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Tkman117 -> Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 1:36:53 PM)

So in response to my last thread about punishment and reward, I thought I'd make this one about ideas and possible tasks I can send to my online slave that she can do on her own throughout the day. Any ideas should be be in the context of being self inflicted, as I will not be there to administer these tasks, and ideas which require my slave to produce picture evidence of success is also preferable but not a hard necessity. Any and all ideas should fall under the category of degrading, painful, uncomfortable, humiliating, etc. Hope to hear some interesting input :) And yes this is intended to be classified as a form of play, not punishment out of doing something wrong, just wanted to make that clear for some of you guys :P

- Ted



limpshorty -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 1:44:20 PM)

A dildo, of an appropriate size, and feel not to be challenging. Softer than hard plastic, for certain. She would be told to have it inside herself for a period of time. (or when paged or messaged) If she has to talk, or eat, or otherwise use her mouth, it needs to go to another location.

Don't go overboard on this one.




LadyHibiscus -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 1:44:49 PM)

Okay, Tk? I have a large brain full of experiences, and heaven knows I love sharing. But have you talked about this with her?

Words like "degrading" and "humiliating" mean amazingly different things to different people. I could give you a laundry list of things that make my friends blush (and if you knew my friends... [8D]) but those same things wouldn't affect me at all. And it's not because I'm dominant, it's because my inner landscape has vastly different notions of what is "humiliating".

So, tell us: will she be performing any of these things for you on cam so you can watch, or will there only be photo/video evidence?



Tkman117 -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 1:58:24 PM)

Well that was why I asked for ideas that required her to have picture/video evidence. Not to mention that her computer isnt the best so cam chats have been really painful on both ends, she can upload things fine but anything that requires too much effort from her computer seems to cause issues. And I am currently discussing what she consider's humiliating and degrading, but I'm simply asking for any and all ideas at the moment, just to get a lay of the land so to speak :)



RumpusParable -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 2:45:32 PM)

Perhaps, when you have something you want to learn more on or such, have her do the searching online and through actual books and such and then send the info to you with references via email or present it to you when next you're together. Or dictate ahead of times what color panties she is to wear each day of the week and text you a photo each day.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 4:26:03 PM)

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inner landscape


I'm with this one 100%, that it's our own inner landscapes which define what is or is not truly humiliating. The only way to discover what is humiliating for another is get inside their mind. Study their reactions to different things. You need to have a desire to figure out what makes a person tick, then be able to play with it. (wicked ain't it?)



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 4:33:38 PM)

On the matter of "Tasks", these can be either practical or totally unpractical. If your slave for instance, has a messy room. Clean this or do this kind of tasks may be in order. If slave has issues of any form, you could come up with tasks aimed at countering those issues. On the other hand...

You can simply come up with Tasks just for the hell of it.... just make certain they either mentally or physically Challenge your slave in some way. Not something extremely easy and retarded. Else, you're slave will be sitting there trying to hold back the uncontrollable desire to laugh at you. BTW, should you ever encounter this... be prepared to quickly readjust things unexpectedly on the fly. Always, be prepared for the unexpected.

What might make one person break down into tears, might make another one sit there and laugh at how lame and retarded the task is. (back to that inner Landscape concept).

Hopes this helps you. Oh Wait, one more Task related idea. Is that Tasks can become part of the Training, Shaping or Molding process. What do you wish for them to become better at, more skilled at and etc... to your own liking?

That's three basic ideas for you when it comes to tasks.



SimplyMichael -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 5:06:34 PM)

Reading this thread should be plenty humiliating.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 5:30:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
Reading this thread should be plenty humiliating.


I wonder if it's more humiliating than being forced to go to the store where a beautiful (hot looking) check out clerk works...and buying a bunch of bananas, some K-Y lube and a box of Trojan Condoms. (those three items alone combined). Mind you, this good become rather embarrassing for the check out clerk even. Then again, they tend to deal with a lot of weird and off the wall customers. Come to think of it, It would be even more priceless to make certain the task included... getting assistance in picking out the right size condoms which actually fit over the Banana's. Being forced to engage in extremely embarrassing off the wall interaction. Than again, this is all very crude and vulgar simplistic like atypical humiliation. Really does not deserve an A+ grade.




AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 11:12:22 PM)

Having been long distance once upon a time, I always found this stuff really hard.

It was difficult for him to judge what was appropriate having not spent a lot of time checking out the life I lead. I was in college at the time. He had no way to know how thick the walls of my dorm were (and therefore how quiet we had to be) or how nosy classmates/coworkers were and so on. He didn't really know by body well enough to confidently say that wearing a buttplug for an hour would be just the right amount of uncomfortable without really hurting me. It was hard for him to gague how much time I spent working and how much time I spent messing about, so it was difficult to pick tasks that took up some time without impacting my studies. You can (and should) talk about these things but I find it's difficult to really get a grasp on the little details of someone else's life without being there.

