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new dom seeking advice - 8/30/2012 4:25:02 AM   
eagle44


Posts: 1
Joined: 6/15/2012
Status: offline 		I'm new to the lifestyle and I'm seeking advice on Does and don'ts of a dom
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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/30/2012 4:31:49 AM   
myotherself


Posts: 7157
Joined: 3/9/2006
From: The cold bit of the UK
Status: offline 		Do make the effort to read the forums and get out into your local community so you can figure out exactly what it is that you want.

Don't expect others to give you all the answers - we don't know you therefore we don't know what it is, specifically, that you need to know.

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There's nowt so queer as folk


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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/30/2012 6:42:25 AM   
Lucifyre


Posts: 1067
Joined: 3/27/2012
Status: offline 		DO be more specific in what exactly it is you're asking about.
"How do I be a dom" doesn't count.

DON'T ask questions before making an attempt to learn what your interests are beforehand because frankly you won't know exactly what you need to ask about and you'll end up with open ended general questions that will get you a free ticket to snarkland around here.

Lucifyre

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I do this because it fucking feels good.
I like girls who like girls
The thing about standards is: There are SO many to choose from.

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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/30/2012 6:48:38 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


Posts: 3582
Joined: 3/15/2012
Status: offline 		DO - try to be a decent person and treat others well
-be honest with those you engage with
-learn how to do things safely

DON'T - be an ass


Really beyond that, there are no rules. You can be whatever type of dom you want to, and have any type of relationship that works for you and your partner. Whatever makes those involved happy without imposing on outsides is a win. You don't have to do specific things to live up to another person's labels.

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Being your slave, what should I do but tend
Upon the hours and times of your desire?

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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/30/2012 7:21:50 AM   
kalikshama


Posts: 14805
Joined: 8/8/2010
Status: offline 		Do check out the non-fiction on the booklist and buy the books that resonate with you: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm

Don't be the sort of person who arrived at this site after reading: http://www.submissivewomensecrets.com/

Don't be one of these guys: The worst Dom you've ever met


< Message edited by kalikshama -- 8/30/2012 7:24:37 AM >

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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/30/2012 8:32:07 AM   
IronWithVelvet


Posts: 15
Joined: 3/13/2012
Status: offline 		Tell me how to be rich and handsome and I'll tell you how to be a Dom.

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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/30/2012 9:09:38 AM   
OsideGirl


Posts: 14441
Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline 		Learn the difference between dominant and domineering.

Men outnumber women at least 10:1. You have a lot of competition for her attention. Pay attention to how you present yourself and your attitude towards submissives.

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Give a girl the right shoes and she will conquer the world. ~ Marilyn Monroe

The Accelerated Velocity of Terminological Inexactitude

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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/30/2012 3:32:19 PM   
areallivehuman


Posts: 277
Joined: 1/16/2010
Status: offline 		DO learn honor, duty, and responsibility.


DON'T be lame.

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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/30/2012 8:37:56 PM   
Kana


Posts: 6676
Joined: 10/24/2006
Status: offline 		Seriously, other than "Be yourself," the best advice I can give is:
1-Be firm, but be fair
2-Be consistent. This is probably the most important thing in the lot.
3-Never be shy to reward good behavior

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HST

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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/30/2012 8:41:51 PM   
CRYPTICLXVI


Posts: 3907
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

DO - try to be a decent person and treat others well
-be honest with those you engage with
-learn how to do things safely

DON'T - be an ass


Really beyond that, there are no rules. You can be whatever type of dom you want to, and have any type of relationship that works for you and your partner. Whatever makes those involved happy without imposing on outsides is a win. You don't have to do specific things to live up to another person's labels.


Nope, don't be an asshole... that's my job.

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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/31/2012 2:29:07 PM   
Salinedion


Posts: 198
Joined: 5/25/2012
Status: offline 		DO tell me where you got those killer shorts.

In case I ever go to the beach with Borat.

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I hate the 'reply to' note at the end of the post. Just assume I'm posting to the board at large and not the person above me unless I say diff, OK?

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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/31/2012 2:32:00 PM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		Do put some pants on. Just trust Me on this one.


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The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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RE: new dom seeking advice - 8/31/2012 4:32:33 PM   
Kaiel


Posts: 748
Joined: 4/17/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Do put some pants on. Just trust Me on this one.




^^Totally agree^^

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I keep My expectations and thread counts high- "catitude"

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