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MissAnnabelGrace -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (2/14/2013 6:36:09 AM)
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Hi Rochsub2009,
I'm glad you liked my post. On reflection to your reply I'd like to add my input, and, throw some more of my personal experience into the mix. Those young girls 'Pretty Princesses' who demand money for nothing in return simply wont last. I started out in very much the same way as the 'Pretty Princesses', and, most slaves, even financial ones eventually get fed up of receiving nothing in return. As a 'Pretty Princess' you end up in a relentless search for new slaves, and, ultimately, it feels like you're begging well trying to play a powerful character. It's frustrating on both parts. The power lies in the hand (or wallet) of the slave. To me, it didn't feel like domination at all, and, as I like the power being in my hands, I spent significant time and effort looking at how to make this power exchange real and true.
My first rule of thumb is (and I'm sure it's mentioned in the 53 pages) You have to have an income that can sustain you without the need for reliance on a sub/slave. Ultimately, a slave has to know you have the ability to drop them at a moments notice. The problem with this is you also need to be available almost constantly. As a bit of research I popped some videos on youtube utilizing my passion for Hypnosis and NLP and played on a number of fetishes. I took the videos with the highest views, created original work and opened an online store. I was quite lucky as most Hypnosis in the D/s world isn't Hypnosis at all, so my work stood out and I became a top store. This actually got me head hunted by other sites who wanted to commission work from me (and a few medical journals for which I created Hypnosis to help those with gender issues), thus generating a regular stable income. This also afforded me time to really study the psychology of a D/s relationship, although I've had a huge interest and passion for primal domination and all that surrounds since University, even spending some time sharing my home with what was initially a crazy alpha wolf, I still have a picture of it snarling in my face, silly idea, but an invaluable education.
My second rule is, you HAVE to give something back, have a skill or a knack for kinks. For me it tends to be psychological games. I'll use NLP to anchor various triggers in a sub/slave E.G. A certain sight/sound/smell will trigger a memory of a certain kink or session, this kink then reminds the sub/slave of me or a session we've had previously. Another example would be the texture of a sub/slaves wallet, and, getting them to link that feel and texture to the humiliation of financial servitude towards me. Suggestion is also a very powerful tool to utilize. I also make my subs/slaves aware that although big tributes are nice, it isn't about the size of the tribute, for me the tribute is more about the admittance that I've overcome their will, thus admitting the power exists and is real. I guess a form of saying 'I submit' rather than saying 'You're hot, here, have some money'.
My third rule is, intellect is vital! I'm not claiming I'm the sharpest tool in the box, far from it, but I all to often see girls who can't put a sentence together in the Findom world. The people who can afford Findom are generally those in high paid jobs that require half a brain, it's impossible to Domme those people if you can't match the level of intellect they have.
My final rule is, care for those in your stable and make them feel good about what they give. Religion brings in billions and billions of £$, I've yet to meet anyone who worships a god they hate (not that I'm claiming to be god, I'm a goddess ;) ).
Ultimately, the pretty princesses will dissolve over time leaving those with true knowledge and skill. I put in hundreds of hours creating content, videos, hypnosis and consider it a constant education, not a quick buck.
And that's the end of my essay!
Miss Grace
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