Longerthanyou
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Men are...well, not like women. They're not *interchangeable*.
Lesson #1!
Perfectly well spoken!
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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable
If there is no gut response to a partner, male or female, it goes much as you described
Lesson #2!
I was all high hopes up until he opened the door, and then, my heightened sexual level instantly dropped a few notches. His apartment was shoddy. It was a bit dank. Maybe it was as simple as the basal attraction not being there (as folks warned about getting to know him all along).
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
This body is odd and alien!'
Lesson #3:
The funny thing was, his body didn't react as easily as a woman's body does - he was stiff and rigid so to speak - and I kept thinking how much more fluidly a woman handles this. A female sub seems so much more natural with her myriad responses, from her tiny squeals as I lead her by the tits around the room, to the squiggling of her soft ass cheeks as I spank them ... even to the inherent smoothness of her cheeks as I cock slap her small face while she's kneeling blindfolded and gagged, before me. The thousand response cues being different - is what shocked me, I think.
(To his credit, it 'was' his first time too so he may have responded rather rigidly.)
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ORIGINAL: Alecta
you learnt many more things about yourself and what makes you tick
Indeed! But, in a way, I'm relieved that I've finally had a hard cock grow and shrink in my hands, at my will, wholly and undeniably in my total control. That was a good experience, even if the actual cock did not wholly appeal to my tastes.
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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux
*I* respond differently to spanking hard-bodied male bottoms than you do.
To be fair, he did squirm like I expected *after* I increased the hardness level. So, it was just that the gentle suggestive slaps didn't do anything to garner a response. It was especially delightful when he repositioned to avoid repeat areas - and that response was just like a woman's - only it took more to get him there than the ladies do.
And, delightfully, when I leashed his balls to the chair and then pulled him backward 'till it tugged hard on them, he did spread his legs out ever so slightly - and that little feminine widening motion was music to my eyes as it provided the right visual cues that I was expecting.
And, I must say, reaming his ass with the covered dildo was also fun because he actually squirmed *more* than the ladies do given equal size & penetration. In fact, he was way tighter than any woman I have been with - so just the fact I was in control and that I could enter & leave his wet spots at will with my implements was sensual in and of itself. It was satisfying to be in control of all his holes, even if he was missing the most delightful one (not his fault, of course).
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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
Instead of "Cocks are ugly," how about "I didn't find his cock visually appealing and I think mine is." ... Hard cheeks? Play with them, relax him.... I've had to "do" that plenty of times - that can be part of the fun, y'know? He was probably as nervous
I must agree. He 'was' nervous. But at least he was obedient. Recently he wrote to me asking whether I liked it (which I didn't expect as I usually initiate and conclude all the conversations).
It's true that I just didn't find his cock appealing. And, it's equally true that I think mine is especially good looking. But it was my fantasy to control its hardness and softness, and that I was able to do - more so than with mine - as I'd never have slapped my hard cock the way I abused his to get it to soften at my command. Here it was helpful to disassociate the person from the cock - as I didn't worry (too much) about his pain. Otherwise I couldn't do that. He did soften rather quickly, so it only took about fifteen seconds or so of pain to control it - and then it hardened right up in my hands for another round. (That was fun!)
Therefore, I realize I may have been too negative in my initial response ... I guess it was the main disappointment that was weighing on my mind. However, as you note, there were good things that happened.
For one, even with the much-firmer-than-expected ass cheeks, the glowing reddening a few seconds after every stroke was sensual to watch. Likewise, after blindfolding him and cuffing his hands and ankles - just placing the ball gag in his wet mouth, and having him humbly accept the lack of speech was thrilling. I love cinching that ball gag! It's the wanton intrusion into a human body that thrilled me.
Also the visual feeling of power and control hits at that point - when I stepped back after he was wrapped up like a humble slave, arms and elbows behind, ankles firmly bound, collar and chain in place. I even enjoyed leading him about the room like a doggy, knowing his clumsy shuffle was due to the restraints as I guided him with pinches on the left nipple to go left, and the right to go right just as I've often done with a woman's more sensitive nipples. I just had to pinch harder to get the right level of reaction out of him!
Maybe that's one of the lessons also.
The all-so-important human reaction to control seemed to take much more force than I expected, just to get an equal squeal (grunt in his case) out of him. Maybe, while men and women are not interchangeable, the magnitude of the sexuality is - if not just the level of response. I don't know. I'm still mulling this over.
I haven't written men off altogether - and - strangely - the more distance I put into this (time wise), the more it starts appealing to me. THAT, I did not expect either. I thought I had written it off, as I was driving home. I wasn't to the point of chewing my arm off to get out of there - but I wasn't in thrill heaven either. I was happy it was over. So I'm surprised, that, as I think about it, there 'were' D/s elements that I truly enjoyed.
At first I was pondering "if only he was more like a woman in his responses" (younger, smoother, skinnier, effeminate, etc) ... but, with the benefit of your advice and time ... there are quite a few takeaways ... and maybe yet another lesson is that getting the important myriad squirming cues out of men might take (much?) more stimuli than it does for the same delightful set of a thousand response cues in women? This ... I ponder.
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Thank you for the re-telling.
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