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TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 11:15:00 AM)
Oh of course. My fin sub and I would look like any ol couple. And I do have relationships with them. They are dear to me. Eta: relationships of the D/s kind. Nothing sexual ever. They know that. By the way, your sig line is awesome!

MariaB -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 11:55:53 AM)
Well in that case let me get my ten cents in. During my fairly lengthy period as a pro Domme, I became friends with various clients. We would often dine out 'romantically' and attend clubs together. I genuinely cared about those guys and one of them I had a two year full time relationship with. Does that mean I wasn't a sex worker?!?! Actually I'm getting a bit sick of this holier than though attitude. The desperation to convince people (to me) makes this whole argument flawed. I'm not going to perpetuate this argument any longer because its gone on long enough and I only believe in so much free advertising.

PeonForHer -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 12:07:22 PM)
quote: Interestingly I haven't yet met an online fin Domme who is looking for or found a full time pay pig to live with her and set up home with her. If this is a kink on her part, then why isn't she looking for it full time? One reason might be because such a fin Domme can only have a full-time partnership with a 'real man' and not a sub. Which, incidentally, is the one thing guaranteed to bring my blood to the immediate boil, should I see the slightest hint of it, about any fin Domme (or any other Domme, or indeed anyone of either sex).

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 12:40:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MariaB Well in that case let me get my ten cents in. During my fairly lengthy period as a pro Domme, I became friends with various clients. We would often dine out 'romantically' and attend clubs together. I genuinely cared about those guys and one of them I had a two year full time relationship with. Does that mean I wasn't a sex worker?!?! Actually I'm getting a bit sick of this holier than though attitude. The desperation to convince people (to me) makes this whole argument flawed. I'm not going to perpetuate this argument any longer because its gone on long enough and I only believe in so much free advertising. Holier than thou attitude? Free advertising? I'm assuming this is directed towards me. If you choose to simply lay down and give up a fight bc you're tired of hearing other people label you, then by all means..do you. I for one, am not that weak. I will not tolerate anyone slandering me. And will always fight it to the bone. Not sure where you feel I'm acting holier than thou, because that's not who or how I am at all. I'm simply stating MY CASE. I don't look down on anyone, I'm not a judgemental person like that. Free advertising? Unless peon, Jeff, roch or any other of the regular male posters here plan on inboxing me about my dominance, I don't think there's much advertising going on here. It's called a discussion. So by all means, don't perpetuate is any longer.

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 12:42:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: Interestingly I haven't yet met an online fin Domme who is looking for or found a full time pay pig to live with her and set up home with her. If this is a kink on her part, then why isn't she looking for it full time? One reason might be because such a fin Domme can only have a full-time partnership with a 'real man' and not a sub. Which, incidentally, is the one thing guaranteed to bring my blood to the immediate boil, should I see the slightest hint of it, about any fin Domme (or any other Domme, or indeed anyone of either sex). I think there can be a live in type relationship with fin slaves. I don't see why a dominant woman couldn't view him as a "real man". Just because one is submissive doesn't mean one is not a real man, or weak, spineless, whatever. :)

JeffBC -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:00:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MariaB During my fairly lengthy period as a pro Domme, I became friends with various clients. We would often dine out 'romantically' and attend clubs together. I genuinely cared about those guys and one of them I had a two year full time relationship with. Does that mean I wasn't a sex worker?!?! Actually, this is exactly why I think all those stupid terms are pointless. No matter how you slice & dice it it's never going to make sense. If someone suddenly made me emperor of the earth the only thing I'd be caring about is tax purposes. One could also ask about the hot young trophy wife married to the rich old guy. Is she a sex worker? I just don't think human relationships fit into neat little categories like that. Sure, I was toying around with categorization here but I honestly don't give a damn about it. Everyone happy? Yeah I'm good.

JeffBC -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:02:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Free advertising? Unless peon, Jeff, roch or any other of the regular male posters here plan on inboxing me about my dominance, I don't think there's much advertising going on here. It's called a discussion. Well sure but that was damned near laying down the gauntlet for me LOL. Lord I want to send you some tribute just so I can write something like "fin-sub" in my profile. I really do have a warped sense of humor.

