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Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 3:22:10 PM

Longerthanyou

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After joining here, and then getting scared, I'm going to actually have my first Male on male encounter and ask your advice on ideas for play.

My strategic goal is to try it out, for mutual pleasure, to see what I like, but without any penetration whatsoever. I have a submissive, on this site, who is willing to provide his cock and balls for me to play with as a training experience. He is aware I've never had a male-on-male encounter before but that I'm curious (and so is he). We're both new to this.

Role playing ideas welcome (if you think that's wank fodder, please ignore). Here's what I told him, as the initial plan. He is to remain silent at all times. I'm not interested, for this endeavor, in him, per se ... but in his cock and balls in particular. I will strip him naked before me and inspect him as I see fit. A few slaps here and there to enjoy him quiver would be in order, before I bind him helplessly hand and foot. His cock would be soft at first, and I'll tease it as I see fit, delighting as it grows in my hands. I'd probably tease him, and even slap it if I want it to soften for me upon command, but for his sake, I'd allow him to eventually cum. Even then, he'll remain bound as I play with it to experiment what it takes to get it hard again. I might even rub the sensitive head while he's cumming just to cause him to squirm in gleeful agony, at the point of orgasmic delight, to complicate his feelings and mine of control and conquest.

To start off, since I've never actually met him, I'll ensure a code of strict silence (it's hard to talk through a ball gag anyway). He is to play the role of newly bought slave boy.

Any ideas for an initial training or experiences that you would want me to know as fair warning before such play (which is all new to me).

Thanks in advance for your courteous and helpful replies.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 3:33:13 PM

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You might want to reconsider the ball gag since he'll otherwise be bound so he can stop things if he absolutely needs to... Anything from finding he's really not comfortable with another male touching him, after all, to things like limbs going numb, needing to poop urgently, whatever that may not be expected.

There are other things in there that don't seem very realistic, but I'll leave it at my main concern.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 3:42:05 PM

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Thanks for the wank fodder - but next time, please be more detailed. I only felt a slight twinge.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 3:45:43 PM

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have him be a garage mechanic, and as he bends over the fender (and changes out your last spark plug and that is the important part) grab the old torque wrench and tighten up his bung real good.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 3:47:15 PM

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Ditto above. He ought to be given some way of signalling to you if there is a problem. After all, this is the first time you've played together. Personally I'd only employ the ballgag when he's not bound hand and foot, and punish (not funish) for breaking the silence restriction unnecessarily. What about a red kerchief in his hand he could wave around? Alternatively, you could leave one of his hands free in order to hold his tongue at all times.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 3:47:45 PM

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I've missed you, Janah.

OP..let his reactions be his. Don't start planning in your mind how HE is going to react. And be careful with the bondage. Emergency scissors, and clear lines of communication.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 4:15:05 PM

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 4:16:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Longerthanyou
Thanks in advance for your courteous and helpful replies.

You're very new indeed here, aren't you?

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 4:17:57 PM

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Look at your and your snark, lovey! Well done!

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 4:24:26 PM

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Our little peon is growing up Hib!

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 4:27:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I've missed you, Janah.

OP..let his reactions be his. Don't start planning in your mind how HE is going to react. And be careful with the bondage. Emergency scissors, and clear lines of communication.

I AM HERE :O)

Been wicked busy - I have a gallery showing going on right now. Taking up a lot of my time.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 4:31:37 PM

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Our little peon is growing up Hib!

No I'm frigging not. *Never* accuse me of that again.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 4:32:52 PM

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LadyPact must be lying comatose in a hospital somewhere. This can be the only explanation.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 4:33:32 PM

LadyHibiscus

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I think she's hiding. Or else got the vapours.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 4:46:34 PM

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 4:58:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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Where, oh where, is LadyPact?

Who loves ya, baby?

OK, OP. Let's talk for a moment about male on male encounters. I do have a different perspective but I think I can give you a few words of advice.

First of all, don't be shocked if your supposed 'submissive' backs out if HE has never been with a guy before. For some, that can be a hurdle even if that person has fantasized about it just like you. Speaking of you, I know you're the domly dom and all, but if you have hesitations when the rubber hits the road, don't be hard on yourself.

The two of you have never met in real life. I wouldn't go for role play. You have to remember that it's not just the scene. There is the aftermath as well. Break the ice in an easy way. Add the bells and whistles later. This time around, just give everybody a chance to be open to the new experience.

Not everybody is ready to do this at their first attempt. Please keep that in mind. As the top in this situation, YOU NEED to give this person a way out if he wants it. Male on male really can screw a person up if they aren't ready to deal with their sexuality. Please be kind.

I'd like to wish you luck in your scene going well. Just let it happen organically, rather than planning everything. There's still an individual attached to that cock that you're so interested in. Don't forget that.

ETA - Y'all let this happen and I got NO mail. WTF?

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 5:02:15 PM

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I really did think that you were banging's Clips head on a desk somewhere.

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 5:22:52 PM

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Nah. Just pulling back.

I figure 90% of what I say around here is considered off topic, anyway. Why make more work for them?

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 5:27:37 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Hm. I thought I was the demon derailer?

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RE: Ideas for my first male on male encounter - 9/13/2012 5:32:27 PM

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quote:

Thanks in advance for your courteous and helpful replies.

My favorite part of your OP was that, a small stroke of brilliance.

Its refreshing to see someone come in and share an intimate experience or plan. If you and your partner are on board for the scene, i.e. of a similar mind and libido, the scene should go well. I don't know the psychological dimensions between you and the sub, but if he is hetero by nature, it will be humiliating for him to be controlled by and responsive to another male. If he is homo-sexual in orientation, you might play on the fact that you are hetero and are not really interested in him except as an object of control. Also, if he is homosexual, he will have urges to touch you and do other things, all of which you will be able to deny.

All that you suggest seems safe, sane, and consensual. You might want to have a finishing protocol after he is released from bondage. An ordered exit from the scene would complement its regimented beginning.

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