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How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 2:24:36 PM

sheisreeds

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This came up in another thread, and I was just curious: How do your co-workers perceive you?

Are you out about your kink?

Do they think you're a prude?

Do they suspect that your home life is a little bit different?

Do what degree do you try to disguise or gloss over your BDSM life at work?

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 2:25:23 PM

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None of them know, but I doubt many would be surprised.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 2:33:53 PM

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Unless they actually pay attention to my offhand comments - and few do - hardly anyone would know at work.

There are some who know, maybe four or five. They either don't judge me, or are already into BDSM themselves. It's nothing I discuss with them; there wouldn't be much point with the ones out of the scene, and the ones who are in, I don't speak with anymore. (Life happens, things change.)

I have toyed with the idea of going into the office dressed in black leather for Hallowe'en. It's also a good excuse to shop for a decent leather jacket and pants.

But I'm not entirely certain how it would look on me.

Hmm. I should ask my girl, maybe scrounge for decent pictures of the clothing and see what she thinks.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 2:35:27 PM

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Do it!!!!! Almost any man looks good in black leather ... but we want pics.

oh, and to answer the question - no, no, and no. I don't work.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 2:51:23 PM

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At Uni close mates did know.....beside them....nobody.

At my last job I had one colleague where I was pretty sure that he lives the lifestyle...or at least....he so got me on that level

and might not even had grasped that fact

But in general at work people don't expect me in that lifestyle as in that respect I prefer to keep private things private...in my field I am pretty sure that some staff would interpret the wrong thing into it (sort of I am getting abused and must be rescued....most even rescued from myself for not getting it to get abused...or so

) and like now, working with our troubled teenage boys, it would have been fatal at work, if they would have figured that out....

therefore nope....to 99,9% I keep that part very private from work

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 3:11:01 PM

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quote:

This came up in another thread, and I was just curious: How do your co-workers perceive you?

Are you out about your kink?

When I go to work, I go to work. I rarely really talk to co-workers much nor are they like my family or anything. I just like to go to work, do what needs to be done and come home to my family.

No I am not out about my kink and never felt a need to. I'm a pretty private person.

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Do they think you're a prude?

No. They always just saw me as the single, widowed mother who was struggling to keep her life together and not much else. Then again, I was the youngest person in my department of 55 women in their late 50's and 60's. Most of them were extremely conservative and would talk about how they never have sex with their husbands because hubby always wants it and they get annoyed with it.

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Do they suspect that your home life is a little bit different?

Yes, everyone sees my life as a bit different because I have tats, I like to sometimes dress things up a bit or bring in a little cheer on my desk, and because I was the only single chick in the office, they saw me as being the girl who is free and a little wild compared to their conservative lives, which couldn't be further from the truth because I am probably as conservative as they were lol.

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Do what degree do you try to disguise or gloss over your BDSM life at work?

I never tried to disguise it or hide it. I just simply never talked about my personal life. I had learned years ago not to share much with co-workers because it will come back to bite you in the ass.

So...I go to my job for the paycheck and look at the clock for when it's 5:00 o'clock.

ETA: although they did know that I had a traditional type of relationship with Master because when they would ask me if I wanted to do this or that after work, I would always say that I needed to talk to my boyfriend and make sure it didn't interrupt any plans or anything which always seemed to puzzle them since they never ask their husbands if they can do something.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 4:03:34 PM

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I don't tell anybody anything and talk pretty
much exactly like I probably sound in my
posts but, I must give off some vibe because
everyone seems to think theres something
diffrent about me...

Most of the time they think I'm a serial killer
though... I have absolutly no idea why.
The friends I've made there are the ones who
can't see it or were brave enough to get to
know me heh.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 4:07:43 PM

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As an asshole.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 4:15:40 PM

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This came up in another thread, and I was just curious: How do your co-workers perceive you?

Are you out about your kink?
Like everywhere in my life, I make a calculated judgment on the risk, and then decide to share or not. (I've missed the mark a couple of times). A couple of people know, most don't.

Do they think you're a prude?
Hardly.

Do they suspect that your home life is a little bit different?
Is my home life different? Different. Huh.

Do what degree do you try to disguise or gloss over your BDSM life at work?
I don't disguise or gloss over anything. That sounds too much like hiding / lying, and I just don't have the memory for that. Instead, I just don't feel a need to be all open with them. Generally, I don't really share that side of me with people that are less than close to me. Of course they also are not aware that I work out 5 times a week, that I have a boatload of plants in my shower, that I talk to a friend every Tuesday morning. Why don't they know? Because my personal life is MY PERSONAL LIFE.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 4:22:43 PM

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I realized as I was leaving grad school that no matter where I went I was going to be the youngest for a long time to come. I hadn't reclaimed my kink yet, but I was actively involved in an anarchist collective and spinning fire. So i never fell into getting into my personal life at work, or discussing my weekend plans. I also went out of my way to dress very plain and professional.

I've only been single 1 year out of my entire professional life, and I know that helps coworkers view me as a plain jane prudish homebody.

> Are you out about your kink?

