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Question for The Daddys - 8/5/2012 4:43:41 PM

DaddysGentleHand

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I have only had one babygirl, she was my first and my last.
For reasons we won't go into here, we have gone our own ways. In one word "TOXIC".

How easy was the adjustment for you when you found a new babygirl?
What were the feelings you dealt with, and how did you deal with them?

I have this nagging fear that a part of me will always consider myself as her Daddy.

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RE: Question for The Daddys - 8/5/2012 5:03:50 PM

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Most but not all "babygirls" are self-serving, scheming females.

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RE: Question for The Daddys - 8/5/2012 5:16:42 PM

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Most but not all "babygirls" are self-serving, scheming females.

Um.

DaddysGentlehand, it's no different than vanilla. You owe it to yourself to get back in circulation and try for happiness.

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RE: Question for The Daddys - 8/5/2012 6:44:13 PM

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It sounds like you're not ready for a new relationship yet.
Take time off, do stuff you had been meaning to.

Reconnect with your friends, take in a ball game. Rejoin a softball team, whatever you used to do and stopped once you got into a relationship.

But before you go try to meet someone else, you need to do some soul searching. Some of us aren't drawn to people who are toxic for us. You apparently are. Why? Figure this out and solve it before you again look across a crowded room and unerringly are drawn to the one person who is the worst partner for you.

Hint: it comes from family of origin issues. We pick things and people that are familiar, like our family irregardless if this is healthy for us or not.

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RE: Question for The Daddys - 8/5/2012 9:15:07 PM

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Most but not all "babygirls" are self-serving, scheming females.

Do I smell butthurt on you for some reason?

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RE: Question for The Daddys - 8/6/2012 9:37:26 PM

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I dunno bout baby girls cuz I don't do the Daddy thing but I can say that a BDSM breakup can be a brutal thing. Last serious breakup I went through was after a 4 year relationship and it took about 18 months before I was really healed enough to be ready to give things another shot.
The feelings? Anger, remorse, much sadness, deep regrets over errors I had made, general unhappiness that things had not worked out, and hardest of all, dealing with the loss of hope that the relationship might be salvageable.
And ya know what?
After I came out on the other end of the pain, the experience had profoundly (As always) changed me as a person, a man and as a dominant. Going through the crucible of pain left me a kinder, gentler, more empathic and compassionate person, far more vulnerable emotionally, and thus, far more capable of being in a healthy relationship than I had hitherto been.
No BS here. Many of the reasons that the relationship I am currently in is so great can be found in the ashes of prior relationships gone south. Everything that I am as a dominant and as a partner, all that I know, has been taught to me by the great women I have been blessed to have in my life. And that means all, the good, the bad, the utterly insane. Each one of the women I have loved has left her footprints on my heart and I am eternally grateful for their love and how it has helped me grow.

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RE: Question for The Daddys - 8/7/2012 12:09:45 AM

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No experience with being a daddy, but I'm sure it's the same as with any relationship... If you were together long, and the bond was strong, then feelings and memories of that person will always remain, to some extent or other. That's no reason not to meet other people, however. Perhaps not right now, but when your feelings recede and you feel like you are in a position to give potential future partners the attention they deserve.

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RE: Question for The Daddys - 8/7/2012 10:44:28 AM

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You'll always care. Daddies never stop caring for little ones. That doesn't mean you can't move on, though. If things didn't work out, learn from it and take it into consideration for your next relationship. There are good girls out there. I found mine, and she completes me. I have faith you will find yours, but you have to have that faith yourself, too!

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RE: Question for The Daddys - 8/7/2012 1:09:41 PM

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Kana, well said words of wisdom.

It is always about the gain, not the loss.

Perspective - it is all about perspective.

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RE: Question for The Daddys - 8/7/2012 1:28:39 PM

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I'm confused, who was the baby girl again?

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