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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/10/2012 9:03:58 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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Status: offline 		Geez, OP. Are you sure you're not just writing to those hot sexy 20somethings? I'd be willing to bet there's a higher percentage of those who want tributes than those of us who're considerably older. I don't want tributes but, hey, I'm in my 50s already. lol And I have a sub already. Oh well.

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 6:14:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I have one hanging on my wall, as it happens. Huge bloody thing it is, too. I wouldn't want to meet the original owner of that in a dark alley.


Surely a dark alley is a good place to run into a shark... you'd have the natural advantage.

OP- lots of dommes don't want tribute, and I would be willing to bet that a decent domme who does accept tributes wouldn't expect one just to exchange the initial 'hello-how are you-do we have enough in common' to move forward type correspondence.

Try looking for women who have fully clothed pictures, vanilla interests, and no amazon wishlists on their profile. One single incredibly gorgeous picture is a bad sign. Anyone who says they will accept 'any true submissive' most likely means 'anyone who will send me money' and anyone who has twelve pictures of themselves pouting and sticking up the middle finger is possibly not a good choice either.

I wouldn't say you're bumping into pros. Proper pro-dommes (the ones who know what they are doing and maintain a proper client base) tend to be clear and upfront about what they do and don't offer. Sounds like you're running into scammers and/or people who have heard you can make easy money by posting naked pictures and calling people small-dicked worms.

Good luck!

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 7:58:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I will NOT post any photos of me naked! (and I do not currently have any cute little s-type girls hanging about I can coerce into posing for me....insert wicked eyebrow wiggle here)......but I will call anyone that wants to be called a small dicked worm, a small dicked worm!

For a price!

(both my chocolate supply and espresso supply is running low at the moment...)

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 8:13:46 AM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

According to this thread, I'm a scammer. Damn! I suck.




That line didn't give me a stiffy, so I think you're safe. ;-)


That's ok. Lots of the other lines do.


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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 3:04:39 PM   
DivaToes


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Status: offline 		Sure, there are a lot of real pro-Dommes here and they usually state that they are. This is why it's important to read (in-full) the profile of the person you intend to contact.

Do they sound like a real person or do they sound too good to be true?

Do they have Twitter, a website, NiteFlirt (WITH ratings and reviews) to show some kind of consistency to support their identity?

I hate to accuse anyone but, the worst scammers are the guys who are here pretending to be Dommes or sub women.

Bottom line is: If you can't afford a pro-Domme or have some values-based issue about it, simply move on to the next profile. pro-Dommes don't like time wasters any more than any of us like time-wasters.

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 3:15:36 PM   
PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: DivaToes
I hate to accuse anyone but, the worst scammers are the guys who are here pretending to be Dommes or sub women.


Certainly these scammers *could* be male. But how do you *know* that they are?


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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 3:16:36 PM   
PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

That's ok. Lots of the other lines do.



Indeedy. ;-)


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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 5:04:27 PM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I will NOT post any photos of me naked! (and I do not currently have any cute little s-type girls hanging about I can coerce into posing for me....insert wicked eyebrow wiggle here)......but I will call anyone that wants to be called a small dicked worm, a small dicked worm!

For a price!

(both my chocolate supply and espresso supply is running low at the moment...)


I have to stop giving freebies - hold on, that means I have to stop calling idiots idiots - hmmm gotta think about this one...

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 5:29:53 PM   
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People should send me stuff.



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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 9:27:50 PM   
DivaToes


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Status: offline 		One way I definitely know is when they confess they are. A certain "Domme" named Sandra somethingorother is really a submissive married man from NH. I don't even remember what he responded why he did that but there's an example.

Them there are the ones who want to engage you in email or online chat trying to compare notes about what you do to your subs. Pretending to be a woman is a crafty way for them to get a little online play from a woman. Since I never engage like this with anyone [unless they pay me for my time], that's no longer a problem.

Another dead giveaway is when the profile is written in language that only men use. It's usually more about scenarios than about the person the profile is for.

I'm sure other ladies can add to how they can tell the guy's a fraud. I use the word fraud because they are misrepresenting themselves. Calling someone a scammer implies theft of some kind. To some I may be a scammer while others are more than happy to compensate me for creating and sharing a fantasy of theirs.

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 9:36:23 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: DivaToes

Sure, there are a lot of real pro-Dommes here and they usually state that they are. This is why it's important to read (in-full) the profile of the person you intend to contact.

Do they sound like a real person or do they sound too good to be true?

