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RE: A Doms Right to Punish? - 9/6/2012 1:13:37 PM

porcelaine

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Thank you Ms. Red. Nice pic.

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RE: A Doms Right to Punish? - 9/6/2012 5:30:19 PM

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Sure, it's my right to punish her in our deal, but I never have. If it's a life philosophy/values thing, we're very much on the same page.

If she didn't do X right, or promptly, or whatever, that means it's time for a talk, or some drill work, or an adjustment of some kind. I give her a hard spanking 2-4 times a week and that kills a lot of potential conflict dead before it even thinks about starting. She loves and thrives under a little force and I'm happy to give it to her.

In the past, I've had relationships where punishments were hot and useful. It's very partner specific. I prefer a collaborative D/S model to a top down one -partic. with my partner.

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RE: A Doms Right to Punish? - 9/6/2012 6:38:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: SlipSlidingAway
While I know that the punishment dynamic is part of quite a few (probably most) D/s relationships- is there a consensus that, even when it's not part of the usual dynamic in a given relationship, it's still generally considered within a dominant's "rights" as the person in charge?

The dominants rights are whatever the two of you agree they are. Phrases such as "he only has the right to punish you if he's your Dom" are meant as a polite wake up calls to role players who have been getting their relationship advice from porn that step one is going through negotiation and obtaining consent. They are NOT intended to advocate that your dom has the right to do anything to you against your consent.

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