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:05:45 PM)
I enjoy chocolates for tribute! :) Even though I can't eat them now...diet. Lol.

OsideGirl -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:07:20 PM)
Shoes....go for the Louboutins......

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:09:39 PM)
While I agree with you O, I'm thinking we gotta go slow. We might scare him off. Lol Jeff, pay attention to O's suggestion. wink wink, nudge nudge

garyFLR -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:10:00 PM)
Am I in the k crowd, K?

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:10:53 PM)
Of course, you're the chairman!

garyFLR -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:14:02 PM)
Thankyou K, I just needed some affirmation [:)]! xxx.

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:16:01 PM)
Anytime. Oh and Oside...ya know with all this free advertising I do, I'm thinking I'll eventually get a pair to add to the collection. ;)

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:22:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Of course, you're the chairman! I think I've just been ousted. [:(]

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:28:57 PM)
Noooooo! He's the chairman to the appreciation society! You're not ousted! [:)] ^^^see how nurturing I can be? More free advertising! [8D]

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:36:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Noooooo! He's the chairman to the appreciation society! You're not ousted! [:)] Oh, the "Appreciation Society". So I'm still the chairman of the TNDommeK Worship Society. Okay, I can live with that. I had to make sure that my place at your feet is secure. [;)]

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 1:38:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Noooooo! He's the chairman to the appreciation society! You're not ousted! [:)] Oh, the "Appreciation Society". So I'm still the chairman of the TNDommeK Worship Society. Okay, I can live with that. I had to make sure that my place at your feet is secure. [;)] Ok see, this is where the turn ons come in. Meow! I'm gonna screen shot this for my narcissism. I feel so special!

JeffBC -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 2:08:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Oh and Oside...ya know with all this free advertising I do, I'm thinking I'll eventually get a pair to add to the collection. Well keep this up and that advertising is going to pay off... sadly not for expensive shoes. You're talking to the guy who spends all his days volunteering so I'm afraid I'm poverty stricken... which now that I think of it probably makes me a really crappy fin-sub. Then again, much to my surprise I've come to understand that "volunteer" word is like some sort of catnip to you women so maybe it all works out after all? [:)] edited to add I'd just like to be a lowly fin-sub please. Anything more upscale would spoil the joke :)

xxblushesxx -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2013 2:12:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MariaB I know a couple of Dommes who are hooked up with very rich submissive guys. They enjoy his money, enjoy being spoilt, set up and molly coddled. He gets something out of it and she gets something out of it and alls well that ends well. The difference between these women and fin Dommes is, they live with their partner, they have sex with their partner and they physically and verbally dominate their partner. Would they stick around if the guy was to lose his money? I doubt it because that was never part of the agreement. Are they sex workers? not in my opinion but I'm sure they are to many people. Interestingly I haven't yet met an online fin Domme who is looking for or found a full time pay pig to live with her and set up home with her. If this is a kink on her part, then why isn't she looking for it full time? Remember that work is work, and home is home. As fun and as funny as they are and can be, a pay pig is a lot of work. It's not a one way street, and that is where a lot of would be fin doms (and those looking on in disgust or awe) get stuck. They don't realize that you can't just put up a picture of yourself flipping the camera the bird, say "eff you, pay me", and all of a sudden, the little oinkers are going to come crawling out of the woodwork. It doesn't happen. (often anyway...anything and everything can happen.) But in general there is a commitment of time, interest and trust. It's a reciprocal relationship and a delicate dance. One that probably won't be enhanced by morning breath and seeing my knickers hung over the bath tub at night. lol As much as nurses and doctors love and care for their patients, they don't (generally) bring them home to live with them. As much as a mechanic enjoys working on cars, he doesn't (generally) bring one in his bed. And I'm sure there are many teachers who love their students dearly, but don't want kids of their own. Not everyone wants to bring their work (or even their kink!) home with them. Some like to pick where/when/who/how and why. There are also the mundane issues of every day life to consider. Some do have kids (and do not want them exposed to such!) Some have bfs, gfs, husbands or wives. They may have elderly parents living with them... any number of things can contribute to the small existence of what you describe. I'm not sure if it's true, or something you're just hypothesizing about, because it's not something I ever considered or looked into.

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