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ORIGINAL: masterjon84

I don't want to sound rude here, because I am a newcomer to this forum, but the responses I have recieved so far are the exact reason I left the last online forum I belonged to.  Every response I get has been negative, in some regard, either the person not getting the training techniques I use, saying how they don't like online play, or questioning the legality of it.  I'd rather get no responses than have people respond negatively to my post, there is no reason to respond if you are just going to downplay what I enjoy doing or try to put a negative spin on it.  I love realtime bdsm, I had a realtime 24/7 slave for roughly 18 months.  I am active in the local bdsm scene.  The point is that we all enjoy different things, I am happen to enjoy online bdsm that includes webcam and digital cam play.  If you are not into it, that is fine, but please don't try to rain on my parade here.  If you don't have any advice that directly pertains to the question I asked, please don't respond.  Thanks.

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ORIGINAL: MstrTiger


If you look carefully you will see that no body actually raised any valid points they all just bitched at him, asked him personal questions and tried to explain why what they do is so much better than what he does. All he wanted was some basic advice and guidance and all he got was random abuse criticism and personal attacks.

He did not receive a single negative response to the question he asked, it was a simple request for information and the only justifiable negative response to a question like that would be for someone to say that they don’t have any information to give. All the bitching and negative responses were aimed entirely at him personally and the things he likes to do.
The only thing he and a lot of other people have learned is that anyone posting a question seeking advice on something that is even slightly unusual or unorthodox the boards at collarme are not the place to do it.

He is not the first person to ask a perfectly simple question on these boards and received nothing but self glorifying bullshit and abuse from people who simply don’t understand or agree with what they are asking about rather than any actual practical advice.

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ORIGINAL: Littlepita



You say it is repetitive and I imagine so. Your post is more of a statement then a question by the way. You have opened the door for all the questions you have received. I won't however ask any since it is obviously pointless to do so.

I will say, that if I was your online sub you had best be doing something other then ordering me to do a bunch of lame tasks over and over again. I would lie in a heartbeat if you told me to do most of that stuff. I think most submissives need more then silly tasks to do. They need to be touched on an emotional level and given freedom to grow as a submissive.

I was in an online relationship for 10 months before moving in with my Dom. If he had done this kind of online training he wouldn't have been my Dom. You are getting negative feedback because we that know this lifestyle for real know that the dynamics of it are so much more then what online can ever hope to achieve. I would think you having done it for real would agree to that.  

I wish you the best.

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ORIGINAL: masterjon84

Hello all, first time poster here.  I have been involved in bdsm for about 6 years now, and have enjoyed it a lot.  I was apprenticed to a master for nearly a year before I set out to find my own submissive, and have had much success.  Until recently, I was strictly involved in realtime bdsm but I have just made the switch to online primarily.  I asked a  number of online dominants how to best make this transition and thought I would be fine.  However, my training sessions seem to be very repetitive, since I am used to actually being there physically with my sub.  I use a combination of digital cameras and webcams during my training sessions and I use various exercises and tasks to train my sub.  I know that each master is different and many of you may not agree with my techniques, but the training techniques I currently use include:
-bladder and orgasm control
-self spanking/flogging
-writing degrading/humiliating things on their body
-anal/vaginal/oral insertions, including licking/smearing the object that was just inserted across their face/body
-name calling
-forcing my sub to hold various positions for various lengths of time.  an example of some position I currently use include holding a ball against the wall using just their nose, on all fours with their head against the floor, etc.
-forcing my sub to act like a dog, which includes walking on all fours, wearing a collar, eating out of a dish, fetching objects using just their mouth, etc.
-having my sub photograph their most intimate moments, including when they go to the bathroom or change their tampon
-making them do certain tasks or objectives such as take pictures of themselves flashing in public places, doing certain acts, etc.
-controlling what my sub wears and eats during the day
There are probably a few training techniques I forgot to list, but these are the bulk of them.  My question to the community is are there any training techniques that I don't use that I could be implementing into my sessions with my subs?  I am open to any new ideas, myself and my sub really don't have any limits, so dont be afraid to get creative/kinky.  Thanks in advance for any advice you may be able to give me. 

