying a pack, I always end up telling myself that I'm just stressed/angry/upset/sad now, and will only have one. Which then results in a renewed addiction by the time I've finished the entire pack.

We do still, however, smoke quality cigars together at least once a week. It seems to help my cigarette addiction too when I've got a bad craving going due to stress to tell myself I can have nicotine, just not in the form of cigarettes, and not necessarily immediately (cigar smoking is a nighttime ritual for us).

Good luck quitting.



Winterapple -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 3:41:58 PM)

FR
I'm trying to quit, I'm doing it for myself
though someone doesn't want me to smoke.
I smoked in in college and my early twenties
and quit with no struggle and didn't smoke
for years. I started smoking again when I
was under awful stress. I'm finding it to
be harder this time to quit, it's an awful
monkey to have on your back.
I think Dom's can offer encouragement
and support when you're trying to break
a bad habit or unhealthy behavior.
But you have to do it yourself, for
yourself and made seek qualified
people to help you.



Lucifyre -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 4:26:46 PM)

Mkay....Mr quit smoking FOR ME a few years ago. I unfortunately was unable to break the habit. He understands what it's like to be under the influence of the addiction. He however also has a will of fucking iron and just decided one day to put them down and be done and I will re-state...He did it FOR ME (not because I asked, but because I had a temporary medical need for both of us to not smoke) I picked them back up, He didn't.
Now, a few years later, I am still smoking and it doesn't bother Him. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, I don't have any other vices besides smoking...and He *allows* it because He understands it.
Of course He would prefer I would quit, but He won't tell me to, nor will He try and Dom me into quitting, because He knows damn well that wouldn't work. The "because I said so" doesn't work. He could beat me until I am black and blue every single day and I would still smoke... well, no, that's not true, I'd probably just leave.
Please re-read OS's response above, there is so much truth in it.

Lucifyre



littlewonder -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 6:31:54 PM)

I used to say the same thing about my coffee addiction...there was no way I would stop, that it wouldn't happen and all that but here I am with no coffee. I still crave it though, especially on days like today where I'm fighting off a headache. [&o]

I quit though because I hated seeing him annoyed or upset over it and for me, it was my love for him that made me quit.



DesFIP -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 6:53:21 PM)

Smoking is a hard limit for him. He wouldn't have gotten involved with a smoker to begin with.



RaspberryLemon -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 10:24:39 PM)

My Master used to smoke cigarettes; he didn't like his addiction/habit but didn't see any reason or motivation to quit. When he met me and found out my opinion on smoking (I didn't like it and disapproved of it for health reasons, though I told him I would never ask him to quit,) he decided that would be his motivation and he quit, for me. He often times tells people that that was one of the best decisions he's made in his life. He's very glad that he is no longer a smoker, and disapproves of the habit.

So, if I were ever to express interest in smoking, he would forbid it. However, I've never smoked and never want to.



seekingreality -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 10:44:18 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: JessN

My owner is a smoker and doesn't care if I smoke or not, I want to quit but need an appropriate time and place.

Does your owners/masters dictate smoking or not?


* My Owner already knows I will not call him master for religious purposes. I only have 1 true master*


I don't smoke except for a cigar a few times a year.

To the larger question, my domme only has the ability to "allow" what I let her "allow." It's like a job interview -- each side has as much power as the other side allows. Ultimately, a sub can say "no" to anything. And the dom has the right to walk away because the "no" makes ths situation not work for them.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/5/2012 10:48:11 PM)

I would never have gotten involved with a smoker, but I did break Fox's Mt Dew addiction. It used to be the only thing he drank, and in ridiculous quantities. He has them on occasion now, but no where near as often or as many. It was not healthy for him, an so I put an end to it.



myotherself -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/6/2012 12:13:18 AM)

I don't smoke (never have) and Master quit years ago.

I couldn't be with a smoker - I saw what it did to my dad and even though he eventually quit, a lot of the damage was already done and it was a major contributor to his early death.

My addiction is food. When I'm stressed, I eat. When I want to celebrate, I want to eat. I need to lose weight for my health, and Master has ordered me to eat sensibly and increase my exercise. It's not easy breaking bad habits, but for him I'll do it.

Ultimately it will make my life better, so why would I not follow his orders?



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/6/2012 12:55:04 AM)

I stopped smoking at his instruction, though in all honesty I was never a heavy smoker and hadn't been smoking for long, so it wasn't too hard.

I find dieting to be much harder - after all, you can't go cold turkey with food. Like myotherself, I'm on orders to eat better and exercise more. I'm motivated anyway, since I still have baby weight I'm sick of looking at and I want the benefits of being fit, but having him hold me accountable really helps on the days I want to comfort eat.



kalikshama -> RE: Does your dom allow this (8/6/2012 5:37:56 AM)

Do you live with him? Is he going to smoke around you while you are trying to quit?

What's you plan for quitting? There are lots of tools out there. See also my Chantix thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3972235/tm.htm

The Chantix ran out and M started smoking again :(

His insurance only allows one 90 day supply per year. I looked into buying it online but couldn't find 30 day supplies for less than $135. I don't know if his insurance is being cheap or if there are medical reasons to not take it for more than 90 days per year.



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