Kana
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My real opinion?
If it's online only, you don't have a relationship, you have a joined fantasy. When and if you meet and physically interact, then it may become one, but right now it's all pixie dust, unicorns, rainbows and illusions.
Hey, you asked....
Didn't it take you and lw a couple of years to meet? Would you say you didn't have a relationship before then?
We bounced occasional e-mails at late night for almost two years. At first it was just two insomniacs talking (She had a picture of herself in a tight black dress that kept me coming back), mostly quick oneliners back n forth. Then things kinda progressed, but it took some time. Neither of us was into the idea of a LDR, so that kept us both back...plus she thought(Correctly) that I was just some lunatic and she's known enough whacky doms over the years, but I amused her at late nite when no one else was around and she was a fun net chew toy who I enjoyed fucking with(and did I mention that dress?)
But no real intent. No seriousness. When I finally talked her into actually meeting, her full belief was that she would walk out before the coffee got cold (Cuz that's what always happened) and then just enjoy a quiet weekend vacation alone in a nice city.
Instead I was, tragically for her, exactly what I advertised myself as, just like I act on here, and she was knee deep in feelings, pussy juice and trouble before we got through the door.
*Cheers*
But to answer your question, "Hell No, we didn't have a relationship."
How could we? We didn't know each other at all. We were strangers bumping into each other. That's all. I didn't know how she reacted to things, what made her tick, what freaked her out, how to read her body language, what made her grin,what she found icky, all the teeny tiny little things that make a relationship blossom and grow.
Oooh, we knew what each of us had represented ourselves as, but how the hell did we have to know whether any of it was true?
Look, Kana's rule's for the net are simple-everyone's fake until I've laid eyes on em, and even then, I'm gonna watch em close for a few months until I'm sure.
It sucks that things have to be that way, when I was new here all those many years ago, I actually tried believing in them once, but ya know what? It just doesn't work that way.
There are so many folk who are fakes, frauds, outright misrepresentations, HNG's, wankers, wannabes, shit talkers and delusional people that I don't believe any of it.
And the lilone thinks pretty much the same. Always has. In fact, she lost any delusions she may have had re the net ages before I did.I'm a relative latecomer to computers. She's been online so long she was in BDSM webroot groups with Al Gore way back when it was only the two of em on the net.
It's nothing personal against anyone. It's just that our years on the web have left us somewhat cynical in regards to others and who they present themselves to be.
And truth be told, even after we met, we didn't yet have a relationship. But over time, as we got to know each other, as we spent days, weeks, months together, things evolved and a relationship developed. She's my best friend, my confidant, but that took lots and lots of effort and investment (Not to make it sound arduous or anything-it's always been a joy).
Relationships ain't easy. They ain't just add water. They take time, love, care, sweat, tears, pain, sorrow, sharing, giving, compromise (Yes-even for One Twue Doms) communication, more communication and then even more communication.
They're sharing the losses as well as the joys, taking life's big hits together, listening to her cry as she had issues with her daughter, her standing by me when I battled, and eventually beat, the mortgage companies. We've laughed together, we've sobbed together, but we've always approached it as a we.
And you can't do that online.
Sorry, ya just can't.
Plus, last time I tried, you can't fuck a monitor-the glass cuts your penis real bad...and they ask all kinds of awkward questions at the ER
< Message edited by Kana -- 8/16/2012 7:26:51 AM >
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