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PussySupreme -> what does it do to a sub when... (8/19/2012 10:56:43 PM)
their Top is doing things they know will bring them pleasure and when they make a pleasure noise or movement their top smiles and says "what is that for, this isn't for you, its for me" how would that make you feel, remembering they said it in a very loving manner.

lilmissdefiant -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/19/2012 11:01:16 PM)
[&:] .... [>:] you might need to reword that...

PussySupreme -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/19/2012 11:07:05 PM)
yeah I'm tired. I'm trying to ask how it would make a sub feel if someone was giving them pleasure and when they moaned or their body moved with that pleasure they're asked why they were and were told what was being done wasn't for them. I hope that is better, I really need to go to bed. I'm sorry for making it confusing.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/19/2012 11:19:05 PM)
....This sounds like the set up for a dirty story you're hoping to hear OP, so don't be surprised if this doesn't go down well. But in an attempt to answer your question... I guess I would just think the dom was in the mood to tease. I wouldn't read much into it.

myotherself -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/19/2012 11:32:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PussySupreme I'm trying to ask how it would make a sub feel if someone was giving them pleasure and when they moaned or their body moved with that pleasure they're asked why they were and were told what was being done wasn't for them. I'd be really annoyed. I hate to be woken up during sex by someone wittering on [8D]

littlewonder -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/19/2012 11:43:17 PM)
he says it all the time. I'm his, he owns me so yeah, even my sounds and pleasures are for him. I'm not quite understanding the big deal I guess.

BambiBoi -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 12:34:23 AM)
Secret of the pros: A good top knows exactly what the bottom enjoys and doesn't. Even if both enjoy a certain act, i.e. sex, the enjoyment by the bottom is rarely going to be a bad thing. So the statement "Oh, I don't care if you like this, I'm doing this for me" is fuel to the fire. If the top wanted to make the bottom suffer/be indifferent while gaining pleasure, they could have. When I was topping, there was a short lived kink I indulged it. It was terrible sex. Irregular rhythm, awkward positions, and certainly not long enough for her to enjoy. The whole idea was to take something we both enjoy and twist it to make it more about me, less about her. It was more how animals fuck, with jagged humps ending in a lackluster orgasmic dismount, and less the elegant pleasure dance of people making love. She loved being left with an unsatisfied craving and the light humiliation of being used the way a stranger would in a public bathroom. But if you do that twice in a row she'll threaten to cut your balls off in your sleep if you don't hump her into submission next time.

gungadin09 -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 12:57:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PussySupreme ...their top smiles and says "what is that for, this isn't for you, its for me"... It strikes me as kind of dumb. Pam

GreedyTop -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 1:15:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself quote: ORIGINAL: PussySupreme I'm trying to ask how it would make a sub feel if someone was giving them pleasure and when they moaned or their body moved with that pleasure they're asked why they were and were told what was being done wasn't for them. I'd be really annoyed. I hate to be woken up during sex by someone wittering on [8D] I love you.

LadyPact -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 1:47:21 AM)
Op, you don't know? Don't be pissed when people call you an amateur.

RemoteUser -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 7:48:01 AM)
Well now, if you tell a sub that the sex is only for your pleasure, they could shut down emotionally and feel horrible guilt afterwards. That could lead to depression and suicide, so don't do it! Seriously, a person reacts according to their makeup, not simply the situation. If you know the person, you'll know what to expect; if you don't then I'd say with a slightly less playful tone - maybe you shouldn't do that.

Char2688 -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 10:03:03 AM)
What did Ronald Reagan wear to his second inauguration? Same as the answer to your question Depends!

JeffBC -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 10:06:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder he says it all the time. I'm his, he owns me so yeah, even my sounds and pleasures are for him. I'm not quite understanding the big deal I guess. chuckles For all our differences it routinely astonishes me how many similarities there are also. Edited to respond to Pam "It strikes me as kind of dumb." Well, the specific question does to me also. I mean seriously, I KNOW what it's for laughs. And while I may share some of the mindset I myself prefer to avoid unwiring Carol's pleasure centers. I see her pleasure as cool bonus points in such moments.

JanahX -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 10:51:48 AM)
Id feel like: "shut the fuck up - and get on with it - youre blowing my buzz, and while youre at it, shut your mouth - you sound stupid". quote: ORIGINAL: PussySupreme their Top is doing things they know will bring them pleasure and when they make a pleasure noise or movement their top smiles and says "what is that for, this isn't for you, its for me" how would that make you feel, remembering they said it in a very loving manner.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 11:09:47 AM)
No dominant of mine would ever utter such nonsense, b/c I would never involve myself with someone so supremely stupid. That sort of objectification, dehumanization, whatever you like to call it, does not suit me at all. Those it does suit would love it. So other than pointing out, not for the first time I might add, what a clueless wonder you are, what exactly is the point of this discussion?

gungadin09 -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 12:24:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC Edited to respond to Pam "It strikes me as kind of dumb." Well, the specific question does to me also. I mean seriously, I KNOW what it's for laughs. And while I may share some of the mindset I myself prefer to avoid unwiring Carol's pleasure centers. I see her pleasure as cool bonus points in such moments. Exactly, thanks. Pam

littlewonder -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 2:03:16 PM)
I guess for me, when Master whispers into my ear that I am his property and he can do whatever he wants with me and he says that my orgasms or lack of orgasm are his, not mine, that I am nothing more than meat for his use, that everything he does is for his pleasure, it drives home the point even more and turns me on. [:)]

angelikaJ -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 2:06:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder I guess for me, when Master whispers into my ear that I am his property and he can do whatever he wants with me and he says that my orgasms or lack of orgasm are his, not mine, that I am nothing more than meat for his use, that everything he does is for his pleasure, it drives home the point even more and turns me on. [:)] Yes. [:)]

myotherself -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 2:11:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder I guess for me, when Master whispers into my ear that I am his property and he can do whatever he wants with me and he says that my orgasms or lack of orgasm are his, not mine, that I am nothing more than meat for his use, that everything he does is for his pleasure, it drives home the point even more and turns me on. [:)] oh hell yes! [:D] Definitely better and hotter than telling you to stop enjoying yourself

subbingincalif -> RE: what does it do to a sub when... (8/20/2012 4:20:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PussySupreme yeah I'm tired. I'm trying to ask how it would make a sub feel if someone was giving them pleasure and when they moaned or their body moved with that pleasure they're asked why they were and were told what was being done wasn't for them. I hope that is better, I really need to go to bed. I'm sorry for making it confusing. What you're describing sounds like Teasing 101. Teasing is all about executive - the precise words, the tone of voice, the facial expression. It can be erotic, it can be boring, it can be great, it can be nothing. Again, it's all about execution.

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