That's not to be negative - I know when you're long distance you just have to do the best you can, but these are the difficulties we had.

I always found pain tasks a bit pointless. I'm sure it's not just me, but I find it damn near impossible to hit myself with any force- the body just stops it. And 'humiliation' has never been my thing so any kind of cam humiliation task would definitely trigger my 'this is dumb' filter.

I did take some dirty pictures for him (assuming you've reached that level of trust). I also journaled, wrote dirty stories, memorized a sort of daily affirmation thing.

The advice about making orders to improve her are good, but I know you're looking for fun.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/23/2012 11:59:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
I always found pain tasks a bit pointless. I'm sure it's not just me, but I find it damn near impossible to hit myself with any force- the body just stops it. And 'humiliation' has never been my thing so any kind of cam humiliation task would definitely trigger my 'this is dumb' filter.


Athena the bitch about hurting yourself is that you know exactly when, where and how you are going to it. So your brain prepares yourself for it to Diminish the pain. It's not the same as if somebody else does it to you. This is just the way people are wired. Yes, many humiliation tasks can and do often trigger the "this is dumb" or "this is retardedly stupid" filter. Clearly works at undermining respect. (food for thought).



sunshinemiss -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/24/2012 1:35:20 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Reading this thread should be plenty humiliating.


Simply Michael is back... The heavens have opened...



DeviantlyD -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/24/2012 2:16:18 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss


quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Reading this thread should be plenty humiliating.


Simply Michael is back... The heavens have opened...


That, or he got bored. [8D]



UllrsIshtar -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/24/2012 2:41:48 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

Athena the bitch about hurting yourself is that you know exactly when, where and how you are going to it. So your brain prepares yourself for it to Diminish the pain. It's not the same as if somebody else does it to you.


The best methods of hurting one's self long distance don't involve things like spanking.
Try eating habanero peppers instead. Or better yet, inserting them, or inserting ginger all kinds of interesting places. Or kneeling on rice during a long cam session. Or nipple clamps. Or ice cold showers. Or physical exercise (think 250 sit-ups). Or 35% TCA peel on the nipples for about 10 minutes. Or keeping a full milk jug in each hands while holding your arms parallel to the floor for 15 minutes.

Telling somebody to hurt themselves long distances isn't' really all that hard I've you've got a bit of an imagination. However, most all of these sorts of things would probably fall under punishment type pain, instead of funishment type pain, if for no other reason that without the D-type present, the synergy would be missing, which would de-erotisise the pain.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/24/2012 2:59:52 AM)


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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

Telling somebody to hurt themselves long distances isn't' really all that hard I've you've got a bit of an imagination. However, most all of these sorts of things would probably fall under punishment type pain, instead of funishment type pain, if for no other reason that without the D-type present, the synergy would be missing, which would de-erotisise the pain.


I think this nails it. Without the sort of moment-by-moment energy and feedback of his physical presence, I can't imagine either of us would get a lot out of holding milk jugs or rubbing peppers on things.

OP - this is part of the reason it's hard to give people 'ideas' for tasks and funishment, because you might read that and think 'oooh hot' whilst I'm sitting here and thinking 'I'd find that boring and stupid'. And vice versa. For me humiliation with him there feels like I'm submitting and pleasing him, which is hot. Doing the same act over cam makes me feel icky and sad. And I say that without judgment because I've been there.

Maybe google for a BDSM checklist, and see which of those can be done from a distance? Then both look at it together and see what gets you both revved up.



heartfeltsub -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/24/2012 3:37:44 AM)

Wow it is good to see you posting again Michael.



SimplyMichael -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/24/2012 7:21:22 AM)

Thank you Ladies!



everhope -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/24/2012 8:51:37 AM)

my understanding is you have never met this girl in person only by cam and i am going to assume by phone.
in my far past, i have done all kinds of perverted things for so called Doms via the net, phone, and cam. some i later met and some i never had any plans or desires to meet. the things i did just filled a need i had at the time and i learned a lot about myself in the process.
as Athena said most of the time it left me feeling icky and sad.

i was in a LDR for 8 months with a Dominant before moving to him and not once did he ask me to hit myself, masturbate, do tasks etc. He used this time to get inside my head and understand me. i continued my life in California...going to dungeons, events, meeting potential Dominants in my area all while speaking with him daily on the phone. we were realistic in our approach to long distance.

what i don't understand is why are we being asked to do your work? do you not have any imagination? do you have plans to actually meet this girl? or is this all online exploration for the two of you.



everhope -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/24/2012 8:55:23 AM)

yes nice to see you again Michael!



Hillwilliam -> RE: Funishments, tasks, humiliation ideas (8/24/2012 9:02:51 AM)

I know it's off topic but........Michael and everhope. Good to see both of you posting again.



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