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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/11/2012 8:50:41 PM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		hmm... well, just to a couple of the gender specific ones - I'm so daggone poly that it really does make me happy to watch someone I'm owned by having sex with another, rather a sister or a playmate. But I don't think it would make me very happy if I was held in chasity, which I think some cucks are into, right?

And I love foot worship. Though I admit I've only met a handful of other female subs who enjoy worshiping male feet/boots. well, more with boots than with feet. Which I get. Boots are sexy.

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 2:51:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ARIES83
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I am feeling extra cunty today,

Quoted for funny.
Hmm,
How about washing clothes or doing the dishes.
Very few guys I know like doing that, but
women seem to be doing it quite often.


Not so much doing someone else's housework for them ala mode perverted, which probably seems like work. But doing their own routine housework in a more perverted manner e.g doing their dishes literally chained to the kitchen sink, seems a particularly female fantasy.

Guys seem to prefer sexy stuff instead of work, girls seem to go for a sexy version of the work.

Not sure it extends outside my circle though?

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 3:40:32 AM   
nephandi


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Other kinks, however, seem to be really skewed towards one gender. I've never personally encountered a woman who was interested in scat (at least on the receiving end). I've only come across one woman who was into worshiping someone's feet. I've never met a woman who expressed an interest in the giant(ess) fetish. It tends to be males who want to be kept in chastity or who get some kind of pleasure from believing themselves to be sexually inadequate and unable to please a partner.


I am into begin forced to kiss or lick feet. I hate the term foot worship, I worship Gods not body parts, but to kiss or lick a Dom's feet that for me is a very arousing show of submission. I am not into scat but I am into wet on the receiving end, again not for the wet itself but for the humiliation of it, I am not sure what giant is but if you are thinking about what men have between their legs then I know plenty of women, myself included that find that sexy, I have no interest in chastity belts really but orgasm control and the like is very interesting to me.

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Now I know, before everyone reminds me, that there are some women out there wearing chastity belts and worshiping their partner's feet. And I'm not in any way belittling anyone's choice of kink - I'm a big believer in people finding happiness and fulfillment in whatever way they can. What I really want to know is, why? Is there something in our genetic make up or cultural environment that makes certain kinks more appealing to one gender?


There probably is, but in the examples you have given I have not seen that many which are gender specific. One gender specific kink I have seen is a tendency that quite a few men find it arousing to be forced to wear women's clothing as a form of humiliation, but I have never seen the same with a woman being forced to wear men's clothing and that I think is cultural, a girl who dresses like a boy is seen as a tomboy, she often often viewed as tough and in a positive light, while a man who dresses like a woman is assumed to either be gay or doing a prank and it is viewed very negatively.

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I'd also be interested to hear if anyone can think of any predominantly female kinks - I can't think of any right now.


Well I enjoy breast bondage and that is a little hard for a man to do on the receiving end unless he either have implants or are big enough to have man boobs. One kink I have seen that some Dominant women have that I have not seen that much with men is being groomed, having one's hair brushed, nails painted and so on by the sub. I guess this might be because a rich woman in earlier years often had servants to do their daily grooming.

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 3:46:57 AM   
nephandi


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Alien rape seems bigger with women as participants...

Not a lot of guys say they want to be raped by tentacles.


*Raises hand*

Could I be raped by alien tentacles please, who would not want to be raped by aliens, with or without tentacles. Oh and when we first are on being raped by aliens could ti be a Stargate Atlantis Wraith, or a Transformers pretender? :D

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 3:49:46 AM   
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cuckolding. You don't really see female subs wanting to be sitting on the sidelines watching their Dom fucking someone else.


Ehm...well yes I would and I am a woman, but it is from a submission point of view, the him fooling around with someone else is not sexy, the he being able to do whatever he want no matter what I want however is.

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 4:05:36 AM   
nephandi


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Hmm,
How about washing clothes or doing the dishes.
Very few guys I know like doing that, but
women seem to be doing it quite often.


I know several men who have a housework fetish, I even know of one who only like to be ordered around by a woman and wash her house, no sex no contact, he have a few women he go home to every week just to wash their house and that is it, he wash and then he leaves. I do however think this fetish is more common with woman than men, though I have heard of many male subs who like to wash and clean for their Doms as well.

I wish you well

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 4:30:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: nephandi


I am into begin forced to kiss or lick feet. I hate the term foot worship, I worship Gods not body parts, but to kiss or lick a Dom's feet that for me is a very arousing show of submission. I am not into scat but I am into wet on the receiving end, again not for the wet itself but for the humiliation of it, I am not sure what giant is but if you are thinking about what men have between their legs then I know plenty of women, myself included that find that sexy, I have no interest in chastity belts really but orgasm control and the like is very interesting to me.




Ha no I'm not talking about big dicks, but rather the fantasy of a rampaging 50ft tall woman.

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 4:53:57 AM   
nephandi


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Ha no I'm not talking about big dicks, but rather the fantasy of a rampaging 50ft tall woman.