Absolutely not, but at the same time I am very much myself. I'm bitchy, sarcastic, can make the men blush w/ my sexual humor, and I curse a lot. People know I'm a gay rights activist, that I'm bisexual, have a history of depression, that my boyfriend is a body modification artist, that I'm vegan, etc. I keep work at work, I don't have coworkers on my facebook, and all that shows up on a search of my actual name is my resume. I hate chit chat no matter where I am so I tend to be straight and to the point and stick to work topics.

> Do they think you're a prude?

Absolutely, despite everything listed above. For the longest time they couldn't imagine me drinking alcohol. All the women in the office freak when I'm wearing eye shadow (to cover the left over black eyeliner from the night before). People don't believe I'd ever wear heels. It is assumed I am a workaholic and I don't do anything interesting outside of work.

> Do they suspect that your home life is a little bit different?

No, even though the facts they have should lead them to believe otherwise. Once in awhile new employees have wondered if I'm gay because I refer to my partner as my partner. I tell them I'm bisexual, and we're not into getting married, and boyfriend doesn't seem an appropriate term for what my relationship is.

> Do what degree do you try to disguise or gloss over your BDSM life at work?

I go to pretty great lengths at times! One summer I had a rape scene and had a HUGE bite mark on my upper arm in the middle of summer. I work a 1/2 sleeve blissfully lightweight cardigan for over a month through 90 degree days. Once I did a posture collar scene and had marks all over my neck. I've covered up many limps, and started wearing tights before the weather has cooled down.

Outside hiding signs of play, I deeply gloss over my personal life. All my social networking sites do not use my name, unless you're a good friend and get my need for boundaries I do not use my real name. I'm anal about it.

I recognized that when I finished school my legal name belonged to my career.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 4:26:16 PM

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I hope that co workers perceive me as a smart, funny, productive and colloborative member of whatever team I am working on.

I don't discuss my sexuality with anyone I work with, why would I? Work is competitive enough in sales.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 4:32:14 PM

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No one knows about my kink that doesn't have to. Why should my colleagues and clients know a thing?

They know an outgoing, sharp, professional woman.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 5:35:40 PM

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The only coworkers who knew about this were ones I considered close friends. And a couple were surprised, with the best comment being "well, now your halo is down around your knees!" When you work fulltime shiftwork as a nurse, other nurses very much become like a second family for when you don't get to see your own (nursing is 24/7, 365 days a year).

My coworkers didn't know I was in an abusive relationship, previously because I was so good at hiding it, so there's no way they'd voluntarily find out about this. I think it's easy enough to keep private.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 7:02:42 PM

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They think I'm prude-y. I can see that from the outside. I dress modestly. Don't talk about sex or have it. Don't talk about who I'm dating. Don't actively flirt with people and am very clueless as to when people are hitting on me.

But they do like me a lot. They think I'm cute as a button. A button with awesome hair.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 9:31:43 PM

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As a bitch, however the ones that take the time to get to know Me, find out I'm a bitch with a sense of humor.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/5/2012 10:04:20 PM

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quote:

Are you out about your kink?

Pretty much. Most folk know I'm into some pretty wild stuff

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Do they think you're a prude?

They think I'm insane. Not just cause the kink, but because I'm a freaking adrenalin junkie lunatic

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Do they suspect that your home life is a little bit different?

Yep

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Do what degree do you try to disguise or gloss over your BDSM life at work?

A bit, but that's less to do with kink a more to do with the fact that I only let most people in so far. That's the line between acquaintance/coworker and friend.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/6/2012 10:07:18 AM

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I don't know for sure how the guys here perceive me. I don't ask them. Apparently they like me most days, respect me most days and miss me when I am gone. It's a small company and I've been a part of it since July 2001. I've known the boss longer than his wife. Same with the graphic designer. The boss and the pressman are both friends with Generic Dude. They do the golfing and the fishing stuff on occasion.

We do not discuss our sex lives......period. I am no prude and don't flip out about raunchy jokes but we all have enough respect for one another, to not go there. Nothing is disguised, we simply treat one another with respect.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/6/2012 10:00:10 PM

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In my previous job... there was one female nurse who knew. She saw my profile on here, and I thought to myself... well... if she saw me on here then she must be here too. We made a silent agreement to keep each others secret, and I removed my photo for a while.

I prefer my private life to stay that way... private.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/6/2012 10:08:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: sheisreeds

How do your co-workers perceive you?

Professional, smart, funny, take charge, gets things done.

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Are you out about your kink?

I have two close friends at work and they know, but those conversations are kept outside of work. Friendship is separate from business.

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Do they think you're a prude?

I'm sure the guy I filed a harassment claim against does, but I doubt others do.

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Do they suspect that your home life is a little bit different?

I have no idea what they think of my home life. I don't much talk about it.

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Do what degree do you try to disguise or gloss over your BDSM life at work?

There isn't much to disguise or gloss over. Personal life is personal. Work is work. He doesn't leave marks in areas I'd need to be concerned about at work.

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RE: How do your co-workers perceive you? - 8/6/2012 10:12:46 PM

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Professionnal, ponctual, friendly....they dont need to know anything that involves anything other then the job itself, maybe the school program i'm in, but this is it. i dont even feel the need to tell my friends, so why would i tell my coworkers?

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