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Help me create a chastity game - 9/2/2012 4:18:04 PM

jolietmalesub

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Hi- My wife and I have been talking about having me wear a CB-6000. She is not into the d/s aspect, so as an alternative, we are thinking about coming up with a game for my chastity lockup.

We're leaning towards rolling dice to determine the outcome of several things. One thing we feel good about is starting the lockup period at 14 days and then rolling 2 dice to determine how many more days the lockup period will begin at. For example, if we roll a 5, the initial lockup period would be 19 days.

We're also incorporating other things into this game, such as edging. For example, if we roll 2 dice and roll a 7, she would edge me 7 times before I could have an orgasm. (She would determine how I would achieve orgasm.)

She does enjoy spanking me (not one of my favorites), and the number of swats would also be determined by rolling the dice. She also likes to play board games and wants to be able to increase the number of swats if she beats me in a game.

So that is the basis of what we are planning.

I was just wondering if anyone can give us more ideas for our game. What other areas can we roll the dice to determine the outcome? Or perhaps you have a better idea than rolling dice.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/2/2012 4:29:49 PM

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P.S.- We want LOTS of teasing and edging, but neither of us wants long lockup times. We're thinking of starting at 1-3 weeks and eventually expanding to 2 weeks to a couple of months.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/2/2012 4:47:00 PM

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Call random strangers, or heck, even your family and friends, so they can get in on the action too!
Add the amount of times the phone rings before they answer, to the amount of times it takes you to explain what you are doing.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/2/2012 5:15:55 PM

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i would be open to contacting a friend or two of hers, and she may be open to that as well. i'm definitely open to contacting strangers, but i think she would be against that. i would be open to giving certain others input.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 5:38:43 AM

jolietmalesub

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Another variation that I was just reading about could be to used different colored beads. Here is one idea:

You start out with a bag containing 14 red beads, a white bead and one green bead.

Green bead = sex for the man
Red bead = punishment beads (number of spanks)
White bead = quasi punishment bead. (delay of 7 days)

Each day that the chastised male pleasures me orally I give him one green bead to add to the bag. Each day he fails to pleasure me (regardless of fault) I put 2 red beads in the bag. In addition a white bead is added to the bag for each day that passes.

If he draws a green bead I give him sex, the bag is emptied and reset and the game begins again. If he draws a white bead he must wait seven days before he may draw again (red and green beads continuing to accrue).

If he draws a red bead we total the number of red and white beads in the sack, I spank him that many times, the bag is reset and the game begins again.

(Obviously the red beads are pulled most often. This is the fun of the game. Chastity is pretty much continuous but with some hope of release with the green bead.

Anyone else use beads?

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 5:43:21 AM

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Run around outside in public with only your chastity device on and have her have a stopwatch and see how long you can run around before you get picked up by the PO-lice.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 6:07:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: poise

Call random strangers, or heck, even your family and friends, so they can get in on the action too!
Add the amount of times the phone rings before they answer, to the amount of times it takes you to explain what you are doing.

I love you.

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Run around outside in public with only your chastity device on and have her have a stopwatch and see how long you can run around before you get picked up by the PO-lice.

Both of you!

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 7:05:56 AM

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I hope she reeeeaally likes oral sex then. I would not be happy going for weeks without sex.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 7:17:30 AM

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I make all major life decisions based on the flip of a coin. I suggest heads, oral for her, tails, pegging for you.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 8:13:46 AM

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I thought that I would find some respect on this message board, which is the one of the major tenants of BDSM, but the last few responses have proven otherwise.

I was in the BDSM lifestyle for several years and I never was treated with this kind of disrespect.

People who are truly in this lifestyle are tolerant of other people's desires. They do not discriminate against other peoples' inclinations. It just so happens that my wife is not into d/s, which I explained in my inital post, so we were looking for something a little different. After starting this post, I searched Google and found a number of chastity games like what I described above that people are involved in.

Responses like the disrespectful, intolerant ones above is what gives true lifestylers and true BDSM a bad name.

You losers can write whatever you want. I'm not coming back.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 8:27:47 AM

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hOW hORRIBLE OF ME!!! I AM SAD.

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You losers can write whatever you want. I'm not coming back.

< Message edited by JanahX -- 9/3/2012 8:28:49 AM >

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 8:29:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jolietmalesub

I thought that I would find some respect on this message board, which is the one of the major tenants of BDSM, but the last few responses have proven otherwise.

I think women are posting jokes because your writing appears anti-female. There are two possibilities: either your wife does not exist; or she does exist and you don't care about her desires enough to communicate them here, even though you type at length about your own.

If you include the voice of the woman you are committed to, instead of making her sound like a fetish-fulfilling robot, then you will probably get higher-quality feedback on this thread.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 8:32:26 AM

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Respect isn't mandatory simply because you participate in BDSM.
While some of the answers were given tongue in cheek, there was no name calling, or
worse, no "your kink is stupid" responses. There may have been a disconnect in your post here
versus what you say in your profile, which makes this look more like wank fodder.