Ah...then I learned a new term today. Hum...do it count that my first crush, when I was like 7 years old, was Leader One from Challenge of the Gobots? A 30 foot tall alien cyborg. :P

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 2:07:35 PM   
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Well I enjoy breast bondage and that is a little hard for a man to do on the receiving end unless he either have implants or are big enough to have man boobs. One kink I have seen that some Dominant women have that I have not seen that much with men is being groomed, having one's hair brushed, nails painted and so on by the sub. I guess this might be because a rich woman in earlier years often had servants to do their daily grooming.


Master does this from time to time. Sometimes he'll want me to worship his feet or boots. There are times when he wants me to shave his head (even though I'm deathly afraid one day I'm gonna make a big bald spot on him. lol) Sometimes he will want me to shower him,dry off, etc...I give him massages almost every night. I'm sure there are other things I've missed but my brain isn't speaking to me right now.

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 2:09:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nephandi

Greetings

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cuckolding. You don't really see female subs wanting to be sitting on the sidelines watching their Dom fucking someone else.


Ehm...well yes I would and I am a woman, but it is from a submission point of view, the him fooling around with someone else is not sexy, the he being able to do whatever he want no matter what I want however is.

I wish you well


Yes, I like that he does what he wants when he wants but watching him fool around with someone else would tear me apart on the inside and cause my brain to go into analytical overdrive.


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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 9:03:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

Some kinks seem equally popular (or unpopular) across the genders - I've seen both men and women express interests in leashes, flogging, wax play, needles, cages and gags, to mention just a few off the top of my head.

Other kinks, however, seem to be really skewed towards one gender. I've never personally encountered a woman who was interested in scat (at least on the receiving end). I've only come across one woman who was into worshiping someone's feet. I've never met a woman who expressed an interest in the giant(ess) fetish. It tends to be males who want to be kept in chastity or who get some kind of pleasure from believing themselves to be sexually inadequate and unable to please a partner.

Now I know, before everyone reminds me, that there are some women out there wearing chastity belts and worshiping their partner's feet. And I'm not in any way belittling anyone's choice of kink - I'm a big believer in people finding happiness and fulfillment in whatever way they can. What I really want to know is, why? Is there something in our genetic make up or cultural environment that makes certain kinks more appealing to one gender?

I notice that all the kinks I've listed tend to be on the submissive end of the spectrum, but obviously being submissive isn't a predominantly male thing. I'd be happy to discuss any examples of top/dominant type kinks that sway towards one gender or the other.

I'd also be interested to hear if anyone can think of any predominantly female kinks - I can't think of any right now.

Huh, here I was thinking that scat was a largely female kink, which I chalked up to biology, i.e., we think of women as being romantic, but they fucking bleed every month, squeeze entire human bodies out their sweet little cootchies, change diapers on the young, the sick, the elderly, etc., i.e., it does possibly give one a more philosophical view of things, if anything, I think men are actually more sentimental fools.

Brain don't have any genitalia, but I think men are freakier in general, and about weirder shit, women adapt to it, thank god.

Shoes. Women are more likely to obsess over shoes, but I don't know how exclusive that is, I had a shipmate musta had a hundred pair of the fuckn' things, hell, I spent my childhood in ked's, and my toes are all distorted and fucked up, my arches always on the verge of collapse, so I have at least 20 pair myself.

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/13/2012 9:14:47 PM   
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The kink I can think of right off hand that has a vast majority of females and just a few males is "littles".



I do agree that on this particular site there are more female "littles" than males, but in my opinion it isn't dominated by one gender. I personally know 3 male "littles".

Maybe having a female who likes to "play" as a little is more socially acceptable...even in the kink world? I don't know...

I do know that the 3 people that I know keep it pretty close to the chest. Females may be more open about it because...most men wouldn't mind having a cute girl walking around in piggy tails, right?

*I reserve the right to be wrong*



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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/15/2012 4:40:54 AM   
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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/15/2012 4:52:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		But really..guys like to dress up like woman and the whole sissyfication thing..but woman do not like to be manlyfied? lol


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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/15/2012 5:08:28 AM   
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Men often seem to enjoy getting out of bed. Women do, too.

I don't.

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/15/2012 5:28:45 AM   
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I'd also be interested to hear if anyone can think of any predominantly female kinks - I can't think of any right now.


Lesbianism is a female kink. Male subs don't generally get off on lesbianism.

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/15/2012 5:31:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Intellectual


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I'd also be interested to hear if anyone can think of any predominantly female kinks - I can't think of any right now.


Lesbianism is a female kink. Male subs don't generally get off on lesbianism.

Funny you mention that. there is a male sub on FET who started a thread yesterday asking if it was possible a lesbian Sadist would be willing to flog a man.

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/15/2012 11:42:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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Men often seem to enjoy getting out of bed. Women do, too.

I don't.



I love my bed. Sincerely and deeply.

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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/16/2012 4:10:01 PM   
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RE: Gender Specific Kinks - 9/16/2012 4:14:38 PM   
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But really..guys like to dress up like woman and the whole sissyfication thing..but woman do not like to be manlyfied? lol




But then, most of the gay females at work, dress up like guys, but I have nothing against that. I'll dress in woman's things anytime, so they don't have to. Guys things are so BORING and ROUGH ! I much prefer soft and things with a little PIZZAZZ !

Just look at my profile pictures, sub BalletBob

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