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nephandi -> RE: Toilet slavery and a Mistress (9/6/2012 7:45:18 AM)
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Greetings
As have been stated everything is possible, however this is a relatively rare kink so you might have to look for a while. I have to add one thing though, I would think long and hard about hiring a pro for toilet play, you would then be into contact with body fluids from a stranger and that is rather risky, I would not do it, I would not risk my health for a kink but it is up to you. I am interested in wet play but would never do it with someone I am not fluid bonded to.
Now even if you are not consuming anything you will be in close contact with the stuff so chances are you can get something in your mouth or nose or eyes by accident and then that is a health risk. Unless you are willing to have unprotected sex with the pro or other Dom you are playing with then you should not do toilet play with them.
Also your kink is completely reasonable it is nothing to be ashamed of and there is nothing wrong with it what so ever the only think I have a problem with is you calling a woman's poop for her essence, my essence is not the leftovers after my body have pulled nutrients out of the food I eat, my essence is my soul, my Spiritual being or if you are not religious my mind and the core of my personality.
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With brown showers- I want to have a Mistress sit over my face-and gently allow me to perform oral upon her backside-and slowly feel her essence leave her body.
This makes me think of a very kinky psychic vampire sucking someone's soul out through their ass which is a quite disturbing image.
Now please do not take the above as an insult for I do not mean it so, it is perfectly okey that you are into toilet play it is just the word essence that bothers be as basically someone's essence mean their essential part, the most important part of them and the most important part of a woman is not her excrements.
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I have never allowed a Dom to take full control of me, I usually end up twisting things in my favor....and she gives up and allows me to indulge.
There has been power struggles...b/w me and the Dom.
Then probably what you are looking for is a Top and not a Dom, a Dominant would want your submission not just to do kinky stuff to you on command, a Top however is a play parter so then you can just plan it out what both of you want to do. The problem is when you say you want a Dom and you really want a Top and then Dominants feel that you are trying to take advantage of them, which understandably pisses many off.
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The confusion on my part is that both the Dom and the Sub are part of a business deal correct? IF the Sub does not express his desires and how he wants them performed to the Dom without requesting, questioning performance and expectations...where is that confusing to you or as an act of disrespect or replaced control?
I think your responses to my posts without merit.
Here is the difference. I am more interested in spanking and whipping than Aswad is, but if I come to him and say. Oh cupcake, you feel Dominant when you whip me so you should do that all the time for that is how you express your Dominance and I want it done this and this and this way very much presented as I would order from a menu at a restaurant then that is not being submissive, that is being Domiant and demanding that he cater to my wishes. Instead when we talk of sex I tell him that I enjoy spanking so he know that, and often he do involve spanking in our play but when and if he desires, I do not order up a spanking like I would a pizza and then tell him he should like it.
Now there is a big difference between going to a Pro who get paid to cater to your needs and having a relationship with a Dom where you actually have to cater to hers. Now one thing you could look for is a Sadistic sub who is willing to be commanded around on the other side of the whip. I am actually both a marchosist and a sadist, but I am submissive so I am (and no not with scat sorry not my thing) but yes I am looking for a Dominant bottom play partner who would like to deliver a laundry list of things he want to have done to him, you could perhaps find a sub like me, but for a Dominant person, male or female they like the subs to cater to their needs and then they might give the sub a little of what he or she want in return as a reward.
If I where rich I would not mind going to a Pro and pay to have my ideal session, but I can not expect that type of things from someone I served as a Dominant, there is the difference. When you are at a restaurant you can expect the chef to make you exactly what you want, but you can not expect your wife at home to do the same, when you pay for it you set the rules, you buy a service that is something different than a relationship and that you have to understand.
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I am unfamiliar with the protocol of the femdom culture!
There is only one universal rule here so it should be easy to learn. Teat a Dominant woman like a person with thoughts, feelings and interests of her own and not like a kinkomat, you also get bonus points if you in addition treat her like a lady, everything else is details, good luck.
I wish you well
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