LadyPact
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Which is simply complete and utter BS, it's an ignorant idea what prodommes do and tolerate.
Sorry, but that isn't universally true. You have to remember that you are speaking from a place where the trade is regulated, at least to some extent. That's not the case on this side of the pond. There isn't any rule that says what clients will or will not do that is governed over here. That's also why a pro in this country may or may not involve orgasms for the male. They do have the risk of being busted, but nobody is really looking over anyone's shoulder to see if there is any physical sex or not.
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Apart from that, there are tons of life-style "relationships" that aren't relationships, money might not change hands but the guy buys her this or that, does her tax, does her garden in exchange for the domination - doesn't really mean it's a real relationship. This part goes a little too far. You are not in the position to say that people in such arrangements have no affection for one another and are only trading services. In what you describe above, people in such situation tend to be friends, at least, which I see as more than client/professional.
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Personally I am staying away from the life-stylers in my area, because it's really more like a swinger club with kink, the same people who fuck around without much protection and pretty much like a bunch of rabbits look down on pros and also see fit to call them prostitutes. Sorry, but almost every pro domme I've ever met has more morals and handles her personal sex life with more responsibility.
There are some groups like that over here, too. It really just depends on where you are and if the swinger community has any cross over or influence from when the kink group was starting up. Fortunately, (for Me, anyway) in the four places that I've lived across the country where I've been active in BDSM, these aren't the types of groups that have been closest to home.
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Apart from that, Otter's post is really spot on. A guy who has certain desires and checks them out in a professional environment under safe conditions before he makes an informed choice - I prefer that 100% to the guys who sneak behind their wives' backs or how come here and expect to get their rocks off, just because they joined a kink site.
Otters post is spot on in regards to that particular pro. It's not particularly difficult to figure out who he is talking about. We do have a number of exceptionally well regarded pros in this country. There are several who are involved with the leather community that are held in the same high esteem.
Again, you have to remember that there is a scale. Not all of them are that good or have the same policies. You're used to thinking of pros as well trained in a regulated business. Here, anybody can be a pro, whether they are skilled or not, engage in sexual activities or not, and the opposite of Otter's example are anybody who can manage to make a buck and label it BDSM.
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Seriously, if I was single, 10 years younger and in his area, I'd definitely would want to meet him! He sounds like a catch!
I wouldn't especially think that anyone who had a favorable experience as a pro would find a person being a client as a negative. I found it one for the reason that I explained in one of My replies to the OP. I don't find it admirable to have the attitude of opening the wallet to get what someone wants. That's not a catch to Me. It's actually a lot closer to a character flaw.
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RE: Lifestyle subs who have seen Pro Dommes: + or -? - 
I know of some splendid examples who do just that.
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