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im just not sure - 6/10/2006 8:11:19 PM   
tixarah


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Status: offline 		Y/you see, im just not sure how to go about things anymore......im the shy and timid type....but i can come off as blunt and demanding....but its more that im scared then anything....had some difficult times....i find it hard to meet P/people....im scared to msg Someone first....i think my profile is too forward....how does one with a fear such as mine go about meeting Someone new....Someone who is all she needs........
*sighs*....think i just needed a little vent.....
thanks....
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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 8:18:51 PM   
slavejali


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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 8:26:14 PM   
RiotGirl


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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 8:30:30 PM   
Sirandlittle1


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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 8:40:06 PM   
theRose4U


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Status: offline 		I would say that they are taking your advice listed in the first 4 lines and not bothering. Spellcheck is your friend & complete sentences will help clarify who you are and what you're looking for.




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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 8:47:19 PM   
crouchingtigress


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From: Maui
Status: offline 		LOL I read your profile, I dont think it it too foward. when I was a sub I IMed folks all the time, you can do it respectfully you know.
 
go for it girl...its a skill like everything else youll getter better with practice !

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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 9:05:43 PM   
BuddingSub


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Status: offline 		Hello tixarah,

Welcome to the boards.
I have read your profile and it is not forwared in the least.

Mine is more forward than yours but I have rewrote it many times and now it reflects the true person that I am.

I have wrote many respectfully and have been pleasently surprised that they responded back. Just be who you are!!! If they have difficulties with that then they are not for you.

I am probably as shy and timid as you are but I know that if I want to find my one then I need to send emails to those that interest me.

Just be yourself and you will be fine. Don't let anyone change who you are. Just find the one that fits who you are.

Respectfully,
BuddingSub 


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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 9:09:25 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		I think it is the drama of a 20 something that is driving them away plus you are quite real and not enough fantasy in there for your typical dominant to get lost in.

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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 9:15:58 PM   
tixarah


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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I think it is the drama of a 20 something that is driving them away plus you are quite real and not enough fantasy in there for your typical dominant to get lost in.



im not sure i understand exactly what You mean by everything there....would You mind explaining a little further.....

i get that someone young CAN come with drama...but not all.....and as for the fantasy...shouldnt W/we all be being as real as we are...this isnt a game or a fantasy to me, it is much who i am......judging a book by its cover is never the way to go....thats why i hate feeling i have to sell myself

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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 9:37:19 PM   
CrescentLuna


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From: Upstate NY
Status: offline 		Your profile isn't too forward, and you should message people first (pot calling the kettle black here). However, don't expect your someone only for you to find you automatically here or anywhere. It may happen, it may not. So message, get to know, respond to messages, meet for coffee. Become friends first - once you find a group of friends, a someone will come more easily.
Best of luck.

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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 10:42:13 PM   
Brosco


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Status: offline 		tixarah,

You have a great profile and with that openness and honesty you will meet the person you wish.  The only people you could possibly put off are ones that aren't suitable to your tastes anyway.

Good luck with your search

Brosco

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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 10:48:19 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tixarah

quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I think it is the drama of a 20 something that is driving them away plus you are quite real and not enough fantasy in there for your typical dominant to get lost in.



im not sure i understand exactly what You mean by everything there....would You mind explaining a little further.....

i get that someone young CAN come with drama...but not all.....and as for the fantasy...shouldnt W/we all be being as real as we are...this isnt a game or a fantasy to me, it is much who i am......judging a book by its cover is never the way to go....thats why i hate feeling i have to sell myself



What he's saying is he believes you're too honest...the frosting of the fantasy is what, for all it's worth, he's looking for. Think jessica rabbit in a profile. Scuse me I have to hurl.

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RE: im just not sure - 6/10/2006 11:04:12 PM   
CrappyDom


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From: Sacramento
Status: offline 		What I am saying is that the sane dominants see way too much drama going on and the rest don't see enough "I want to be a 24/7s slave and just swallow cum" fantasy crap.

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RE: im just not sure - 6/11/2006 1:34:44 AM   
TheCaveman


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Status: offline 		I can see the personality working for you, it's the nice set of tits i'm hung on now.

< Message edited by TheCaveman -- 6/11/2006 1:35:27 AM >

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RE: im just not sure - 6/11/2006 2:40:29 AM   
Kedikat


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ORIGINAL: slavejali

Take a deep breath and jump  (maintaining your sensibleness of course).

Ummmm Maybe qualify that? Jump in. Not off of any high places. :)

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RE: im just not sure - 6/11/2006 3:09:51 AM   
givemyall


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Status: offline 		I'm shy and timid at times, but I have the profile from hell, so dont worry about it lol - someone will come along for you that wants all your emotions and some people see shyness as an attractive part of a personality.  Forget the ones that cant see through the bravado on your profile, they obviously aren't the one for you!

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RE: im just not sure - 6/11/2006 3:32:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: givemyall

I'm shy and timid at times, but I have the profile from hell, so dont worry about it lol - someone will come along for you that wants all your emotions and some people see shyness as an attractive part of a personality.  Forget the ones that cant see through the bravado on your profile, they obviously aren't the one for you!


And don't forget, you have a bonafide certificate! *semi-inside joke folks, move along lol*
 
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RE: im just not sure - 6/11/2006 3:36:56 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Gotta agree with rose...spell checker is your friend.  Once you've done that. peruse profiles, find one you like and message him.  Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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RE: im just not sure - 6/11/2006 3:38:43 AM   
givemyall


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

quote:

ORIGINAL: givemyall

I'm shy and timid at times, but I have the profile from hell, so dont worry about it lol - someone will come along for you that wants all your emotions and some people see shyness as an attractive part of a personality.  Forget the ones that cant see through the bravado on your profile, they obviously aren't the one for you!


And don't forget, you have a bonafide certificate! *semi-inside joke folks, move along lol*
 
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hahhhhhaaa I have placed my certificate in my WC frame, especially crafted for the occasion..... although I had become efficient at being a WOC and will quite miss the feeling of anticipation I was getting before becoming a WC.

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RE: im just not sure - 6/11/2006 5:42:52 AM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		I would say maybe you should find a local group and join their message board. Post there and get to know some of them then perhaps you can find another sub that you can feel comfortable enough with to attend a munch and get to know people in real life, build your confidence from there. As far as writing to people here... that isn't as hard as it sounds... just do it... what's the worst thing that could happen? Rejection? I wouldn't worry about it. Who knows? You may make some great friends.
 
I'm still trying to figure out how to bring Osama, Bushco or Allah into this conversation casually... (off topic joke)
 
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