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RE: Sadist Master/Dom Question - 10/1/2012 9:01:44 PM

NiceButMeanGirl

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I'm a sadist and my play partner is a total masochist. My submissive less so, although he does like some pain. I will let my sadistic side out in doses that match my partner's masochistic needs/capabilities. I feel if both people aren't having a good time, then what's the point? But I do admit, I absolutely love letting my sadistic side really fly with my play partner. His screams turn me on & make me wet like you wouldn't believe. But no matter what, it's always safety first. I do want to hurt my partner, but I will never allow myself to injure him. I care deeply for both my submissive and play partner and I'd never want to injure them in any way.

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RE: Sadist Master/Dom Question - 10/2/2012 4:52:08 AM

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I'm not sure where I first heard this, but it kind of stuck and it always comes to mind when someone wonders how a sadist can play with a masochist, "not all pain is created equal". A talented top that wants to feed their sadism can find that pain that just fucking hurts and doesn't feel pleasurable. My Lord also like to keep us out of subspace; if we are zoned out then it just isn't as sadistically fulfilling for him. Alandra loves canes, but he knows that if hits a certain way in a few different spots it will just be fucking painful and then he sits back and giggles.

As a note, Alandra and I do not consider ourselves masochists, but a lot of people who have seen us play would disagree. We both like certain sensations and they don't register as pain for us. He just likes to push those sensations until they do become painful

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RE: Sadist Master/Dom Question - 10/2/2012 6:55:32 AM

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Reading this thread.... has helped me a lot. I have come to realize that being a sadist is more than inflincting physical pain... I did not consider that variety.

I dont quite agree with the above. A sadist is all about the pain. However, where people seem to get things crossed is the assumption that a person who is a sadist is always sadistic. I am fucker but I am not always fucking! Secondly it seems people forget that there are many other aspects to a person and these various aspects have impact upon each other.

As a sadist it is about the pain, I love causing it. But so much other aspects of me such as my values, character and personality will affect when I exercise my sadistic desires. I am a sadist, but I am also a Dad, a son a moral person, a prick, a sensitive person, a strict person and it goes on and on. These things affect how my sadist aspects will come out. I am mentally sane and a moral person so it's my sadism will not be exercise upon someone that isn't into with me. Consent does matter and so does enjoyment however perverse it may seem.

Btw, I have never met a person that I couldnt cause pain to.. Be they masochistic or not. The enjoyment of having pain doesnt mean its pleasurable sensations. Pain will be pain and a sadist will love and enjoy causing it. The difference between the masocist and non masocist isnt if one doesn't feel pain but that one will enjoy it and the other will not. In both cases, a sadist can cause the pain to them and enjoy it. The masocist enjoying pain doesn't limit the ability of the sadist to enjoy causing the pain that is enjoyed.

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RE: Sadist Master/Dom Question - 10/2/2012 1:14:59 PM

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Hi Alecta!!

Thank you for your concern... I have been this way since I was little... I have been to psycologist, and have brought this reaction up in speaking with her. She says it is a coping mechanism... I have also had MRI and catscans for head injuries and no tumors...

It is a weird thing and mostly I guess it could be passed off as a nervous laugh. Whenever I was a child, I would giggle and laugh while in trouble and it would infuriate whoever was trying to scold me. It wasn't defiance, I could be really scared and sorry, but that is sometimes not what I expressed. Like if someone were to get angry with me in public... I would probably laugh and address them while kind of smirking... (shocked)... HOWEVER, someone once made a face at pointed while talking to her friends because I was sitting in the car with my baby, and I guess she thought I was going to drive away without putting her in a car seat... well, I absolutley ripped her a new one...I am unpredictable I guess....

I do see a nervous laugh emerging in my daughter a little bit... so, i guess it may be hereditary.....

I don't think I am a Sadist.... I can just relate to mental sadism very well. You, LP and KANA still probably would scare the shit out of me LOL ... but I do understand you guys a ton better.... and I love, love reading and getting to understand this better.

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RE: Sadist Master/Dom Question - 10/2/2012 1:35:45 PM

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I think that sort of thing is less hereditary and more learnt by example. if she sees you respond a certain way in certain situations, she will pick up your mannerisms and do the same. We tend to be more like our parents than we care to admit through subconsciously picking up their habits.

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