-Master Jon

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ORIGINAL: masterjon84

I don't want to sound rude here, because I am a newcomer to this forum, but the responses I have recieved so far are the exact reason I left the last online forum I belonged to.  Every response I get has been negative, in some regard, either the person not getting the training techniques I use, saying how they don't like online play, or questioning the legality of it.  I'd rather get no responses than have people respond negatively to my post, there is no reason to respond if you are just going to downplay what I enjoy doing or try to put a negative spin on it.  I love realtime bdsm, I had a realtime 24/7 slave for roughly 18 months.  I am active in the local bdsm scene.  The point is that we all enjoy different things, I am happen to enjoy online bdsm that includes webcam and digital cam play.  If you are not into it, that is fine, but please don't try to rain on my parade here.  If you don't have any advice that directly pertains to the question I asked, please don't respond.  Thanks.

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ORIGINAL: feastie


This is a public forum.  That means when you make a post, it is available to anyone who wishes to post and they get to post whatever they like, whether it is to your liking or not.  You're sticking yourself out there and asking for opinions.  If you don't get what you're hoping to get, that's part of the risk and just too damn bad.
You don't get to control what replies get posted, ya gets what ya gets. 

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This is a public forum. 

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That means when you make a post, it is available to anyone who wishes to post and they get to post whatever they like, whether it is to your liking or not.

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ORIGINAL: feastie

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ORIGINAL: masterjon84

I don't want to sound rude here, because I am a newcomer to this forum, but the responses I have recieved so far are the exact reason I left the last online forum I belonged to.  Every response I get has been negative, in some regard, either the person not getting the training techniques I use, saying how they don't like online play, or questioning the legality of it.  I'd rather get no responses than have people respond negatively to my post, there is no reason to respond if you are just going to downplay what I enjoy doing or try to put a negative spin on it.  I love realtime bdsm, I had a realtime 24/7 slave for roughly 18 months.  I am active in the local bdsm scene.  The point is that we all enjoy different things, I am happen to enjoy online bdsm that includes webcam and digital cam play.  If you are not into it, that is fine, but please don't try to rain on my parade here.  If you don't have any advice that directly pertains to the question I asked, please don't respond.  Thanks.

This is a public forum.  That means when you make a post, it is available to anyone who wishes to post and they get to post whatever they like, whether it is to your liking or not.  You're sticking yourself out there and asking for opinions.  If you don't get what you're hoping to get, that's part of the risk and just too damn bad.
You don't get to control what replies get posted, ya gets what ya gets. 

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For me online BDSM is akin to any other role playing game.

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For me it is about the trust and power exchange. There is NO WAY I can imagine having that via online role playing.

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Problem now is that you have taken your opinion (that D/s or BDSM online is roleplaying) and making it a 'fact' express that it therefore cannot work in a power exchange.

Sorry, hate to tell you this, but having been involved in both online and r/l, online is not about roleplay to many many ppl.  I suspect you are voicing opinion based on your own misconceptions or at best, a poor experience.

Brosco

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Any Dom that believes he is in complete control ... has a very clever subbie.

(in reply to LaTigresse)

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I'm not justifying personal attacks,

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ORIGINAL: MstrTiger


If you look carefully you will see that no body actually raised any valid points they all just bitched at him, asked him personal questions and tried to explain why what they do is so much better than what he does. All he wanted was some basic advice and guidance and all he got was random abuse criticism and personal attacks.

He did not receive a single negative response to the question he asked, it was a simple request for information and the only justifiable negative response to a question like that would be for someone to say that they don’t have any information to give. All the bitching and negative responses were aimed entirely at him personally and the things he likes to do.
The only thing he and a lot of other people have learned is that anyone posting a question seeking advice on something that is even slightly unusual or unorthodox the boards at collarme are not the place to do it.

He is not the first person to ask a perfectly simple question on these boards and received nothing but self glorifying bullshit and abuse from people who simply don’t understand or agree with what they are asking about rather than any actual practical advice.

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ORIGINAL: Brosco

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For me online BDSM is akin to any other role playing game.

fair comment - you expressed an opinion.

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For me it is about the trust and power exchange. There is NO WAY I can imagine having that via online role playing.

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Problem now is that you have taken your opinion (that D/s or BDSM online is roleplaying) and making it a 'fact' express that it therefore cannot work in a power exchange.

Sorry, hate to tell you this, but having been involved in both online and r/l, online is not about roleplay to many many ppl.  I suspect you are voicing opinion based on your own misconceptions or at best, a poor experience.

Brosco

Actually Brosco, since you do not know me you have nothing to base your comment on. I stated that it was all just MY opinion as it relates to ME and what I am comfortable and happy with in MY life. For ME it is a fact. That does not make it an applicable fact for you or anyone else.

(in reply to Brosco)

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Well, don't do a snuff on webcam, that could be dangerous.