In any case, good luck to you and your wife in playing this game, and dont forget to research
the safety factors involved with long term chastity.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 8:35:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jolietmalesub

I thought that I would find some respect on this message board, which is the one of the major tenants of BDSM, but the last few responses have proven otherwise.

I don't know what comic book you read this in, but it isn't true.

Respect on message boards as a tenet (tenants rent stuff) of BDSM, might be in the exit to eden fifty shades of grey edition of family guy with lois and peter, but real world, not so much.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 8:50:45 AM

Delilya

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OP, thank you so very much for the lovely email. It is always nice to hear the opinions of others. While I may be "fat and ugly," at least I'm not reduced to looking for wank fodder on the internet.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 9:00:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jolietmalesub

I thought that I would find some respect on this message board, which is the one of the major tenants of BDSM, but the last few responses have proven otherwise.

I was in the BDSM lifestyle for several years and I never was treated with this kind of disrespect.

People who are truly in this lifestyle are tolerant of other people's desires. They do not discriminate against other peoples' inclinations. It just so happens that my wife is not into d/s, which I explained in my inital post, so we were looking for something a little different. After starting this post, I searched Google and found a number of chastity games like what I described above that people are involved in.

Responses like the disrespectful, intolerant ones above is what gives true lifestylers and true BDSM a bad name.

You losers can write whatever you want. I'm not coming back.

No one has been intolerant of your gaming idea itself.
Games can be fun.

How you presented it did not come across well.
Instead of getting all indignant and trying to chastise us (which again doesn't come across well) you should perhaps inquire about what turned your game idea (again, games are fun) into a turn off.
The common denominator is you.

Can your 'wife' come up with a method to deal with public tantrum-ing?
I suggest no chastity, since chastity is something you want.

Insulting people just makes you look bratty.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 9:01:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jolietmalesub

I thought that I would find some respect on this message board, which is the one of the major tenants of BDSM, but the last few responses have proven otherwise.

I was in the BDSM lifestyle for several years and I never was treated with this kind of disrespect.

People who are truly in this lifestyle are tolerant of other people's desires. They do not discriminate against other peoples' inclinations. It just so happens that my wife is not into d/s, which I explained in my inital post, so we were looking for something a little different. After starting this post, I searched Google and found a number of chastity games like what I described above that people are involved in.

Responses like the disrespectful, intolerant ones above is what gives true lifestylers and true BDSM a bad name.

You losers can write whatever you want. I'm not coming back.

Why would you think this? On what basis do you believe that people are required to automatically respect you just because you like a little kink associated with your cock?

I think you are confusing TOLERANCE with respect. Those two words really don't have that much similarity, so it confuses Me as to why you don't know the difference in the definitions. Hey, I tolerate people's kinks all of the time. Doesn't mean I want them shoved in My face or be coerced into participating in them just because other people like them.

Respect, on the other hand, is a thing you earn. Considering the way you treated somebody via email, you can pretty much forget about having Mine.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 9:07:06 AM

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OMG DELILYA- YOU GOT AN C-MAIL FROM THIS DOOD?!?! I AM JEALOUS!!!!

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ORIGINAL: Delilya

OP, thank you so very much for the lovely email. It is always nice to hear the opinions of others. While I may be "fat and ugly," at least I'm not reduced to looking for wank fodder on the internet.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 9:15:24 AM

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I think there may be two different usages of the word "respect", here.

I prefer the American Heritage Dictionary which happens to be the one that Yahoo Reference provides.

Here are those three definitions:

quote:

ORIGINAL: Yahoo/American Heritage

1) To feel or show deferential regard for; esteem.
2) To avoid violation of or interference with: respect the speed limit.
3) To relate or refer to; concern.

I think the OP may have been using the second definition while most others may be using the first. Fair enough There can frequently be disagreements about how a word is used.

However, I think the OP has a legitimate gripe. He didn't come on here, asking people to bow down (well, he's a submissive) and in a way, his thread is for "wank fodder" but not in the sense that we see other times. He's asking for ideas about helping him and his wife transition from 'nilla (probably her preference) to kink (seemingly his). She's not a dominant but she's willing to indulge him in some things if they make it a game.

One poster said that he wasn't speaking with the "woman's voice". Tough to do. He's not her. According to the OP, she's not very comfortable with WIIWD and he's looking for help with ways to make it more comfortable for his wife. It sounds to me like he is thinking about his wife in this instance since he's not running off and paying some pro domme and leaving his wife at home.

While I think no one was trying to be mean to the OP, I can see where he might have felt that his intent was disrespected if you go by definition two.

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RE: Help me create a chastity game - 9/3/2012 9:16:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JanahX

OMG DELILYA- YOU GOT AN C-MAIL FROM THIS DOOD?!?! I AM JEALOUS!!!!

quote:

ORIGINAL: Delilya

OP, thank you so very much for the lovely email. It is always nice to hear the opinions of others. While I may be "fat and ugly," at least I'm not reduced to looking for wank fodder on the internet.

You should be.... it isn't every day a Lady is serenaded with such eloquence.

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