Do they have Twitter, a website, NiteFlirt (WITH ratings and reviews) to show some kind of consistency to support their identity?

I hate to accuse anyone but, the worst scammers are the guys who are here pretending to be Dommes or sub women.

Bottom line is: If you can't afford a pro-Domme or have some values-based issue about it, simply move on to the next profile. pro-Dommes don't like time wasters any more than any of us like time-wasters.

Wait a minute...... Wait a minute.

So, you're saying that if I don't have Twitter, a personal web page, or have some NiteFlirt identity that I'm not verifiable?

*This* is the distinction these days?

Thank goodness I'm just an old leather chick out in the community. A person who doesn't want to get caught up in the electronic clap trap isn't weal and twue.


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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 9:59:40 PM   
DivaToes


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Status: offline 		LOL In that case, when I'm not moonlighting, I'm just a 9-5, mid level, corporate hack who spends 8-10 hrs a week stuck in rush hour commutes like 1000s of others... even longer when the Red Sox have a home game.

I didn't mean Twitter etc. was the ONLY way but some consistency kinda works and that's why a lot of pro-Dommes treat their names as their brand and create a presence in the major sites. I've even seen a handful on LinkedIn.



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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 10:08:20 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I can't speak for pros. Yes, these days, I would have to think many would prefer an electronic presence. Yay for advertising.

See, I was going the other way. Talking about those of us who aren't pros. Ya know, the kind you see at the monthly munch or who are attending events and play parties. Just us regular chicks who have a kinky streak.

I know I'm old fashioned for a lot of this stuff. It kind of suits Me.


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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/11/2012 10:20:39 PM   
OrgasmeDeni


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Status: offline 		First post here, very new to CM :) I wanted to chime in as someone who has a financial fetish but is still puzzled by the concept of tribute. Tribute, as I understand it, is something paid upfront to a Dominant woman by a submissive who wishes to gain her attention. To me that would feel like flogging someone the second I met them. My kinks aren't something to be indulged in right off the bat, I like to get to know someone before getting into something that's intimate. That's why tribute has always felt like a scam to me, simply a way to get "stuff". It also makes me *extremely* reluctant to even talk about my kink for being treated like a spoiled little princess once in a while. I can't help what gets my rocks off any less than anyone else can.

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/12/2012 7:58:39 AM   
LanaDeVille


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Status: offline 		I don't ask for tribute and explicitly state that I don't require tribute, and yet I get some men offering it anyway in a first message.

*shrugs*

I try.

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/12/2012 8:11:16 AM   
DivaToes


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ORIGINAL: LanaDeVille

I don't ask for tribute and explicitly state that I don't require tribute, and yet I get some men offering it anyway in a first message.

*shrugs*

I try.



Exactly! You honestly don't have to ask because guys will just send gifts from your wishlist or ask you to let them treat you to this, that, or whatever without mentioning cash outright. They're gentlemen about it.

Except in the case of a scheduled session,I don't see such perks as entitlements but rather the perks of doing what I do. There's a big difference and, human nature being what it is, it's the guys that offer the best perks that get the most attention.

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/12/2012 9:02:28 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact


Wait a minute...... Wait a minute.

So, you're saying that if I don't have Twitter, a personal web page, or have some NiteFlirt identity that I'm not verifiable?

*This* is the distinction these days?

Thank goodness I'm just an old leather chick out in the community. A person who doesn't want to get caught up in the electronic clap trap isn't weal and twue.



Yep. Sorry, we've finally sussed you out. Man, for a fake you sure put a lot of effort into convincing us though. I mean, how many scammers go to the trouble of holding down long term D/s relationships, teaching workshops, getting recognition in the community and making over twenty-thousand message board posts, just to look genuine? You make the other fakers and scammers look bad LadyPact.


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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/12/2012 9:07:54 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		LadyP is SUCH a fake that she (allegedly) left the state that she (allegedly) lived in not too long before *I* moved here, thereby avoiding the chance that we would meet (and/or MORE).

of course, I'm a fake too, since I don't identify as any of the options that CM offers....

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/12/2012 9:27:27 AM   
DivaToes


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Status: offline 		I'm an adult used to disagreeing amicably. I though we were here to share our experiences online, not facetiously throw resumes around. Not going to get into my experience with sex ed because it would seem like a pissing contest at this point. Sad that instead of building camaraderie with a new contributor, you choose to go the clique route. I'm done. All the best :)

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RE: Are there any dommes who don't seek tribute - 8/12/2012 9:30:03 AM   
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